How Many Women On This Board Over 30

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ctgirl - February 22

Hi girls. I have posted a few times. You will see my story under "12 weeks pregnant..engagement off...dating someone else". I love reading the forum. But see that alot of girls on here are under 30, or even 20. How many 30 and over's are on here? Tell us your strory....

 

LL - February 22

I'm 32, will be 33 in June, and I'm 17 weeks pregnant with my second child. My first child, my daughter, is 11 soon to be 12. I feel like I'm starting all over again with this pregnancy and not in the best of circ_mstances but I'll make it. I actually read and responded to your post. My 11 year old is having a little difficulty accepting my pregnancy, she thinks I wont love her the same, although I've tried explaining to her that she's my first and she’s so special that I'll always have more than enough love for her and this baby. I'm sure it will get better in time. I have a second ultrasound on March 1st and I'll find out if this baby is a girl or a boy. I'm hoping for a boy since I already have a girl but as long as it's healthy I'll be happy. I've gained 5lbs so far and I can tell I'm pregnant but nobody else can yet. At my first appointment on Feb 2nd I hadn't gained any weight but just over the past couple weeks I've gained the 5lbs......I've been so hungry lately. I’m suppose to break the news of my pregnancy to my boss today, if I can keep up my nerve. I’ve only been at my current job since October so I’m still fairly new and not sure how he’s going to take the news but what can I do. Enough about me......how is everyone else doing?

 

ctgirl - March 4

Hi LL. Did you tell your boss? How did everything go? DId you find out what you are having? Sorry it took me so long to respond. For awhile, I could not come to the site b/c everyone seemed so judgemental and mean. I like the posts today. Hope you are doing well!

 

Krista - March 4

I am 38 and 4 months pregnant. This was a total shock as I was told that I was infertile and I was supposed to have a hysterectomy. Funny how things work out huh? So, anyway, Dad-to-be doesn't want to have anything to do with me or the baby and certainly doesn't want any of his family to know. He'd be so ashamed! How did he think I felt when I had to tell my family, and my co-workers and my boss. I look at this baby as my little miracle and now I don't have to share it with anyone. :)

 

staceyssa - March 5

Hi all!! I am new to this forum, so just starting to read some posts. I am 14 weeks pg and 33(34 in May). You are right, does seem like a lot of younger ones here. It is nice to know there are more of us around to support each other. Good luck to all!!

 

LL - March 6

ctgirl I told my boss and he reacted a lot better than I expected. I surprisingly got promoted to office manager as well. I found out last week that I'm having a boy, yeah! My daughter’s att_tude about the baby is improving and she went with me to my ultrasound and she's happy it's a boy. I've let her pick out his first name and it will be Brandon. Krista, sorry to here about the situation with the babies father. I know it's not easy but you'll make it through! My babies father isn't the best in the world as far as being stable and right now he’s not working so we tend to argue a lot which is stressful and I know not good for the baby but he definitely wants this child and he try’s to be supportive. Sometimes I think it would be easier for me if he wasn't around until after the baby was born because I hate the stress between us and know I could probably handle it better alone for now. Hope you’re doing well ctgirl and staceyssa.

 

Seafairest - March 15

I'll be 38 when I have my baby. I'm 16 weeks pregnant and single. Its actually kind of neat to read these other stories. I've told my two children, 14 and 18, but haven't told anyone at work or anyone in the rest of my family including my mom. Silly, I'm 37...not sure why that news is so difficult to announce. I was such a chicken and told the father in an email. However he does live in a different city and I just couldn't figure out how to tell him on the phone.

 

Zim - March 21

Hello all <re>32 and preggers for a couple more weeks. This is my thirs child, the second I'll be raising as a single parent. My middle child lives with my ex-husband. <re>Mine are well spaced too at 14, 8, and soon to be. Baby's dad and I have tried working it out, but we have huge trust issues and I do not see us finding a way through them. Anyhow, best of luck to you all. <re> Regards,<re> Zim

 

njinco - March 26

I'm 33 and just a few weeks pregnant. The father wants me to terminate the pregnancy, which I'm not going to do. I don't feel angry with him, however, because 1. We only dated for about two months and we broke up before I found out I was pg., and 2. He's only 24!!!! It's like a soap opera. I'm not sure what he's going to do, but I am going to share the news with his MOTHER (!!) soon...any advice on how to break that news???!!

 

LL - March 28

To njinco: You'll just have to get up the courage and do it. With my first child, 11 years ago, the father kept telling me he was going to tell his mom and family about my pregnancy but he never did even though he told me he did so I had to do it myself and I was very nervous and scared but basically told her that since he wasn't man enough to tell her that I would be woman enough to because she deserved to know. She was wonderful about it and very supportive and we still have a great relationship to this day even though her son and I ended our relationship when our daughter was around 3 years old. Do you have a good relationship with his mother or any relationship with her at all?

