Bf Problems

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KaseyA - March 6

Anyone pregnant and having problems with your bf?

 

abriamiacadia - March 6

ME ME ME ME ME lol.. oo me i soo am. lol just thought i'd answer lol

 

KaseyA - March 6

lol yeah I figured you'd be one of the first to answer :)

 

abriamiacadia - March 6

lol whats wrong?

 

KaseyA - March 6

Ugh everything. He has completely neglected to me to "take care of business" and get a job and all that jazz, but really he has just been giving his friends all the attention he should be giving me. I'm over it. I'd rather be single than worry about trusting him! I don't want to stay with someone just because I'm pregnant and I would never take his daughter away from him, so I told him today was the last day to work things out before I'm done, and so far...things aren't going well. We already had an early morning fight. *sigh*

 

xoxticiaxox - March 6

I feel like that with my man too, I just havent given up yet. Yes Im tired of it all, but I look back and see how much he has changed so far...and things keep getting better...so Im waiting it out, and fighting for my family to work.

 

Nerdy_Girl_10242006 - March 6

Thats good that you are standing up for yourself when it comes to him...I do commend you on also realizing that just because you are pregnant doesn't mean that you have to be commited to this man. You have to do what you can to make a better living situation for your daughter. If all goes well maybe he will come around but right now your daughter is first and if you feel he isn't going to change then you have to act on that. He can still be there for your daughter, and it will be hard but if you feel that is the route you must go, you can have better judgement then I would

 

sarahsteele - March 6

i am too, we've been together since i was 15.. im now 18, and hes cheated several time, im so stupid to still be with him but somehow he puts his charm on and i end up forgiving him because he "promises" to never do it again, i say cheated.. but he really just sent dirty messages to other girls and recieved them and a few pictures.. i call it cheating i dont know about u. So we've always had trust issues.. but i seem to overcome them, but now that im 26 weeks preg i just cant trust him, i cant let him go anywhere without me.. he hasnt "cheated" for the whole pregnancy though (trust me i'd know if he did, we share a cellphone now) so does this mean he's realised that he was hurting me?? BFs are such a pain in the a__s.. the so dont realise what we are going through.. i feel for all of u that are having problems!!! xx

 

xoxticiaxox - March 6

Ya know what, take everything I said earlier and shuve it through the f***ing window!!!! Men are liars and cheaters and just stupid...they cant be trusted! NO matter how much you try to make it work,....YOU will always be the one who gets hurt in the end...and everytime you just keep going back...dont fight to be hurt...men will never change!!!

 

sarahsteele - March 6

wow... angry huh?? i get like that some days too and i just wanna break something, or my boyfriend..

 

xoxticiaxox - March 6

to many lies in the past year, Im done hurting, Im done with him being an a__s and getting away with it everytime...just because I love him! Love isnt always enough, especially when I spend the whole relationship worrying and scared and wondering....not something Im going to settle for!

 

sarahsteele - March 6

good for u!! i wish i had the courage to do that.. but i dont think id want to either. i dont think i could force my self to leave him..

 

abriamiacadia - March 6

I'm agreeing w/ Sarahsteele, I wouldnt be able to leave Nate.

 

xoxticiaxox - March 7

Well, I didnt leave him, he convinced me to give him another chance....Im dumb very very dumb...but maybe it will work, we are moving soon and he wont know anyone, so he wont have connections to get drugs...Hopefully! I dont have the guts either...I just talk about it!

 

Nerdy_Girl_10242006 - March 7

Sometimes your instincts are what you may just need to go by. I know my sister had a drug addicted and perverted way of living and they moved as well, but where are they now? He is in jail and she is remarried, not that this guy is any better because he is just a little boy in the way he acts, but neither of them will change and she is even considering a divorce with this guy because he is the way he is. She finally learned that it has only so much to do with her, that she needs to put her children before herself and ask herself if this is someone she wants to be with. It prepares you for the worst and although it seems hard now, it either gets better or stays the same, but you can only allow him to hurt you so much. and since you are pregnant it isn't only affecting you, it is affecting the baby. This baby can sense how you feel towards someone and in some cases if you just can't stand him the chances are your baby won't either, thats not in most cases but in more then a few...my niece absolutely hated her dad when she was born...if he had her she would scream and yell until he either put her down or gave her to someone else. Even now she will run away from him and leave. Sometimes leaving them for a while and let out all the tension and give them there time they may learn, maybe they won't. But you never know what you have until its gone and maybe they will understand that you are serious next time around. Yes, you love them but its the baby that you have to do things for now. Thats what it takes to know what is best for your child and if he don't come around he pretty much made the decision for you. Why should you hurt when he is only having fun? Why should you be neglected because he is putting himself before you and the baby? You shouldn't, you have a baby that needs to be first in both of your lives, if not then you will always be last, you will always be the one forgiving and you will always be the one who hurts in the end when he realizes you will always forgive him no matter what

 

xoxticiaxox - March 7

nerdy, I know all this, and part of the reason I keep giving him chances is because I dont trust him alone with my lil girl, and if him and I break up, then he gets visitation rights...Id rather be there to see whats happening then be somewhere else and wonder whats happening...he wouldnt hurt the baby on purpose, but he is very unknowledgable on rasing a child...for instance...his aunt has a new born, and he thought because the baby was crying he would just shake it a bit...well thats not the way!!!! NOT AT ALL! So Im staying with him partly because I dont want him to be alone with my daughter..! Courts cost to much, and I cant afford that, so I have to be unhappy for a bit and hope things change...I am doing this for my lil girl!

 

Nerdy_Girl_10242006 - March 7

That is understandable, but if you left him would he fight for the baby or no? I'm not trying to insist on an answer I'm only asking because some men tend to give up and leave if he sees there is no chance

 

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