Pregnant In College

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Emily - July 26

Stay in School! I just found out I am pregnant. I just finished two a__sociate degree programs and I am enrolled fulltime to start working on my bachelors in the fall. I am even going to try to do the spring semester- when I am due. I am scared and worried that I won't be able to do it, but I am going to try as hard as I can because I know that is what is best for me and the baby in the long run. I am also worried about the stigmatism of being an unmarried young parent at the college, which is affiliated with the presbyterian church and my mom works there. Reading the experiences of others through this forum has been really helpful. I am not going to let anything stand in the way of my dreams. I am going to chase them as hard as I can until I succeed because this is what I want my child to do in their life. I also have not told my parents yet, but I hope they will be supportive. I wish you the best. Be pa__sionate about your decision, and remember that doing this for yourself is also doing it for your baby.

 

Shana - August 4

Hey Kate...I too am pregnant and going to college. I had a long talk with both sets of parents, bf's and mine. I've decided to finish college, talk with the college and see if they will help you to graduate earlier. I am due in March, and graduate in April..I'm going to make it work. Be realistic, do u think that you will want to go back to college after having the baby..you might be too tired and exhausted for that. You might also want to spend time with the baby. My mother-in-law found a program that will pay for pregnant mothers that don't have an income of more then 29000 per year. They would a__sist you from the 14 week mark until your baby is born. Not sure how much money they would provide you, but you should look into the possibilites. I think that I will get a__sistance while I finish this school year. I hope this helped you out.I know that if I don't finish college now, I might not want to finish it later....Think long and hard, and go over your options, before you make a decision. Good Luck! write back with your thoughts!!!

 

ASA - August 8

I did both. It's easier than you would think.

 

Kate - August 9

I am 20 and have a 6 month old son. I quit college, and it was the biggest mistake I ever made. I wish that I could go back. I am sure you have probably already made your decision. Congratulations!

 

Esperanza - December 3

My baby is only 5 months, yet i am struggling two colleges with the course load of 35 units. That's exceeding the maximum by 3 cla__ses. And i am surviving. What makes you different? You will do this. And you will do this great. You take things day by day, and put your utmost effort in everything you do. You'll see that, you have only underestimated yourself.

 

Esperanza - December 3

DO NOT UNDERMINE YOURSELF by saying school is a hindrance. I have a 5 month old baby, I’m attending TWO COLLEGES with over 35 units in my hand. That is 10 units excess the maximum, and it’s apparent that I’M SURVIVING. I indeed was the popular princess back in the day, the life of the party, the one who always had something and somewhere to go. The baby has set my priorities, and I’m not complaining. WHAT MAKES YOU ANY DIFFERENT? There’s nothing you can’t do. Take things day by day. Do the best in everything you do, Though it sounds so cliché, it is working for me. Oh and by the way, I’m a single parent. I’ve been single ever since my pregnancy. Though I have a boyfriend now.

 

Dee - December 12

You are too close to finishing school to think about quiting. Don't wait too long to tell your family; the earlier the better. Give your father the benefit of a doubt; he might react differently from what you expect. Mature actions get mature results.

 

Kim - January 29

STAY IN SCHOOL! If your boyfriend loves you, he will realize that this is important for your future. You will be able to get a better job and then be able to contribute more financially in the long wrong.

 

Amanda - February 22

Kate, I just went throught basically the exact same thing last year! Reading your story I was shocked at how similar our lives sound. I struggled with the same decision, but in the end, I decided it would best for my boyfriend and son if I stayed in school. It is very hard, but when you fill out the FAFSA forms this spring for financial aid, be honest. Say that you have a baby and are not married, and the government will give you several grants to pay for school. Between grants and loans I have not had to pay for anything this year! Also, tell your family when you are ready. I didn't tell my mom until I was about five months along and I told my dad at almost seven months. My dad was very disappointed in me, but when he found out that I was staying in school and that I was getting a lot of financial aid, he relaxed a little. I don't think he really got over it until he held the baby for the first time. I am 22 now and I will be graduating in May. I still have two part-time jobs and take a full cla__s load, and it is very hard. But in the end, when I have a degree and can find a good job, it will be well worth it! Hang in there! If you want to talk anymore just send me an email: [email protected]

 

Jen - February 22

I think the best thing you can do for you and your baby is to stay in school. I know its hard but it won't necessarily get any easier in the future. I'm in graduate school and have a five month old and it is going well. Yes, i miss my baby when i'm gone but I know that by setting myself up with a good career that i'm helping both of us. If you get stuck with a job that you hate or don't make enough money, that may effect how your child is raised. You need to do what is right for you but just know that you don't have to give up your goals just because you're having a baby. If anything, go part time that way it is not out of sight out of mind. Good luck to you. Jennifer

 

to kate: - February 23

Hi Kate, when I was in 2nd year University I became pregnant - my husband was working and so was I [part time] attending Uni full time. It's not going to be easy. I had severe M/S for the first tri - but once I got over that, I went straight back into my studies. I ended up not only having to go to school but was also working part time. My family helped me a lot - with emotional support and all that. Now looking back I don't think I would have wanted it anyway! I have an awesome 4 year old. Good luck, I wish you all the best with breaking the good news to your mom and dad!

 

Anna - February 24

I found out I was pregnant in the middle of my senior year of high school. My daughter is now four months old, and I am taking courses online through a community college. I would recommend that you not quit school. I waited to start school until I got the hang of being a mom, but that was only until the Spring semester. It is difficult, but people will help. Both my mom and my boyfriend's mom watch my daughter if I need to do homework. You can go to school with a baby. If you're worried about not having enough money, apply for aid with Social Services. That's what I did. It helped a lot, and I didn't have to worry about where I was getting money for diapers.

 

kayla_shauntel_05 - March 14

I am 18 and pregnant, and I too still have a year and a half of college left. I am not working, my boyfriend (fiance) is working and paying my bills for me. He dropped out of school and got his GED when we found out I was pregnant because he was failing and behind anyways. He said he thinks I should go to college so at least one of us can have a real career for our child. I have not worked since I was three months pregnant. My parents were disappointed, but not full of hate and anger and acted very calmly when I told them. My told me I was 18 and there was nothing she could do about it. I am lucky enough to have gotten a grant to pay for all of my school, and my boyfriend payed for my books.

 

kayla_shauntel_05 - March 14

Just because you are having a baby does not mean you cannot finish college. I have a lot of online cla__ses and night cla__ses. I am taking the summer off so I can have my daughter and going right back after she is born. If you are worried about money, try to get a Pell grant or a student loan. If you want it bad enough, you will find a way to get through it.

 

Checou14 - July 28

i noticed this post is from 05' im 7 weeks pregnant now and i was wondering wat decision u made and how it affected you. i hope im not prying

 

carolinew0401 - October 21

im sorry, but i hate when people say trust in god. God will not buy diapers for my baby.

 

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