 

jak9243 - March 28

Hi everyone, I found this website when I was pregnant with my daughter who is now 6 months old. I was asking myself the same question. I'm 27 and my 6 month old is my third child. She is an absolute blessing, she is the happiest baby I've seen, she is always smiling and laughing. I was scare to death when I found out I was pregnant and honestly considered terminating, I'm glad I didn't. Her father hasn't had anything to do with her, he hasn't seen her or contacted us, "she is all mine". I've gone back to school to finish my degree and we live with my dad right now. It's hard, but I know things will get better and when I look into her smiling little eyes, I know she was meant to be and I thank God for her everyday. It's kind of funny, I had been at my new job since October when I found out I was pregnant in January and after I told my boss, she promoted me to office manager as well. When I left work to have the baby and then go to school she supported me completely and offered me a part time job. Isn't it funny how things work out? Well, good luck and God Bless you all, continue to keep your heads high. "It'll be OK" :)

 

Lunastella70 - April 12

I am 35 years old. Never been married, and I don't have any children. I am 14 weeks pregnant and apart from being scared, lonely and confused...I am very happy. I dated my boyfriend since 6/05 and on 1/06 we had a miscarriage. He was ecstatic about my first pregnancy and then.....I got pregnant at the end of January (same month I miscarried). Now, he has stated that he does not want this baby, is not ready for it and wants me to get an abortion. I am confused because the first time I was totally unsure and he was happy with it, this time around I am sure and he is despising every moment. I have not seen him in 2 months, although we email daily and probably speak twice a week. But he does not want the baby. I am scared but prepared to do this by myself. I can't believe this is happening to me at 35! Any comments are appreciated.

 

crimsonlamb - April 16

I'm 32 this year, never met a man that wanted to have kids.So after a 5 year relationship I met a man who swept me off my feet. He wanted to have a baby and had done rather poorly with his daughter years ago.I'm sure he believed that he would start a new life and would be o.k. However, he started freaked out soon after I got pregnant, I should have left him.We've been on and off for months. About a week ago I said are you in or our you out.He wants to drag the thing on so he said I'm not into this right now.This week it's different the less interest I show the more he likes me. Anyways, after a tricky pregnancy where I've been pretty depressed, I'm starting to feel better.I have a really good friend who went through something similar.I'm going to stay with her for the first two months the baby is born. I'm out of the homestretch 6 more weeks to go and I'll be ready for a baby.All of the neurosis's that I had are going away.It sucks to have to do this alone but sometimes you feel alone when your with a partner anyways.Sorry I could blather on... more but I've already ranted. This is hillarious, I've been so overwhelmed I didn't think to look up the most obvious source to network with single women and women having babies with partners. I'm curious, I want to read more.

 

JennyW - April 27

I am 36 and I'm 9 weeks pregnant. I have never been married and this is my first. It was unplanned, but I am going to keep it. The Dad-to-be wants me to abort this baby, so I will be single mom. I work in San Mateo, CA. Wondering anyone knows any single mom-to by choice support group. I am looking to create a birthing community with woman in the similar situation to support each other throughout the pregnancy. Good luck with everyone!!

 

stormiej - May 19

33 and already have two 14 & 4, ended up being a single mom to these two. This was completely unexpected, I had been told by a few different doctors on several occa__sions I would never be pregnant again as I had already gone through menopause. Well suprise, suprise, suprise. I did not know I was pregnant until I was 14 weeks. I was not sure if I should tell the father or not, we only dated a couple of months. Well I told him because I felt he had a right to know and I really need the child support money since I was fired from a really great job. Big mistake, he now wants to be involed and I don't want him to be. He has other children various ages with whom he has no contact at all, and I'm not so sure about his values. He even mentioned he would like to adopt, there is no way in hell I would ever let that happen. He just does not have it when it comes to parenting, based on his lack of involvment with the others and how he interacted with my children. On top of all this my family has not been supportive at all, I am in dire need of a support group. Single and pregnant I can handle, but now with extremely little income I am terrified.

 

lily faith - June 8

HI all, I am 33 years old and 7 weeks pregnant with twins. My (now) ex boyfriend wants nothing to do with me or the babies. I always knew him to be selfish, but he still never ceases to amaze me with his cruel comments. His newest thing is to tell everyone that I am not pregnant and am making it up. I dropped off my ultrasound picture to his mom yesterday. Maybe that will shut him up for a little while. However I am expecting him to change his tune from 'she's not pregnant' to 'it's not mine'. Why do men do that? I am at a complete loss on what to do. Having a baby is supposed to be such a special expreience. I never thought I would be going through it alone. And now that it's twins, I just don't think I can terminate this pregnancy. I am so scared. I wish this would all just go away. It's so easy for the men to live in denial and walk out of our lives. We don't have that luxury. Thanks for listening.

 

jak9243 - June 14

Lily, I can't imagine what you are going through, I know how hard it was with only one baby, let alone twins. If you choose to pursue him with paternity tests, you can make him pay child support. I won't bore you with what you already know about a good job, having to take time off, and all the other expenses. You will definetly need the financial a__sistance, but you will have to deal with the headache that goes along with it. There's a great book I found when I was going through the custody situation with my older two children's father, my ex-husband, it's called Joint Custody with a Jerk, I don't recall the author. If you think he's going to be a bit of an..., excuse me for being frank, a__s, I would definetly retain an attorney. Just take one day at time, which is sometimes easier done with one hour at a time, and don't let it overwhelm you. You can't fix problems that haven't appeared, I tried, my mom used to tell me I borrowed trouble. Just stay strong, eat right, and don't stress, put your babies first. They will bring more blessings than burdens, I know it doesn't seem that way now, it didn't to me, but I don't know how I would have gotten through the rest of my life remembering when her birthday would have been and wondering what she would have become. Can you look around the dining room table with your future family, and be able to forget that two very special blessings are missing, and your family will forever be incomplete.

 

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