PREGNANCY AND GRAD SCHOOL

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ARLENE - November 18

HI, IM THINKING OF PLANNING ON GOING TO GRAD SCHOOL NEXT YEAR, BUT I THINK I MAY BE PREGNANT. I KEEP HAVING DREAMS OF BABIES (GIRLS) AND MY NIPPLES ARE REALLY SORE. HAS ANYONE GONE TO GRAD SCHOOL WHILE THEY ARE PREGNANT? ARE SORE NIPPLES SIGNS OF PREGNANCY?

 

ben - November 18

it okay

 

E - November 18

What type of grad degree will you pursue? PhD, Masters... Also, what field? Programs vary in intensity and if you need to do a postdoctoral position after the degree, plan to be broke for a long time.

 

ARLENE - November 18

IM PURSUING A DEGREE IN SOCIAL WORK. I KNOW I'LL BE BROKE FOR A WHILE , BUT IM JUST THINKING OF HOW DIFFICULT IT WILL BE TO A MOM AND A STUDENT. I JUST DONT SEE HOW I WILL GET AHEAD WITHOUT A DEGREE. WE BARELY MAKE ENOUGH AS IT IS, AND I HATE TEH FACT THAT THE PEOPLE I HAVE MENTIONED THIS TO SEEM TO THINK I HATE CHILDREN, IM SELFISH, AND DONT CONSIDER MY FAMILY, THE TRUTH IS IM TRYING TO THINK AHEAD. THANK YOU.

 

E - November 18

I don't want to say that getting an MA in Social Work is easy but it does not seem far fetched to pursue that degree while pregnant. If you had said a PhD in the Biological Sciences, I would have tried to disuade you, for multiple reasons. Your program will likely be 2-3 years in length and will not require a fellowship upon reciept of your MA. You will not be broke as you would be if you had to do a fellowship. I say go for it if you and your partner are ready.

 

aRLENE - November 18

THANK YOU SO MUCH!, ON THAT NOTE, ARE SORE NIPPLES, A SIGN OF PREGNANCY?

 

m - November 18

Hi Arlene. While I wasn't pregnant IN college, I did have a toddler when I started. You see, I have my license in cosmetology, but when my hubby and I moved to a small town, I realized there was no longer any money in that field for me. So in 99, I started college. I got a Bachelor's in Business Education 3 years later. My son was 1 when I started, so even though I wasn't pregnant while attending college, I did have a small child at home. I graduated in 3 years with honors. So it definitely can be done. But like E said, maybe not as easily for an intensive program. And also, I was getting Bachelor's instead of a post-grad, not ready for that one just yet. (I'm still feeling the burnout of those 3 years, lol) If you have a supportive family that will help out, I think you'll be fine. It does take discipline and responsibility, but if you stay focused, it will be over before you know it! (college, that is) Good luck!

 

arlene - November 18

what did you do about daycare? i wat talking toa co worker and she mentioned that she pays 100 .00 per week for day care!

 

Vicki - November 18

Yes, sore nipples are a sign.

 

arlene - November 18

what are some of the other symptoms?

 

m - November 18

At the time, our daycare was $55/wk. It has since gone to $65/wk. I thought that was high, but wow, $100 is a lot for one week. Do you have family nearby who could maybe alternate keeping the baby on certain days? Just to help out with the expense. Also, some colleges actually have daycare programs for students. You might check into that.

 

arlene - November 18

my mom works and my mother in law although she lives with us is older so i dont know how she would do with a baby. i feel like im drowning in a cup. she worked in the fields until teh day she gave birth, shes a single parent and was/is poor. weare trying to do better in life but she always says that kids are wonderful and not a burden, but i should dedicate my time to my baby, she never had a morgage, insurance, doctor bills, or utility bills for that matter but we do ans she doesnt understand we were always stressing out. i hope im not th only idiot who feels this way. she also mentioned that she wants to be paid if she does take care of my kids. what i fear is taht she will raise, or at least care for my child in her intrest, not mine. my grama cared for me, and her ideas were the opposite of my moms, therefore, my mom had no say in what i was to eat since i was so used to my gramas cooking.

 

E - November 18

Arlene, do not let someone watch your kids if their interests/ideas are not in sync with yours. Part of being a good mother is making sure that your family is taken care of financially and I will stress, taken care of, not overindulged with extras. If you are barely making ends meet now, furthuring your education so that you may provide your chidlren with better opportunities than you had is a wonderful and selfless thing to do. Two years of grad school is nothing!! An MA in social work is not terribly stressful to obtain and will require some papers, some courses and some field work. I wish you the best and know this - we need more social workers to take care of the neglected and abused children in this nation.

 

E - November 18

I also want to say that it hurts many children to watch their parents struggle financially and often, the families who are struggling are at greater risk of splitting up due to the stress that finances can place on a marriage. You are thinking about your family by furthuring your education and do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

 

arlene - November 18

thank you soo much for the advise i feel like im talking to aliens at home because no one understands how i feel both are parents are getting antsy about us having kids, and the constant "when are you having a baby" is getting on my last nerve! they all say a baby should not be planned and all things work out...which is true, so then why do they always tell my cousins not to get pregnant? they are following the rules of not planning. its almost as if they asume that if you are of age, your ready, which i dont agree with there are people i kow whoa re over 40 and would be an awful parent! anyways, i needed to vent. again thank you for the advise...this was a lot cheeper and understandable than to see a shrink! :)

 

E - November 18

Ignore them and take charge of your life:) Let them know that when you want their advice, you will ask for it. The key is to never ask their advice, LOL!

 

Nick - November 18

I think being pregnant while being in grad school may even give you a better focus on your goals and remind you why it is so important to finish school. My sister is now pursuing her masters in social work, so I know that it is pratically impossible to find a decent paying job without a masters degree. i say go for it, good luck and you are setting a great example for your future children!

 

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