Feeling Boxed In Pregnant With First Child

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scared27 - July 3

Here Is my story. I'm 27 years old. I am now 16 weeks pregnant with my first child. The father and I are not together, and thats where my story begins. I am currently pregnant by my ex. We were together for 7yrs.However he and I never stop seeing each other. I found out that I was pregnant in April, and at first he seemed okay with it. Now he doesnt talk to me at all. He has never been to a prenatal apmnt with me. I ask and he never come through for me. I live in a state without my family, and with a handful of friends. I have seizures, and I don't have a strong support system to help me here. I do however have a decent job, and know that I will be able to provide for my child alone. However it doesnt stop my heart from hurting. I never expected him to turn his back on me the way he did. I'm not sure if he's just being a coward about the situation for now, or if this is how it's going to be. I find myself crying and praying to God alot, asking if I made the right decision to have the baby. I've been pregnant before, and had an abortion, and I couldnt bring myself to do it this time around. I'm 27 I know what could happen when you have unprotected s_x, so I have no excuse for my actions. However I'm over here going through the trials and tribulations of being pregnant while he's off just enjoying life, without thinking of his responsiblity.Which p___ses me off! who wouldnt want to experiance this blessing? Mind you he has no other children. This is his first as well. I live very close to his family which doesnt make it any easier, to see him come visit them, and don't stop by to see if I'm okay, or if I need anything. A big part of me is telling me to move from where I'm currently living, but I'm not sure if I'll find something that will be in my price range with all the ammenities that I have at my current apartment. Plus with the baby coming I have to buckle down financially. To be honest if I could find a rock big enough I will live under it.

 

Grandpa Viv - July 5

Count your blessings, my dear. You are at the right age for your first child, you have a job and a stable place to live. Don't think of running away or hiding under a rock. Hold up your head and greet the world with good cheer. He is the one who needs to feel shame. After 7 years you must have a relationship going with his family, and I would think it appropriate to maintain it. The grandparents at least will want to be involved. I pray for your future happiness with your decision.

 

ButterflyAC19 - July 21

I know exactly how you feel, I'm 27, just had my first child, and the father took off the second he found out I was pregnant. I won't pretend it was easy doing it by myself, or that I'm not angry, because I am. That being said my daughter is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and I feel sorry for her father because he is missing this wonderful gift that I've been given. You can do this, you just have to believe in yourself.

 

purecha - July 26

I completely know how you feel. I am 9 months pregnant and have done this single all the way. the faher and i broke up before i discovered i as pregnant. we talked about getting back together twice but he just kept running away and it never happened. My first appointment with obgyn my x told me he would come he avoided talking to me until 2 am that morning and he never showed for the appointment. Its not easy, but everytime you feel lonely and sad try to think about your child and even years down the line the love youll share with them. remember sometimes the best father for your child isnt the biological one. hopefully once your child is born they will have a relionship, but just remember that. try to count your blessing... a great job thats good. Your 27... Im 32 and this is my first too! i figure i aint getting any younger. thank the Lord for the ability to be a mother. this tuff time will pa__s and soon our children will be here sharing our love.

 

purecha - July 26

Also try to connect even if by phone with as many of your friends and family that are supportive of your pregnancy. it really helps espiecially when your single... my best friend flew over 1000 miles away to see me and threw me a baby shower. The love and support was amazing and really helps.

 

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