To New People Looking For Answers

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SugarPie - February 22

Please don't take what I'm about to say as being an a**hole or a b*tch. There are so many posts and so many of us looking for answers that more often than not, we're always posting without reading at least a page (if not two) full of posts. Can you do us a favour and try to use the search bar at the top first to find your answers, and if not.. then post your question, because a lot of people who are posting aren't getting answered because a lot of us are constantly typing out the same thing. And it isn't that we're trying to be rude, but the repit_tion can get old, esp. with a bunch of hormonal women. I'm only saying this because I know a lot of you have legit questions and concerns and when you don't get an answer you become a bit upset and frustrated (which is completely expected). So, hopefully that will help make the process to get the answers you need a bit easier for you and for us. Best of wishes with loads of baby dust!****

 

tiffani - February 22

I understand and agree with what you're saying, but it doesnt' take a psychic to figure out that you're going to get some backlash. Brace yourself girlfriend. :o)

 

SugarPie - February 22

Girl.... don't you know? *smile* I'm so waiting for someone to cuss me the hell out. I just see so many people's post going unanswered and I know it's adding to their frustration when no one answers them. And honestly, a lot of the questions are repet_tive so if they can just take a few moments out and try to familiarize themselves it would totally make things easier and get them answers faster. Arg.. let me go get my armour on. And since I'm going to get cussed out anyway.. can people make their t_tles more clear for their posts... that way we can get you answers faster?

 

izzy - February 22

i'm totally with you sugar pie.

 

KEEKEE - February 22

HI, SUGARPIE I AM NEW HERE. I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE SAYING, BUT EVERY WOMEN'S BODY IS DIFFERENT AND NEED DIFFERENT ANSWERS TO THEIR QUESTIONS. EVERYONE HAVE A RIGHT TO ASK A QUESTION NO MANNER HOW SIMILAR THEIR QUESTIONS ARE TO SOME ELSE QUESTION. THAT IS WAY THIS IS CALLED A FORUM. WELL I THINK A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE GOING TO BE UPSET WITH YOUR STATEMENT. WELL GOOD LUCK!!!

 

~m~ - February 22

She isn't saying that you don't have a right to post. She is only suggesting that you check out a few t_tles first to see if someone has already asked that question. She's right, when us "veterans" see the t_tles "Am I pregnant"...... "what are the signs"....... "how far along am I"..... etc., we know that we have answered those same questions tirelessly forever. It is to the benefit of the "newbies" to check things out first, otherwise, their question - validated as it may be - may go unanswered! It's just a suggestion..... and a helpful one I might add!

 

KEEKEE - February 22

CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONE? GOOD LUCK !!!

 

SugarPie - February 22

KeeKee: my post was for the benefit of people who want answers and aren't getting a d__n thing but frustration, because people like me are overlooking looking them. And people are overlooking them, because we read things like: "HELP ME!!!! PLEASE!!!!" or " I'm 14 and Pregnant". People are only going to answer for so long, before they say "screw it" and not answer. So with me "keeping it real" and asking people to first go and read other people's posts where we're spending 15-30 minutes trying to answer someone... it would save you and any other "new" person a hell of a lot of time and frustration in the long run. And honestly did I say anything about people not having a "right" to post? And if people get upset, then oh well. My post was said with extreme sincerity and kindness. I'm simply tired of reading people telling other posters that we're selfish b*tches and calling us every name in the book, because we aren't answering them. When we've answered 15 women in one day with the same issues.

 

chriss - February 22

forgive me but! Everyone on this board is scared, frustrated, impatient and feeling alone. I am a newbie up until a few days ago and even though I read postings backwards of a few days, I still NEEDED to know. I wanted to someone/anyone to answer my question about me! I understand both sides, but everyone needs to have a little bit of patience, remember we are ALL under a certain amount of stress, some more than others and we are supposed to stick together here! This forum is for support, so let's support each other even if it means repeating ourselves a few times. For those of us who have husbands/boyfriends/girlfriends we should be used to this by now!!! :)

 

SugarPie - February 22

And KeeKee, next time can you read my post objectively and not see me as attacking you or any other new person, but simply trying to be helpful so we can get people answers and in a much faster fashion? I think you simply read my post "To All New People" and took it as me singling you out and trying to be verbally abusive with that was completely not my intent whatsoever. And yes, I am hormonal, but I'm not trying to be rude. I'm trying to be honest to save time and so that we all can make each other feel a bit more safe and less frustrated in this hellish process. Thanks for understanding.

 

~m~ - February 22

KEEKEE, if you want us all to get alonG, then bend over and pull the corn cob out of your a__s! You're the one who lashed out first!

 

Mel - February 22

Okay, i can see how it may bother you to see the same things over and over agian, but hundreds of diffrent people come to this website, And its not that they dont know they can look it up (that the obvious ur on the net right?) But the fact of having someone talk about there experiences and giving you advice straight to you is alot better to us hormonal women than reading it off a Web Page lol.... But i see where your coming from but its not just about finding out, its also about getting the support and the comfort that someone else knows what your going thru when you post a question. And there is nothing wrong in you saying that sugar pie :) Babydust to all of us Hormonal Women!!!

 

SugarPie - February 22

Chriss: Oddly, I don't think you read one of my posts where I told someone else to ask you for specifics when I was responding to them. I told them that you seem to be really knowledgable in the area of ovulation and so forth. I had no idea that you were new. In any event, my post wasn't to place division on the board, but rather as a means to get people their answers much faster. Sadly, it appears that you're not understanding this isn't about a need for patience, but rather a means to getting people like you who really really needed some attention the attention that you greatly deserve. The post isn't about people like you. It's about people who get ugly and accusatory when the general population on this board aren't answering them. Best of luck.

 

~m~ - February 22

SugarPie, it seems as though some people can't just sit back and take your post for what it is...... a simple helpful suggestion. So screw 'em! It was a very nice gestrure on your part! Let them ask the same d__n thing over and over, without response..... their loss!

 

SugarPie - February 22

~ m~ You CMTFU. Seriously you always have and always will. That said, Mel.. I totally see what you're saying. I think though that people don't understand the intent behind what I wrote isn't that I'm sick of seeing people posting questions, but rather I'm sick of people's posts not getting answered. It's bad enough to deal with the medical community but when you come to a board seeking help and not getting any response can send a woman over the edge. And so that's why I wrote what I wrote so that people can get their answers faster and so that we will feel more compelled (on a whole) to answer them. Does that make sense? That's all I was saying.. perhaps I could have found an easier way to type, but well.. this is me. Sorry to offend.

 

mel - February 22

Ladies! Its not that Sugar Pie is trying to single any body out or basicly say screw you, she is say this in your benefit as well so more people can get answers. I agree but then disagree with her, theres no need to turn b___h on sugar pies post, Its Legite!

 

chriss - February 22

Sugarpie, thank you for directing people to me and no I haven't read every post, only those that I am hoping can help me in some way and if possible I try to help others. I asked ONE question on this board and got one reply from some kind hearted soul. I am new to the post, but because I have been ttc for seven months now, I have read and learned alot and if anything that I know will help someone else, than that is great. I am not agreeing or disagreeing with anything here, just saying that we are all looking for answers, some get them and some (like me) don't. very sorry if I've offended anyone, it certainly was not my intention.

 

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