I Need Advice Please

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advice - September 27

i have been with K.L for 3 years we shared an apt together. i was in love and i thought he was too. im 21 years old and 24wks pregnant. our relationship has never been great. he cheated on me in the past and i choose to forgive him. he left bruises on me and i choose to make excuses for him. K.L has a 5 year old son that i took care of like he is my own. he is a decent father. when i was 19wks preg he left me for another girl who is 19, he is 26 . he broke up with me on a sunday she moved in on a wednesday. I called him 6 days ago and he said he moved on with his life and wanted nothin to do with this baby and it was my fault i didnt get an abortion.How can he hate an unborn child? His whore wont let me talk to him when i call, so at this point i am about to go crazy and beat the f*** out of her because i cant handle this pain anymore. any advice how i can handle this pain i need to get rid of this anger that consumes me [email protected]


Viv - September 29

This man has a thing for 18/19 year old girls. Be sorry for the new woman She will be left in the lurch just as you have been. She is not a whore but another victim. Clear your mind and focus on the future. In the process list the attributes of the man you would like to find. Examine why it is you are attracted to and tolerate abusive males. It has something to do with your own childhood. We mistake for love as adults what we were accepted as love as children. If you do not learn this lesson you will make the same mistake over and over until you suddenly tumble to the fact that there is a pattern that needs addressed.


For You - October 5

Hello. I am sorry that you are feeling so overwhelmed right now with pain, frustration, and grief. The purpose of my response is to let you know that what you are feeling is natural and that I have been there and am there now and, as hard as it is to believe, everything is going to be okay. I was with my fiancee for 5 years. He cheated on me, choked me, murdered my pets, tried to kill my son when I was pregnant with him 4 years ago...the list is endless. Two years ago he got another woman pregnant while he made me believe that we were still together. I have a double major in school and a minor and with all of my education and wisdom nothing could break me from that cycle of abuse even when his seed grew inside of another. I am now 27 weeks pregnant with our second child. I am 24 years old and finally, after 5 years, understand the meaning of freedom, safety,security and self love. You will understand that too if you step back into yourself and away from your anger and discover not his reasons for being who he is, but YOUR reasons for being who you are and who you want to be. I went from a teenager with an eating disorder and so many insecurities to doing drugs that I thought would make me confident to sacrificing my soul to someone who I believed loved me but really just abused me and used me...all that time I didn't know what it meant to believe in myself. It is hard to accept now because hate and anger is what will drive you through this initially, but if you allow his negativity to breed hate in you it is only going to destroy you. I was obsessed, pa__sionate, consumed, it didn't matter what he did, he was mine and I was his. You are allowing him to still control your life by contacting him. As much as you want to punch me in the face right now because you want me to be wrong -- it is not the other girls fault. It is HIS. Just think of herself in a place where you use


Krissy - October 7

I read the other responses and I agree...however, I would still beat the other girls a**! How dare her come between your issues with the father of your baby! she will learn the hard way just as you have. Please be strong...remember you don't need him to be happy. You have your child now. that will bring you all the happiness you need. And trust me, the right guy will come along and love you even more for being the strong independent women that you are!



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