17 Possible Pregnancy Dont Know What To Do

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M - February 2

I need help. I've just turned 17 and tihnk I'm pregnant. I haven't had my period for 3 months.. I have severe cramping in my stomach and back ache. I've been throwing up for a couple of weeks now, and have been feeling ill before then. My nipples are sore, I've put on weight and I swear there's fetal movement. I've been in denial for too long now. I can't even take a pregnancy test because they don't sell them here (beleive me I could if I could, I live in a REALLY remote place.) My parents think I'm pregnant cos I told them my symptons. I keep saying I doubt it.. I will probably go to the doctor soon but I dont want to because everyone knows everyone here, and I dont want anybody to find out. I'm planning to move out and go to college this year. I cant do htat with a baby, I wont be able to support it by myself. I tihnk it's too late for abortion and I cant bare the thought of giving my baby up. I got really drunk and taken advantage of in October, I think he's the father. I'm so lost..

 

Grandpa Viv - February 2

M, you have our sympathy. No period for 3 months along with preg symptoms and appropriate exposure is pretty conclusive. Forget the preg test. The doctor visit is the next step. Sixteen weeks is about right for feeling fetal movement. The doctor is supposed to be confidential, but I expect in a small community someone in his office could blab. Anyhow, there won't be much hiding it a couple of months from now. Unless you have a plan to leave town before that, you might as well face up to the fact that the whole village is going to know. It's not that big a deal any more. Just smile and say "I can't believe this is happening to me. Someone must have slipped something in my drink". Another solution that was practiced years ago is for your mom to pretend it's hers (requires some acting). I like mail. If you want some outside contact, I'm at [email protected]

 

M - February 2

Thank you so much for your responce. I wish I could leave now but I'm still in school (last year) and want to stay to sit my exams in May/June. My then I'll be heavily pregnant, is it possible to stay in school? I wanted to leave for college in August - I cant do that with a child. I have barely any money as it is. I wont be able to afford a place by myself.. I can't expect my parents to take care of the child - they're being really supportive right now, but I cant ask anymore of them. I want to keep it in a way.. it's just that I dont think I can give it the life it deserves. I know what you're thinking - adoption.. I just cant give it up though. Thanks again for your help. :)

 

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