Pregnant With My 2nd And Living In With Another Man

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sicknpreg - August 31

I am 22 yrs old.I came from a disfuntional family.I used to be a stripper and met a man that was older then me.We were friends then I got pregnant.He was ashamed of me beacuse I was black and his family treated me very badly.I've lived in his home for 3 years and we were happy until his family got involved.He was worried about what they woudl think.The baby was born beatiful and white.After a while he wanted me to move out of my house after I had been a stay at home mom with my first.I met a guy and we started dating.We been together for a year and honestly he is disrespectful to me and has hit me before.Every time he has begged me back and to be honest I let him back in.I guess I admit I am despret.We made passionate love and I got pregant.I live in my first babies fathers house and I ahve no job or money nor do I have any friends or family.I am very sick from the baby I have morning sickness all day and have not yet been to a doctor because I am under her fathers insuance.On top of that I am a manic depressed person and ahve thought of hurting myself.I can write so much more but basically I'm giving up.The second guy that I am currently pregant by has no money and calls me a loser everyday and is stressed out.He has not yet been happy about this baby.I admit I am not either.I;m in tears and alone everynight.I am pregnant and alone with a 2year old.I'm giving up on life and myself.Help!

 

brucen - August 11

Your in tough situation all the way around. Firstly you need to dump the loser. He is no help to your situation even if you were not pregnant. You need to somehow gain independence. Secondly, you must seek medical help. Planned Parenthood is always an option and they can work within your budget. Most importantly you need to be there for the daughter you already have, so you need to get it toegether. I do not know what all that would entails for you, but the child you have needs a mother who respects herself. So that SHE can become a woman who respects herself. There is no reason for you to be with an emotionally or physically abusive man.

 

MICHELLE - August 28

THINGS GET BETTER YOU NEED TO STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YPURSELF AND HIM AND CHANGE IT TAKE LITTLE STEPS MAKE A PLAN STICK TO IT AND LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES IF HE IS NOT WILLING TO CHANGE GET A JOB TRY TO SAVE MONEY AND LEAVE HIS SORRY ASS. BUT YOU CAN DO BAD ALL BY YOURSELF WHY HAVE HIM AS AN ANCHOR?

 

Kylie - August 31

You poor girl!! You really do need to find some help, there is always someone out there to help you, even if it feels like their isn't! Do it for yourself but mostly for your babys, they don't need that sort of upset life. Please only you can do it, so find someone to help you out of your mess and start respecting yourself, do it for your babys! I know it's hard at first bit tomorrows always better!! Go on the pill too, or something cheaper...Remember the only way men will respect you is to respect yourself first, don't sleep around like your nothing...I hope I helped

 

Sarah - August 31

You really need to start to love yourself and beleive that you have worth. You are in control of your hapiness, no one else. You need to realise that even with a mental ilness you can be happy and healthy ( I know, I also suffer from manic depression and have hurt myself on so many occasions) but you have a baby that adores you, and one on the way. You need to see whats inside you, and let it out. Get rid of this guy, live your life and stop being so hare on yourself! You are allowed to be happy too, you deserve that.

 

Vari - November 16

I was in the same exact situation. The only difference between yours and mine is that both losers have good job. One day, I woke up! I got angry at them. Once you get angry, that's when you get motivated to do something about it. Stop feeling sorry about the situation and start being into your baby and yourself. Trust me, time heals all wounds.

 

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