Crushed

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beebop - August 19

I am almost 20 weeks pregnant, and the father has always been very supportive. However he changes his mind a lot..from keeping it to abortions, he just seems confused. (I am 16 he is 22) Today he called and asked if I had made a new abortion appt. (we had gone 3 times before and none of them worked out) And then started telling me thats the only option and was yelling and being really mean. He told me I was taking this as a joke, and adoption (which is what i would like to do to my aunt and uncle) is completely out of the question because he'd feel bad afterwards. I have seen a sonogram and heard my babies heartbeat. I feel him inside me everyday, and I just dont think I could get an abortion. Please someone help me with some advice..On how to talk to him without making him angry..I just dont think I could do this to my baby. Im so hurt by the way he acted today..please help :(

 

brucen - August 19

I am not sure I understand why he would feel bad if the baby were adopted by your aunt and uncle, but abortion is ok? If you feel adoption is the best option and it seems you have already found a home. I don't see what his problem is. You should do what you feel is best for you.

 

unknown - August 19

please don't have an abortion, there are so many people out there that want babies and can't have them!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

beebop - August 19

i dont understand either. i dont know if he is just scared or what.. idk how he could feel bad giving our baby a chance for a WONDERFUL life, but not think twice about killing it..im so hurt. i just need to know how to talk to him and what to say..

 

brucen - August 19

Maybe he is afraid you will change your mind and want to keep the baby, making him responsible for it as well. The only other thing I can think of, is maybe your under the age of consent for your state. So he is afraid of wht will happen if people find out. Surely your aunt and uncle already know. I don't know, but I wish you the very best.

 

beebop - August 19

thanks :o) yea he could be worried, but he is under 24 and im in fl so ite technically legal. he told me he didnt want to have to pay for it for the rest of his life and stuff like that..i just wish i knew what to say so he could feel what i feel..

 

Shorty - August 19

I'd just tell him its none of his business and that your mind has been made up, and your baby would have a fantastic life with your aunty and uncle, and thats so much more rewarding than killing it. If he gets angry.. does it really matter in the scheme of things....hes obviously not regarding your feelings in this so I would not bend over backwards just for him. You and your baby are no1 in this... remember that

 

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