This Is So Frustrating

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Nell - February 8

I just found out this past weekend my best friend is pregnant with her 2nd child....... then 2 days ago I find out my little brother who is 17 BTW just knocked up his 16 yr old g/f! I am like OMG! I can't believe my little brother is going to have a child before I do. It is just insane. I told him no matter what I am here to support him. I just do not understand how God would let my little brother have a child at his age but not let a grown woman get pregnant? Any one else irritated by this? Af is due tomorrow and she is going to show and I am going to be a wreck!

 

Saird - February 8

My little sister got preggo at 18, 3 months before I did for my first. I was incredibly upset- in a selfish way. I supported her too, but at the same time, yes it is irritating! DO you feel like AF is coming tomorrow?

 

tiki - February 8

hi nell i understand, i have been ttc for so longggg!!!! it seems every one exept me is getting preggo! even people that seem like they aren't "ready" but when me and dh are ttc are mentally physically finacially ready it doesnt happen! insane!!!

 

Nell - February 8

I really don't know if I feel like AF is coming sometimes I do sometimes I don't... no severe cramping like normal.... usually happens late at night or early morning so then is when I will know.

 

Nell - February 8

ok this is really getting irritating my friend's sister who just had a baby 5 mths ago she is 15... is pregnant again!!!!!!!!!!! UGH!!!!!

 

curly - February 8

nell, your time will come, do you feel pregnant? any symptons?

 

Saird - February 8

Your friends sister doesn't sound really smart.

 

curly - February 8

to be honest, anyone under 18 shouldnt be having children, but thats my opinion

 

Lin - February 8

I'd go even one step further and say that nobody under 25 should be having children - under 18 they shouldn't for the sake of the baby, and under 25 they shouldn't for the sake of themself (even though, of course, they may be a fully capable parent). I don't see why people want to rush into it.

 

Meg - February 8

Lin, just so you know, I am 27, have 3 children (2 before 25) and am exactly where i want to be in life! I am glad for you that you are doing things the way you want, I just wanted you to know that some of us are also doing things the way we want and loving it!

 

anoble - February 8

im going to aggre with meg.... you can not tell people when they are ready to have a child. when its time, its time, weither its planned or not. i have been wanting to have a baby since i was 22 (im 24 now) but havent really put forth the effort until like 7 months ago. I have had 2 (huge) cysts on my overies in the last year that i have had to get removed and part of that made me want to have a child even more before i cant. so Lin, not trying to be rude, mabye you felt you werent ready until your 25 but there are some of us here who want kids before that age and shouldnt be judged in that way. Now as far as being 15, thats a totally different story. there is a big difference in being 15, or 18 and 25. Big difference. Nell, it happens to all of us. But just think you and your brothers kids could grow up even closer because they will be around the same age. so dont think of it as a negitive thing. your blessing will come soon.

 

Lin - February 8

I am by no means telling anyone when they are ready to have a child or when they are not, and I am certainly not judging anyone. You are, of course, not obliged to agree with me. At any rate, I never said that I was not "ready" until I was 25 (most people certainly are by that time) or that other people aren't "ready." I simply think that there are many other wonderful things to do in life before having children, like getting an education and travelling the world. If you can do those things earlier and have kids at an earlier age, then more power to you. If you don't think they need to be done or aren't for you, well then I think you're really missing out.

 

mel06 - February 8

some people are ready before age 25, what makes you think everyone under that age should wait? everyone in life has different goals and aspirations, and some people are actually ready before that age.

 

Frances - February 8

Hey girl. I just want to say that when God pitches you a curveball he's trying to teach you to catch. Your brother's g/f is now learning to catch her first real curveball, and you are learning to catch yours. They are just opposite. Hers is conceiving and yours is not conceiving. Besides, this is going to be a lot harder for her, I know. My little brother's wife is 21 and their second is 6 mos old. Her life will be pretty hard from here on out. I can totally see how it is irritating though! One of my good friends got pregnant on accident. Made me roll my eyes a lot! Oh and by the way ladies, everyone has their own ideal age to have kids based on their own observation and experience. Doesn't mean anyone did it wrong or that anyone is better than anyone else. Just means everyone does it differently. Blessings and baby dust to all!!!

 

LN030905 - February 8

People should have kids when they think they are ready!!!! Look at any situation where someone has had a child and it always works out, not saying it isnt hard, but God makes it work out!!! I got married in Sept and Im only 21, but we have decided to ttc. My dh has a very good job so I am able not to work and just go to school! I cant wait, nor can my dh!!!! Everyone knows when they are ready! How old are you Nell? Good luck everyone!!!

 

Lin - February 8

Yes, and that's a fine decision and yours to make. It does not change the fact that you will miss out on a lot of wonderful opportunities in life that you won't be able to have later or, at the very least, will be orders of magnitude more difficult to realize. What's the rush?

 

Nell - February 8

Well I am actually 21 and I am ready to have my first child. I am not planning on having anymore than one for a few years. A woman knows when she is ready or not. DH and I see it more as it will happen when it is suppose to happen. I was just getting a little jealous seeing as everyone I know is getting exactly what I want. My time will come when it is suppose to come just as all of your times will come as planned. It may not be our plan but God is definitely planning it for all of us. Good to meet you all!

 

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