Should I Have An Abortion

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La-Toya - September 12

I'm 4 months pregnant. My baby's father is not showing any interest. He told me that he did me wrong by getting me pregnant. My mother's mantra is "no one is having any kids in my house" I'm 21, supposed to start College for the Winter semester, and I'm feeling all alone and confused, as I'm afraid to tell my mom and i'm not getting any support from my boyfriend. What should I do?


Stephanie - May 15

I am in the same sitaution....I am 8wks and my baby's dad is leaving me. I contiplate the smae thing. I know in my heart what I want and what will make me feel good and I ask myself..can I afford to do this..I am I ready to do this alone and do I want to be a single mom and I decided in my heart I couldn't have an abortion. SO I have decided to keep my baby and do it alone. Think of the life you could provided the child, that helps me I know I am capable of doing it and there is no reason to abort...the baby is healthy and so am I. With you going to collage will you be able to get someone to help out with the baby? My best advice is follow your heart it is a tough decision to make...but your heart and gut feelings are the best to follow. Make a decision for you and no one else.


Dana - May 19

There's alway sthe option of adoption. There are so many couples in the world today that aren't as fortunate as you are that are patiently waiting for the opportunity to have a child of their own to raise and nurture. I'm an adopted child and I am so glad by birthmother did not have an abortion 32 years ago. Please consider alternatives.


Lourie - May 19

i have 2 wonderful children-I was 28when i had my son who is now 6 years old and I was on vacation with his father when i found out--to make a long story short i was left all alone in a plce with no transportation, no job and no support from anyone-oh yeah and no place to live either--i was 7 weeks and 5 days along--i had to find a job-get a roof over my head and walk to work at 4:30am every morning until i had earned enough money to get myself and my baby home safe--guess what? i did it and i did it alone no one was there for me- i was 5 months pregnant when i made it back- sure i considered abortion- it was very hard but i decided why should another life pay for what i did in mine--and you know what-til this day i am so thankful that i did not go through with it--my son is wonderful and yes it is very hard sometimes but it is all worth it-my family and i had not spoken very often they did not approve of some of the choices that i had made in my life--but when i finally got up the courage to call them --at first they wanted me to have an abortion to because they did not think i would be able to raise a child--i proved them wrong i had my son and when he was 8 months old i put myself through college became a certified dental a__sistant and 6 years later i own one of the biggest and well known paint and body shops and have a wonderful man in my life..if you really do not think that you can bring this life in the world and give him/her o wonderful upbringing then why don't you consider adoption-there's too many people in this world that would love to have a child but are unable to--think long and hard before you make a choice.


Bethany - May 28

I am 19, pregnant by a married man who is a very prominent man in my county. To make matters worse, he was my ex- boyfriend who I loved and still do, really good friend. I still live at home with my parents. And my mom is also pregnant, she is a month ahead of me. I also have a two year old little sister that lives in my house. I think their is doubt about you having the abortion or you wouldn't even be asking for an opinon. One slight doubt, is enough doubt not to do it. Your baby could be the person who finds a cure for cancer, becomes a preacher, or even have a house full of beautiful kids itself one day. At first I thought I HAD to have an abortion. I didn't see my friends who would all be there for me or the people who loved me. The people who love you may be shocked at first, just like you, but they love you and they will love your baby too. I just seen my parents kicking me out, being a single mom, and not being able to finish school. Now, I see that I will have so much more help with school now that I am having a baby, and my parents have become just excited to me. The dad still isn't going to be in the baby's life. But, who knows how he will change 6 months from now, just like the father of your child may do. And if he don't, God will make a way for you. He put this child in your life for a reason. And you'll never experince the blessings of this reason if you abort it. At least give the blessing to someone else, if you can't take care of it yourself. But, I'm sure you can. Our plans in life will not always go the way we thought they would, but the Lord takes what we see as bad and turns it into something good. Remember I thought I had to have an abortion too. Now, I can't imagen what I was thinking. You will do the same as soon as you except your pregnancy. You are in my prayers. I pray you do the right thing.


Beth - June 2

My 19 year old sister ended up pregnant by a complete JERK! Once she started to show, he didn't want to have anything to do with her. He left her home alone every Friday and Saturday night from in her last 6 months of pregnancy. The poor girl was so scared. My parents were not happy with her at all. She ended up having a BEAUTIFUL baby boy who turns out to be the love of her life! Once Landon was born, my parents came around. I think that always do once they see that sweet little baby. Now she is getting married to a wonderful man next month, and he just adores Landon! Don't worry. Things will look up. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something if you're not absolutely sure about it. You do what's right for you, and ONLY you. Don't worry. In the long run, things will turn out fine. Hope this helps!


