How Do We Make Them Face Reality

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mom911 - December 16

How do you get through to them regarding the reality of finances/

 

I'm with you - December 16

BEWARE!Make them pay rent and buy their own food at 16.Then kick them out at 18.How about That for reality check.(not all kids need this)

 

AMEN - December 16

STOP GIVING THEM EVERYTHING!MAKE THEM WORK FOR FROM THE TIME THEY ARE LITTLE.they want 100 dollar shoes let them work for the money.

 

Jbear - December 16

There's really no way to tell someone and have it sink in...you have to experience it yourself. I didn't know it was possible to be too broke to afford food until the first year I was married.

 

jj - December 16

Two words TOUGH LOVE.I'm repeating what was said.Show them first hand how far the dollar really goes.

 

Wow - December 17

You people want young teens to face reality. You "older" women brought us into the world and now your gonna kick us out and pay our own expenses. Then you all cry and whine in this forum about how WE'RE too young to take care of kids, some of us are better parents than you will ever be!! Why have a kid when your gonna kick it out at a certain age and make it pay for everything. Maybe us younger kids are spoiled and don't understand reality because you didn't take the time to teach us at a YOUNG age. The way a child is brought up is the way it will be forever. Good job ladies, you got yourself in this mess yourselves!!!

 

Finaaly a teen who gets it - December 17

Don't you just hate it when everything is not handed to to.That is the point make you face reality young while you are under aldult supervision.Glad to see our point.

 

kelly - December 17

I am suprised more teens aren't outraged at the thought of having to work for what you want instead of having you parent handing you a credit card they pay for.A honest days work is a good thing.

 

karine - December 17

My kids are 2 and 3yrs. and when they want treats and such, they have to do something for it, and they say please and thank you. exemples: pick up the mess they made, or help mommy with laundry....anything.....even stupid things, and reward them with what they wanted. if parents would start an an early age to do this, more teens would appreciate, and eanr what they have.

 

jj - December 17

nice example.amen

 

sara - December 17

Okay I am 21 and a mother so I feel I'm in a good position to make a few points to both sides here. My mother took the same point of view as some of you on here. From the age of sixteen I worked for my money and before that I volunteered at a local hospital to earn my allowance. Not that this was bad but with my own money and own car I was able to do what I wanted. Thanks to my financial freedom I went out and got pregnant twice before I was even out of my teens. Just throwing a teen into the world will only get them in trouble. We need supervision, guidance, and an understanding shoulder to lean on more than tough life lessons about financial responsibility. Now I'm not saying be looking over your teens shoulder 24/7 but teens will do what their peers do and you should monitor their crowd of friends and keep an eye on them while still having non-judgemental conversations about s_x, drugs, and money, etc. The problem these days is parents have forgotten the power of having conversations with teens that leave us feeling like we can talk to our parents instead of feeling like we have to get away from them. Best wishes.

 

To Karine etc. - December 17

You can't just give something to a child who did a good deed. The child should do the deed anyway. It's not so great growing up and knowing that if you do something, you'll get rewarded because in the real world, that doesn't always happen. When your kids grow up, they'll expect something from EVERYTHING they do. Thats just an FYI tho. I agree with Sara, children/teens just need a one on one talk with their parents from the start 1yr.old thru life. Talking is the best reward for a good OR bad deed.

 

shaelynn - December 17

hi i got kicked out as a teen.... and i can tell you that i wished my parents would have just sit down with me and talked to me instead of kicking me out so young :( all you mommys remeber how hard it was growing up and its hard or your kids please talk to them... you can have tough love without being so extreme..... love your kids and do whats right for them not throwing them to the streets

 

TC - December 18

Life experiences is what makes someone "face reality." And even then we all have a different view on what facing reality is. You can make a child work for everything from when they are small and there is a chance that they still are not responsible with finances. I know someone who is in debt way over their head but is still living above their means. The person either is going to get it or not. I don't think that it is taught. I think that you could try and lead someone but they have to hit rock bottom and feel the need to take control of their lives.

 

TC - December 18

Also, I agree with "to karine etc" . Children need to be taught to take pride in their property. I do not think that a parent should be paying their child to take care of stuff that belongs to them. When I was a child, there was no way that my mother was ever going to pay me for cleaning my own mess. That is crazy.

 

brook - December 18

First this is a pregnancy site.Since it was brought up.Every kid is different some learn values with no effort and some need to be kicked out before they believe everything you say.We all are rewarded for what we do.As aldult we may not get money as reward but it comes in other forums.When you are nice others are nice back.You you take good care of yourself more people want to be around you.When your house it clean more people want to come.It is true that with you own car and money you can do more but if you have to pay for repaires,upkeep or to replace it you are less likely to be irresponsible for your possessions.

 

anon. - December 29

I AM 19. MY PARENTS LOVE ME TO BITS AND ARE THERE FOR ME IN EVERY WAY BUT I WAS NEVER GIVEN ANYTHING. MY PARENTS NEVER BOUGHT MY FIRST CAR, IN FACT THEY DIDNT REALLY BUY ME ANYTHING I WANTED. WHY? SO I COULD WORK FOR WHAT I BUY AND BE GREATFUL FOR WHAT I HAVE UNLIKE SOME OTHERS THAT THEIR PARENTS BUY EVERYTHING FOR THEM. EVERYTHING I HAVE, I WORKED FOR IT AND BOUGHT IT MYSELF. MY BOYFRIEND IS THE SAME. SO JUST TELLING YOU OLD PEOPLE WE ARE NOT ALL LIKE THAT!! GEEZE. IT MAKES ME SO MAD TO SEE OLD BITCHES THINKING THEY KNOW EVERYHING ABOUT THE YOUNGER GENERATIONS. IT MAKES ME SICK. I THINK THEY ARE THE ONES THAT NEED TO GROW UP, NOT US. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT, SO STOP STERIOTYPING. IM 5 WEEKS PREGNANT AND OVER THE MOON. I HAVE A JOB AND SO DOES MY BOYFRIEND, WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ALMOST 4 YEARS AND HAVE BEEN LIVING TOGETHER FOR ALMOST 2 YEAERS. WE MANAGE TO PAY ALL OUR BILLS AND RENT RIGHT ON TIME WITH PLENTY OF MONEY TO SPARE. I KNOW WE CAN GIVE OUR BABY ALL THE LOVE AND SUPPORT IN THE WORLD, BE THERE FOR HER/HIM EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY AND FINANCIALLY. YEAH, I KNOW IT WILL BE HARD (SLEEPLESS NIGHTS, CRYING, POOEY NAPPIES) BUT I KNOW IT WILL BE VERY MUCH WORTH IT. WELL THATS MY PART SAID. I JUST WANTED TO LET SOME OF THESE RUDE OLDER PEOPLE KNOW THAT WE ARE NOT ALL YOUNG TEENS THAT HAVE EVERY SINGLE THING HANDED TO THEM WITH NO REAL CLUE WHAT GOES ON IN THE REAL WORLD. IM SWITCHED ON, AND SO ARE ALOT OF OTHER PEOPLE IN THIS CHAT. IF YOU DONT LIKE TEEN MOMS, THEN GET THE HELL OUTTA THIS PART OF THE FOURUM, CANT U READ? IT SAYS 'TEEN PREGNANCY' NOT 'OLD BAGS THAT WANT TO PUT TEEN MOMS DOWN!!!' THANKYOU!!!

 

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