Who Is PromiseJubilee

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Keeli - February 21

I was initially drawn to her posts on the 'teen pregnancy' and 'single pregnancy' pages since the posts are about adoption. I'm in the process of adopting (I tried and failed ttc with PCOS), thus my immediate attention. I was very taken back when I saw that Promise was soliciting these teens and single moms-to-be to see if she could adopt their baby. I did a search on her name and I've found several more posts like this where she asks people to adopt their unborn baby or offers her private email address to someone who is worried about being pregnant. I've seen some posts where she says she is only in her early 20s, and that she doesn't have the money for court costs associated with adoption. Why on earth is someone who is not yet financially sound wanting to adopt a child? Something just doesn't add up here, and I've found a post dated February 2006 soliciting for a baby, which means she has been at this for a year. Does anyone know who this person is? Is she actually trying to get pregnant, or is she on here just to solicit a baby? Does this board allow such solicitations?

 

babyluv - February 21

I believe that she is ttc and on the New Day thread.

 

jessicaspatherapist - February 21

i can't believe the board allows this to go on. i'm a member of adoption.com because i'm half-adopted and it clearly states in their terms of service that ANY form of solicitation will result in being permenantly banned from the forums. keeli, i agree, its very disturbing and gives potential adoptive mothers a bad reputation to people not involved in adoption.

 

crackersforme - February 21

I know this doesn't really pertain to the subject, but how do you search through old posts??

 

Keeli - February 21

Go to the top of this page where the Search is. Type in some key words you want to look for, and click on Search.

 

crackersforme - February 21

Thanks Keeli....I never thought that was for the 'forum'. Learn something new every day!!

 

LN030905 - February 21

Keeli, I talk to Promise on a particular thread on this site, and I dont know anytihng about her doing any kind of soliciting, but I do know that she is a very sweet and loving person...and would not mean any disrespect to any of those girls, nor would she ever try to guilt them or cox them into giving her their child..lol. She actually hasnt been online for a while, I think she is gone somewhere with her church..I dont know what exactly was said, but Im sure she did not mean any harm. If I was interested in adoption, this would be a good place to start, I would think..lol..of course, I had never heard of any rules or anything..but anyways, I just wanted ya to know that she is a very sweet natured person who wants to have a child as badly as the rest of us on here do.

 

jeanette - February 21

Promise has been a friend of mine on another thread for a very long time. I am not going to give my opinion on the matter unless she personally asks me what I think....until then its none of my business. But I will say, if she is going about things the wrong way, give her your opinion & she will figure it out on her own and its not really fair to have someone going from forum to forum stalking and bashing her like there is a personal vendetta involved. She is a wonderfully supportive person and a joy to talk to 100% of the time. Maybe you think you were doing the right thing here...but there are many who will come to her defense. If you dont like how she went about it, then tell her about it and leave her alone. Plain and simple.

 

Keeli - February 22

Uh, I think you ladies need to read the following. This was posted on the Single and Pregnant forum in late February 2006 under a forum t_tled "Should I abort or keep my baby". Promise writes: "ADOPTION! There are SOO many couples out there that can't get pregnant and are so desperate for a baby. I truly believe that abortion hurts YOU more than it would ever hurt anyone else. If you're interested and live near California, my email is (email removed by Keeli to protect Promise's privacy)"

 

Keeli - February 22

On the Teen Pregnancy forum in a thread called "anyone live in california", a young girl posted "im 16, im 20 weeks and 3 days pregnant. just want to talk to someone". That was it, no talk about giving up the pgcy or anything! Then Promise writes: "He Amber, I live in california... the valley. Near Modesto. I miscarried at 9 1/2 wks though, but I'd still love to talk with you. my email is promie at (private email again removed by Keeli)."

 

Keeli - February 22

Another one on the Teen Pregnancy forum under the t_tle "What am I supposed to do???", a young teenager has told her Dad about her pgcy, but is worried what will happen when her mom finds out. Promise writes: "daisy, I remember when I was trying to tell my mom I was pregnant (I miscarried), my BOYfriend was the one that was freaking out! I just wrote a letter. Of course, I was a nanny at the time and didn't live with her, so I know that must be different... anyway, all I wanted to say was if you wanted to email me and talk about it or anything, my email is (private email removed by Keeli)."

 

Keeli - February 22

In February 2006, on the Single and Pregnant forum, under the t_tle "Not sure if I should abort", Promise writes: "First of all, having a boyfriend that is so possessive that he is glad he got you pregnant is a pretty big red flag, relationship-wise. Second, that's a good way to look at it, that you're fortunate you can even get pregnant. My husband and I have been trying for almost a year and haven't been able to. If you aren't sure you can handle a baby, but don't really want an abortion (which is totally understandable, what a horrible thing to have to put yourself through), you should talk about adoption. If you are interested, my email is (private email removed by Keeli). Good luck, and really spend some time thinking about it before you do something that may really harm you."

 

Keeli - February 22

Under the Signs of Pregnancy forum in a thread called "I think I may be pregnant but I'm not ready!" Promise writes: "Hey there honey, I just wanted to hop in here and ask where you're from? I'm from California, and I've been through something similar, if you want to talk, feel free to email me at (private email removed by Keeli). Everything is going to be okay, even if you are pregnant, you sound like you have a level head on your shoulders, you'll figure it out. If I can help you I will. Oh, and my name is Promise."

 

Keeli - February 22

The one that initially caught my eye was one in the Teen Pregnancy forum, in a thread STARTED by Promise and it was all about her asking to adopt one of their babies. Luckily that one was removed, since enough teenagers complained about it. There is a similar one posted in the Single and Pregnant forum, though where Promise posts: "Hey ladies, if this is way out of line, feel free to chew me out and make me leave, but I've been looking into open adoption all day and I just wanted to post a bulletin in here for any girl that's pregant and doesn't think she wants to raise the baby. I am an adoptive mother looking for a birth mother. I live in mid-California and I am open to any kind of contact that the birth mother wants, pictures, letters, play dates, etc. If there is any woman on here that is interested, my email is promie at gmail dot com Thank you!"

 

Keeli - February 22

I'm sorry if this is offending some folks that have talked a lot with Promise, but doesn't this look like solicitation to you? The fact that Promise is trying to engage in private conversation with these women - My BIG RED FLAGS are flying just with that alone! For those of you who talk to her regularly here, has she ever given you her email and asked that you talk to her privately before?

 

LN030905 - February 22

Good morning Keeli! I really dont see anything that seems that unordinary from Promise...she was just wanting to be there for some of the girls..it isnt unusual for ppl to give out their email addy to ppl on here so that they can chat. Im sure she was only trying to help. Like I said before, Im sure she didnt see any harm in what she was posting. We all know how it feels to want a child, and it seems like she was trying to let the girls know she was there to talk..but, Im sure she doesnt realize her posts are being taken as offensive. I agree with Jeanette,maybe let her know this is how you feel. SInce you have her email address, you could always email her, instead of continuing this post.

 

Renea - February 22

Hey Kelly---from what I can see based on the rules of the forum, solicitation is not allowed (Post any unsolicited advertising, promotional materials or any other form of solicitation without the express permission of Pregnancy-Info.net). I can see what may have been implied by her reaching out to those who are unsure about the future with having a baby, but she didn't "solicite" them. Now the one that is under the single and pregnant one is a solicite in my opinion. And she offended quite a few people there. Maybe she doesn't realize that she isn't supposed to do that. Have you tried sending her an email and letting her know? I would start there and see what happens. Glad to hear that things are going great and you are now "paper preggo". congrats. Things here are pretty busy. Connley is into everything--he turned 11 months today.

 

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