St├ęphanie - June 10

I am 7 weeks pregnant and the father who has been my boyfriend for the last 4 years does not want to be a father right now, AT ALL. Why, who really knows... We are young, 22 & 23. I do not want an abortion. Even though this is the scariest situation I have every been in. I have plans to travel, go back to school.. If I have this "child", all my projects will be on hold. However, I believe that everything happens for a reason and that you will never really know when you are ready for children... We are all young and the good thing about that is by the time you are 30, the child will 9 - 10 years of age. When are you really ready? Like the Stephanie said: "make a decision for you and no one else".


kaela - June 14

forget the father, and sit down and explain to your mother how you feel.


Chantal - June 14

I feel you completly..I'm 17 years old and Im 7 weeks pregnant.. theirs still time for me to decide if I want to keep or not but my boyfriend shows no interest and he feels he shouldnt have gotten me pregnant.. but now that I am.. I would like to keep it. My parents know and they will be there for me but they dont want me living with them and a kid in their house. I have no jobs what so ever.. I dropped out of high school to go live with my boyfriend and now that I'm pregnant.. I was threatend from my boyfriend's mother that if I dont get an abortion, I couldnt live with her son. I feel very lonely because I would like to keep this child.. but in same time.. I would like to live with my boyfriend.. So to make everyone happy, I decided to have the abortion.. I called and everything.. I even got an appointement for the abortion.. but is it really what I want or others want ?? I feel very guilty and I dont know what to do with my life anymore... I am in need of deep love and care but no one seems to come in need...


Chasity - June 16

I I'm 22 and also 7 weeks pregnant and the guy I married doesn't feel ready to have a baby right now. He has two other kids by two other women and now that I'm pregnant I can't figure out how to go about things I'm so confused and scared I was happy when I found out I was pregnant and so was he until he changed his mind and suggested I have an abortion. I don't believe in abortions I'm a Christian and it's against my religon but even if it wasn't I couldn't possibly think about getting that innocent unborn baby sucked out of me without it even having any fault in my circ_mstances. I have really thought it out and even though I may not be in the best of circ_mstances I know when that baby is born he/she will put a smile on my face everyday. I just hope and pray that thing go well for me. Me and my husband been having unprotected s_x for almost a year and I didn't get pregnant so now that I got pregnant I feel as if it's heaven sent for me to have this baby and I I'm.


Tasha - June 17

You need to do what you feel is best for yourself. No matter what people tell you to do, it is you that has to live with the consequences of your decision.


emma - June 17

leave him he's not worth it if hes acting likke that. or try and talk to him! and make sure he knows how u feel


Jacque Coppersmith - June 17

Keep your baby, you'll regret it and will always wonder what could have been. You don't need a man to help you raise a kid, it would be nice there are many single parents out there and to be unconditionally loved by someone no matter what is a awesome thing.


Jessica - June 20

La-Toya, I am in a similar situation. Well, I'm not nearly as far along as you are (8 weeks), but Im 21, in college, no boyfriend. The baby is a result of a one night stand. No one in this world can tell you what to do. It is your choice. Like Stephanie, i am not going to have an abortion. By reading everyone else's responses, it seems to me that these men that we are all with do not have the b___s to step up to the plate and take responsibility for their actions. Therefore, we have to do it, and we can by supporting each other.


Beth - June 22

I was 19 when I got pregnant with my now 6-year old son. I was in a very unhealthy relationship with his father for 8 years. He was abusive (to me) and was an alcoholic. I questioned if I was being selfish bringing a baby into such an unstable home, but I knew in my heart I had enough love to give,and that id be a good mother.Not a day goes by that i am not grateful I have him. I ended up leaving the relationship 3 years ago, and shortyly after met a wonderful guy who treats me like gold and loves my son like his own.We are expecting our own child in December of this year, and are getting married next June. I am tekking you this story because I am proof you can still have a happy ending even when you have a child with someone who isnt right for you.I believe everything in life happens for a reason, and children are precious gifts we should cherish, I dont know where Id be today without the inspiration of my little angel.Follow your heart and you cant go wrong,Good Luck.


Liz - June 24

I am also in the same situation. I am 19 years old. The only difference is that my baby's dad doesnt think he would be able to love the baby. I want to keep it, I was adopted and I dont want to put another baby up to that.


Mindy - June 26

NO! Please don't do it!! I am 19 years old. I caught my baby's father cheating on me at a pool hall with some nasty skank on Christmas Day!! I was 3 months pregnant at the time, and I seriously considered abortion. I was dumb and went back to him, and he threw me out at 8 and a half months pregnant for some other girl. He left me homeless and alone. Or as so I thought. True friends will always help you out in these situations. You are not alone. I moved in with friends, and I am anxiously waiting for my little arrival any day now. You know what the best part is? This little miricle will be all yours and you won't have to share them with anyone now. There is always financial help through the govt. with school, and you can always put the baby in day care, the best part is it will probably be free. Honey, just put some thought into this before you make a regretable decision. I will pray for you.



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