Abortion Or Embarrassment

15 Replies
hw - August 30

Hi. I am 34 yrs old a divorced mother for 6 years with two boys 7 and 10. My boyfriend of the last year also divorced (38 yr old) with two girls 7 and 10. I just found out I am pregnant I told him and also told him that I want to get an abortion so that I don't force him to stay with me and also I don't want to be single with three children. I don't really want an abortion but also don't want to face the embarrassment that this will bring....how have others handled this?

 

Sam - August 25

Hi-personally i would'nt have an abortion as i have a very strong opinion against abortions.But its your choice-if you dont want to have an abortion then dont have one-if your partner loves you then he will respect your decision of keeping the baby..how far along are you??

 

SaRaH - August 25

Does he want any more kids? Have yall discussed that? How did he react when you told him that you are gonna have an abortion? I am also against it! BUT it is your choice!! good luck!

 

Courtney - August 25

Hi, i think that you need to look at the quality of life for your unborn baby, your 2 children and yourself., if ou were to be a single mother of 3 children. If you think that it would cause you all more hardship than it is worth, then perhaps you should have an abortion. I am neither for or against abortion. I think it depends on the situation and the people involved. But remember, QUALITY of life is what you want for yourself and your children. Good Luck in making your decision :)

 

Marie - August 26

Put your baby before your embarra__sment and you won't regret it ever. I was married and pregnant with another mans child. I went from being a stay at home mom to a single mother looking for a job. God helped me through the entire process and now I am happily remarried. I look at my son every day and can't imagine how the thought of "abortion" ever crossed my mind. It doesn't matter what others think of you...what matters is what God thinks of you because we are only on this planet for a short time but eternity is forever. Time will pa__s and your true friends will stand by your side no matter what. The other friends weren't really your friends anyway. Once the baby is born everyone will focus on the beauty of the baby not what you did. You can do it without your boyfriend as you are raising your children already as a single mother. Please don't abort a gift from God. He will carry you through!

 

MICHELLE - August 28

I WAS A SINGLE MOM OF 2 AND THAT ALONE AT FIRST WAS EMBARRASING BUT AS I GOT A LITTLE OLDER I REALIZED THAT THESE PEOPLE WHO JUDGE ME CANT MAKE OR BREAK ME, ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE US YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO PLEASE EVERYONE AS LONG AS YOU CAN LOOK YOURSELF IN THE EYE AND RESPECT WHO AND WHAT YOU ARE THEN F EVERYONE ELSE AND THIER OPINION,JUST HOLD YOUR HEAD UP HIGH

 

Jen - September 30

ADOPTION!! This about open adoption....hey I want to adopt, lol. Please email me [email protected]

 

E - October 18

HW - Remember that you are a strong woman and not a single person's opinion of you matters. You will have to follow your heart and this is not the best place to be asking advice about abortion. I would talk with a pregnancy counselor who is not biased so that whatever you decide reflects your wishes and strengths, not others. Good luck.

 

Kathy - October 18

Who the hell uses the work tool anymore??? Talk about insenstive, you are wrose then the girl who wants to adopt. I but up may baby for adoption and I still see my baby and it's great. Let hw figure out whats right for her, she is a grown woman.

 

mel - October 22

Why are you embarra__sed? You're not exactly sixteen and you've been in a relationship with this guy for a year, is it your age? You're far from over the hill! How about asking yourself what YOU really want, screw the embara__sment. Do what's right for you. You're an adult and can make an adult decision on this.

 

AM - October 26

you should not be embarresed. You are two adults. You should of been using pertection in the first place if you did not want another child. But now you are pregnant. If you dont think you will have him in your life at all I would consider adoption but if you dont want your children to be bothered by this consider an abortion. All these church people need to let you do what you want. I am catholic and I believe it is your body and you do what you feel is right. I would really hate for there to be another unwanted child in this world that others have to support on the system. This child will hurt in the end. You two are grown acting like two little kids. Good luck and God loves you either way so do what you feel is the right thing and remember your children will pay for you actions by being teased. Good luck

 

liz - October 26

ok u shouldnt have an abortion...my sister said that she wanted an abortion but my mom wouldnt let her have on then we she had the baby she was soo happy and couldnt belive that a at point in her life that she wanted to give the baby up..and she doesnt have anyone to help her and shes doing just fine and if ur man really does love u then we will let u have the baby..u got prenget for a reason...so keep the baby

 

Carleen - November 9

My question is why are you calling a child, an innocent thing, an embara__sment??

 

Sarah - November 18

I am feeling the same way as you. I am 17...almost 18 and I've just found out I am pregnant. I am trying to decide what to do about it. Honestly i dont think i could live with myself if i killed an innocent baby but i dont want to go through the embarra__sment of going to my senior prom and graduation and everything with a big belly!Be thankful that you are 34 and not my age. I would advise you to keep the baby because you will have to live with the guilt if you have an abortion. Good luck!

 

Kay - November 20

Hi, I I am feeling the same way as you. i am 34 with three kids and am pregnant now from my bf. I am in delima not knowing what to do. I am against abortion but I don't seem to have any other option either. I wish someone would want to take my baby for adoption.

 

E - November 20

Kay - Post your adoption wish to "JEN" on this forum. She is looking to adopt and she has adopted children already. You will find no shortage of families that want to adopt in the US. Best wishes:)

 

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