When Is It Too Late

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John F. - January 22

My girl friend is pregnant, and we have decided to have an abortion, but we are unsure of when it will be too late. How far along do you have to be before it's too late.

 

stephy - January 22

u can have an operation in your frist trimester.. (at least 4 weeks) or u can go for the abortion pill... and u'll have to go in tot he clnic for a shot and they give u a pill to take home.. then 6 days later u eat the pill... Anyways... i heard they don't do abortion until at least 4 weeks.. because.. they can see the fetur until 4 weeks (even with sono) so whether u go got the abortion pill or abortion u ahve to be at least 4 weeks... and well.. abortion pill works up to 9 week pregranancy... and first trimester operation abortiong oes up until u are 12 weeks.. and it's better the sooner you do it.. ANyways that's all i know.. you'll want ot check with a clinic

 

Anon - January 22

I know that the decision you have made is yours and your girl friend's to make. But PLEASE think more about this. This is a life in the beginning stages of forming that was created by you and her together. THINK about it: this is a little piece of you and her blending together to create a human being in both of your images. Don't mean to preach - just please think about it more. Have you considered adoption? There are so many men and women out that who cannot conceive children of their own, who'd love to a child that whose parents just weren't in the right situation to keep the child.

 

ekay - January 22

Go to adoptiontv.com and go to abortion photos. Just my opinion AND I completely 150% agree with Anon. You g-friend should consider herself lucky-there are so many women plagued by repetetive miscarriage and the inability to conceive. You two made your bed-so why not lie in it a while. I am not saying keep it because you obviously don't want it-but consider adoption. That, in my opinion, is one of the bravest, most selfless things any woman can do. Good luck.

 

Maeven - January 22

Hey John, I personally could never have an abortion BUT it is your decision (well, yours and your girlfriend's of course!) and I am so sorry there are some people who would rather fill you with guilt than help you. This must be a very difficult time for you both and I'm sure you have thought long and hard about this. as you have chosen abortion as your choice you have normally got up to week 12 to have this done. That is the last week of the 1st trimester as Stephy indicated. Check with your local clinic or GP of course and give your girlfriend all the support she needs as I'm sure this will be a very hard situation to put herself and yourself through. It's hard but just try to block out the messages telling you not to kill a 'life'. It is an embryo then a fetus. An embryo is a collection of cells, it is not yet a baby. I couldn't do it cos I want to be a mum fairly soon but I reckon if it's right for you then that's not my place to harp on at you about pro life matters. Good luck to you both, I hope everything is alright for you. Also, do NOT visit that site suggested by ekay, don't torture yourself. I hate the way people trivialise adoption as if it's easy to say 'I'm not gonna keep my baby, you have it'. My partner is adopted as is my best mate's dad, believe me they both have not accepted this well. Both feel they were unwanted. It's not a decision to be taken lightly, adoption is a brave act but it takes a very strong woman to go through the emotional pain it could cause. xxx

 

Sue - January 22

Ekay, you are way out of line

 

??? - January 23

I dont think Ekay was out of line. They were just stating their opinion and trying to help. I agree--abortion is wrong. How can you kill something you have created between the two of you? There are so many people who cant get pregnant and want to adopt. I know its an emotional attachment to the mother, but maybe it changes their mind on keeping the baby, or maybe they grow from the experience. I just dont see how you as a couple could grow from having an abortion. It's murder! Please consider adoption. I know youre under alot of pressure and stress and I'm so sorry for you all. I'm praying for you and your decisions you'll be making within the next month or so. Good luck!

 

ALICIA - January 23

I KNOW OF WOMEN HERE IN CHICAGO WHO ABORT THERE BABY AT 5 MONTHS ITS A PROCEDURE BUT IT ALSO COST MUCH MORE. YOU NEED TO REALLY THINK HARD ABOUT IT BECAUSE ITS A MEMORY THAT SHE WILL NEVER FORGET AND YOU DONT WANT HER TO BLAME YOU IN THE FUTURE. IF MY GUY TOLD ME TO GET AN ABORTION I WOULD TOTALLY IGNORE HIM BECAUSE A BABY IS A MIRACLE, AND IM PROUD TO BE 11 WEEKS

 

John - January 23

I thank all those who understand what position I am in. 20, with a 17 year old pregnant girlfriend. Those of you that say it is wrong but I know a lot of adopted people and they resent it, they feel unwanted and hate almost every person that ever tries to get close to them. Plus I know from experience that it is pure hell growing up without both you parents raising you. Aman in my postion would have to go away to work and I would miss every important thing that could ever possibly mean anything to a father. So once again, thank you to stephy, sue and maeven, the rest of you can all go to hell.

 

Wendy - January 23

John, it is you and your girlfriends decision. People will always preach however they only people that can decide what's best is you and your GF.. I think you coming on here is a mature and brave thing to do and believe you are thinking of what's best for you and your GF and the baby.. Good luck to you both, not a good decision to make... For all the preachers out there... yes have your opinion however i have been TTC for 5 months but will not tell people what they decide is the wrong thing to do.. there are enough unwanted children in the world and what they are doing is a brave decision.. so stop preaching and help these people hey..

 

ABORTION IS MURDER - January 23

john, you and your girl should go to hell,you are murderers,i hope your girlfriend can never have kids again as she doesnt deserve them,neither of you do,take ekays advise and see what you are doing to your poor child,child killers!!!!

 

kat - January 23

havent people heard of contraception? and taking responsibility for there actions? i agree with what ekay said............

 

wendy - January 23

OH MY GOD ... Honey why don't you go and preach on a street!!! What you posted is just so ignorant!!! If you ACTUALLY knew anything about it darlin' it is not murder as if they do it early it is not actually a baby yet.. so why don't you just go away leave these people in peace.. and I pray to god you don't have children as they will grow up as sad and shallow and horrible as you.. JOHN ignore this b___h

 

ABORTION IS MURDER! - January 24

it may not actually be a baby,but each and every day there are changes and development towwards a babys life forming.wendy check out the abortion web and take a look at theose pics that ekay said about and if you still think its right then you are sick in the head! how do you work it out that im the b___h when im not the one that created a life through irresponsibility then decide to just use abortion as a form of contraception. and my children will just know right from wrong,its not a case of being b___hy. if you lot want to discuss how abortions are ok then maybe you shouldnt post on a pregnancy forum where so many women are desperate to have a baby and dont want to hear how easy it is for people to just get rid of something so special.

 

Wendy - January 24

For one use your name and not a STUPID alias... Yes this is a forum for woman trying to fall pregnant.. However this guy came on here asking for help and then all he gets is narrow minded people like yourself accusing them of murder.... That comment is out of line in my books, ask anyone who has actually lost someone to actual MURDER big difference honey... So you think it is OK for another child to be bought into the world that isn't really wanted.. Oh like we don't have enough at this time... Why don't you crawl back into your narrow minded world and go hang out at an abortion clinic with those ridiculous signs...

 

Tossie - January 24

I agree with you Wendy, people like this are a waste of space and a waste of time. and John ignore the comment from this woman she has no idean what she's on about. and Wendy agree people who have lost someone to murder would find her comments an insult... and again agree with Wendy you are a narrow minded bitter old BITCH.. so leave off

 

wendy(you wanted my name so th - January 24

i aint your honey or darlin! we have different opinions and i dont see what your problem is,every one who comes on here want opinions,if not they'd be going to see a doctor for facts.my opinion is very different from your lets just leave it at that,you think im out of line,and i think abortion is out of line.end of!!!!!!

 

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