Abortion Please Help

23 Replies
Laura - November 1

last year i fell pregnant as contreception methods failed and i decided to have an abortion, since then i went on the pill but it made me extremly depressed iv changed it three times since then but still have been using other methods of contreception, but it has still left me depressed. I have just found out that I am pregnant again by the same person my boyfriend of 2 years, im 17 and i dont know what to do, I dont want to have a baby, and im really scared. is it wrong to have a second abortion, please help me. thankyou


123 - November 1

hey grl, im in the same exact situation i dont think is wrong to have a second abortion if u really dont wanna go threw with it then do now as early as possiable, imma keep mine juss becuz i quit my job an then i found out i was preg an i dont have the money to get it good luck


Nana - November 1

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks, though I'm sure many people on here will have something to say about it, it isn't happening to them its happening to you. There's no right or wrongs. If you feel this is what you want to do, and its what you and your boyfriend think is best, do it. Are you sure its only the contraception that makes you feel depressed? Deciding on the right contraception is bound to make you think about your previous abortion. Have a chat with your doctor or family planning pract_tioner and look at all the different methods there is and which one agrees with you. Also working out your menstrual cycle (must be done when you are having regular periods and NOT on the pill), and pinpointing when you are ovulating can be useful to lower the risk of becoming pregnant. There are things that measure your temperature to tell you when you are ovulating and when to avoid s_x which you could consider too. This along with condoms and maybe some water-based spermicide (and if all else fails, the morning after pill) could be something useful for you. Hormonal contraceptives (pill, injection etc) can cause problems in a lot of people. Good luck whatever you decide.


Jennie.P - November 1

I'm not acting all Pro-Life on you (but that is my point of view) But, just saying because my sister-in-law had an abortion over a year ago (and I know every person is different) but maybe that's why you're depressed. After she had her abortion she just went downhill. It started off just feeling down, but now it's full-b__wn chemically off balance. She has since told me that if she were to become pregnant no matter what the circ_mstances, that she would keep the baby just because she doesn't want to go throught it again, but ultimately, the choice is up to you to make. I hope this helps.


Brittany - November 2

I really don't believe in abortion! Have you ever thought about adoption? That would be a better way than taking the life of your child. I know plenty of people that would adopt your child. Good lick with your decision!!


So.. - November 2

..because you don't believe in abortion she's not allowed one?


name - November 2

so... she never said she wasn't allowed lol. She just asked her if she had ever thought about alternative options, and told her good luck with her decision. LOL


AAAAA - November 3

People really p__s me off on here because they say 'I'm against abortion!!!' So what? It's got nothing to do with whats happening to someone.


Jennie.P - November 3

I think she was just saying at the begininning "I don't belive in abortion!" to let Laura know before she read her post where she stands on the issue....like "personally, I don't belive in abortion but..." so that people didn't think that by wishing her good luck on her decision that she believes in abortion.


cutiepie - November 6

Well first of all I dont belive in abortion there selfish if you had the guts to lay down and open your d__n legs then you got the guts to raise a baby because dont you know your KILLING if you gonna keep getting abortions then stop f***ing


N - November 6

Shut up 'cutiepie' you havent got a clue what you are talking about.


sary - November 6

Hi Laura. i know where how you feel. last summer(2003) i got pregnant and i was so scared and lost, everyone wanted me to get an abortion and i just wanted to be a teenager... i had the abortion and it made me depressed, it nearly killed me because i carried so much guilt in my heart for what i did... i think there's a good possibility that's why you're so depressed, is because of the abortion, which is perfectly normal after an experience like that. please don't let it get to you. later on in march, i got pregnant again, with the same guy, he wanted me to get another abortion but after knowing what it did to me the first time, i refused and he broke up with me. i did think about abortion again, i was so lost again, that i was desprit, i guess you can say, but i couldn't go thru with it again... I thought about adoption, which is a great alternative as well, but i hard decision to make... i am keeping this baby, i am the happiest i have ever been, but that was the best decision for me, it might be different for you. i don't think it's wrong to get another abortion, but i think if you do, get on something that's going to be more affective or perhaps thinking about not having s_x until you are ready to risk pregnancy.... stay safe.


Amber - November 6

For myself, abortion is not for me. Different strokes for different folks. Sometimes a situation arises that you need to make that choice. The one think that I think for everyone is that abortion is NOT birth control. You need to make the choice, one mistake is one mistake. You know you are fertile, and need to do something about it. Go on birth control; ie. the shot, pill, IUD or the patch. Think about it. If they make you depressed talk to a shrink. Get on the ball girl. Not only are many abortions expensive, can also effect your mental and physical health down the road. I think that its great that you realize that you are not ready for a baby, but I know that your poor choices have effected this. Go see a DR or two. Best wishes, and keep your chin up.


Nicole - November 7

Please do not have an abortion, this is your second chance to make things right, this baby deserves to have a chance. Love him/her and be its mother. You are lucky to have a second chance after abortions sometimes people can not have children again


Lisa - November 7

Laura..it's never an easy decision to make, the only person that can make it is you...and i am sure that you will make the right decision for you at this time, try very hard to not be influenced by what other people say or think, it's not about them or what they beleive. I really feel for you being so young and torn between making the right choice. I would suggest you maybe seek some professional counselling for yourself and your boyfriend as i am sure he would like to be involved in the process. If you feel you can tell your mum without fear of judgement or being 'lectured' then i would tell her as well, as i am sure she will help you and support you with your decision. There are many options for you, and you will need to weigh them up and decide which best suits you. Just go with what you feel is best for YOU!


Heather - November 17

sweetheart, i don't know how to answer your question if it is wrong or not. personally, if I had read this question two months ago, i would tell you yes it is wrong because i don't believe in abortion. however, now, faced with my own decision to make on whether to have an abortion or not, that would be very hypocritical of me to say. i am about 3 weeks, maybe 4 weeks pregnant and don't know what to do myself. i have two children, i am divorced, i am no longer with this baby's father, being a single mother of two already, i don't know if i can mentally handle another child by myself and i don't think it would be fair to bring another child in this world and make that child suffer for my mistake, you know? you should look at it like that too. i see you said you have had one before and this would be your second, but you know, my advice is to weigh out the pros and cons and see what was is stronger and do what you feel is right. think about the child, how the child will be raised and provided for, their needs and their wants and go from there, that is what i am doing and i am praying to GOD every night. i have prayed for an answer and guidance through my dreams as well. i wish you the best.


Mustang - November 19

How are you feeling?Did you have the abortion? I have had 3 abortions&they were all the right thing for me to do. The best thing to do is speak to a counsellor at your hospital,they can guide you the best they can, but if you have thought about abortion then it's obviously something you want as abortion is not something you would even talk about if you wanted the baby. Good luck. Sally



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