Dont Know What To Think

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Alicia - January 19

hi i am alicia, i am 16 and not wanting kids yet cause i want to go to university and i know that a child just isnt right for me. i have a bf who is 19 and he looks after me very well we have been going out about 4 months and started having s_x about 2 months ago and he only did it cause i said i was ready. i know i was cause all my friends said they were nervous and i wasnt. right since we started having s_x i am continously paraniod that i am pregnent. i am on the POP pill at the minute and have trouble taking it but i alway take it within three hours.would that be ok? anyway my problem we did it uamd the comdom broke but he pulled out cause he felt it had and i forgot to take my pill exactly on time i took it straight when i realised which was 2 hours from the time. i went to the clinic late which as my fault because of college and forgetfullness. so when i went it was too late for the morning after pill. they say i have to go back in three weeks for a pregnency test cause it wont show up and if i am i haev to wait another three weeks for the termination (which i have to have for medical reasons) but the baby will be growing by that time. i cant keep it i know i cant but the thought of killing something it is keeping me up at night. the bf says i am just paraniod because i am new to having s_x and says he will help me cope anyway he can but if i turn out to be and have to get rid of it i dont know what i will do i have just come out of serious depression and i feel myself slipping back into the hole as people have called it....i just wondered if anyone could give me any infomation which mihgt put my mind at ease like if i am just being paraniod and what happens if i am cause i dont know that either

 

tara - January 20

Hi, hopefully what I have to say here will help you out in some way. I know how stressful thinking about something like this can be in one’s life and if you like to hear some of my experiences you can reach me at [email protected] But for now, when did this condom breaking incident happen? I had not heard of the POP pill, but I did some research on the net and if you take it with in 3 hours of it’s time it will still be effective. It is only after the 3 hours that it MAY not work. So if you were not ovulating at the time of the incident, and if your bf stopped right away and there was no pre-c_m, it is quiet likely that you are not pregnant. However that is hard to know while on the POP pill when you are ovulating. The reason I asked when this incident happened is because maybe you can go to a clinic for testing sooner; especially if you are thinking of aborting. The fetus will not have a heart beat until end of the 7 or 8 (9 in some cases) weeks into the pregnancy (on a 40week pregnancy). Most places abort with in the first trimester because the fetus is not even complete ‘till the end of the first trimester. It is merely a cluster of cells with in the uterus, no complete nerve system or brain and can not survive on its own. You can also see visit www.imnotsorry.net for some supportive stories on abortion. This is a hard enough decision as it is, so I suggest if you know this is what you want not to listen to anyone who tries to change your mind to make this harder on you. There are a lot of anti abortion groups out there that will try to scare the living day lights out of you…just remember that all they are trying to do is change your mind…just like someone would try to convert you to a religion of their choice. If this is what you decide to do, go to a trusted clinic. There is also a pill that you can take for this, but it requires 1 or 2 more visits to the Dr. and some women find it very painful. I personally found the regular birth control pill more convenient than the POP pill sounds. Is there a medical reason you can not take the regular birth control? I believe it’s more forgiving than the pop pill. You still have to take it every 24 hours, but if you miss one you have more than 3 hours to take it. There is also the patch (I haven’t used it) but girls who do, find it more convenient than the pill because you have to change it once a week. Again, I can imagine what you must be going through, and this stress can end up being the cause of depression. But try to remember that there is nothing you can do until you find out for sure if you are pregnant or not so try and take it one step at a time to deal with this instead of thinking of all the possibilities. If you were taking the pill with in it’s 3 hour time period chances are you are not pregnant. You have my email if you like to chat further…there are some experiences I prefer not to post on the net. Best wishes to you.

 

tara - January 20

one more thing, however this turns out to be, just remember that you are not alone. If it turns out that you are pregnant, no matter what your choice of action turns out to be there are so many more out there that can help and support you. But for now lets take it one step at a time.

 

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