I NEED YOUR ADVICE PLEASE HELP ME

14 Replies
SERINITY - August 23

IM 17 YEARS OLD AND ME AND MY BOYFREIEND HAD UNPROTECTED SEX 6 TIMES, AND HE TOLD ME THAT IF I DIDNT GET AN ABORTION I WOULD BE RUINING HIS LIFE. IM SO AGAINST THAT, I LOVE HIM AND I DONT WANNA RUIN HIS LIFE BUT I WOULD NEVER BE ABLE TO FORGIVE MYSELF IF I DID THAT. WHAT SHOULD I DO???

 

rebecca - July 1

serenity, that's a choice you have to make for yourself. no one knows the answer but you. you either choose your own flesh and blood who will there for you when you need them, that will love you forever, or choose your boyfriend who doesnt want to take care of his responsibilities, and wants you to do something that he's knows will ruin your life, but doesnt care because he cares more about himself than his own baby and his girlfriend.

 

Jeni - July 12

1st of all if he cared about you so much, he wouldnt try to talk you into doing things like that to ruin the rest of YOUR life. he is being really selfish about this.. his life wouldnt be ruined it wuld be blessed and if he has a problem with you having the baby so be it. dont do nething you dont want to do especially something so serious. if he didnt want to have kids he shouldnt have had s_x. good luck girl!

 

Ladidah - July 22

Sweet, you are the one thats pregnant, you are the one carrying this baby... tell your selfish b/f to grow up!!! This is mostly your choice as it effects you more, and your body. Don't ever let a guy make you feel that his life is more important than yours EVER!!!

 

bebop - July 27

if u really love him and think he is the one, then do what he wants. if u think he is just anither boyfreind who will eventually get tired of you or sumthing, then do only what u want.i can see why u think abortion is wrong, and thats a good way to think, but you have to understand,having a child is much more than just letting a fetus live. it will completely change your life and you are still young. you have much more to see and do in your life. if u have a baby now, it will shorten the fun in your life by limiting your activities.so you make the decision.and just so you dont have to deal with this kind of trauma ever again, always use protection.remember, u only live once. good luck! love, bebop

 

SaRaH - July 27

IT IS UR CHOICE!!! DO WHAT U CAN LIVE WITH AND IF HE IS NOT WILLING TO STICK AROUND THEN LET HIM GO! MY CHILDS FATHER SAID I WAS GONNA RUIN HIS LIFE IF I DIDNT HAVE AN ABORTION AND NOW HE WOULDNT TRADE HIM FOR THE WORLD!!!!!!!!! GOD BLESS U!

 

Tarna - July 27

If I where you I would not have an abortion just because of your b/f when he probably is not the true one. I would not want someone cutting up my own flesh and blood. I am not making the choice for you but DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

shookie - July 27

Do what you feel is nessisary, do u REALLY love him? is he the one? then go from there

 

cait - July 28

do what you feel is right! dont get the abortion if youre against it. if hes that concerned about you having a baby, he should have used protection. hes the one ruining YOUR life by forcing you to abort.

 

stacie - August 21

im 12 and me and my boyfriend had s_x but the comdom split that he was usein it wot should i do ?

 

brucen - August 22

I agree to a certain extent with Shorty, but if he has decided he doesn't want to be a father or isn't ready. As a woman if you will become a parent, the man has no such choice. It's unfortunate that he is forced to take on this responsibilty.

 

Stephanie - August 22

Your bf shoudnt have s_x if he doesnt want to take responsibility to raise a child especially his........he doesnt love you if he wants you to ruin your body and go against your beleives by getting a abortion.The choice is yours but if a guy gets you preggy and ask you to get ride of it .....wonder if hes gonna get rid of you that easili too when he doesnt love you anymore.......and also ask yourself how many other girl ....got preggy by him ........Beleive me your not gonne ruin his life ......a child never ruins a life....a child his happinest....having a child his only gonna make him more mature if he takes his responsability......if not ..just get him for all the child support you can.....even if people say that abortion his saffer now .beleive me you can loose the ability to get pregnant again later on in your life....every body heal differently ........My BF wanted me to get a abortion ........I refused......now I have a pretty little girl that not even 2 months........my bf is with me .....he had to take responsibility his family didnt let him get away with it.......hes happy now ....he loves his daughter....But for 3 months I was alone in my pregnancy ......I was scared but beleive me its worth while......when you give birth .......its magical.......I never taught I could love somebody that way.........but when I saw my 10.06 pounds daughter it was love at first sight. Your BF doesnt love you if he wants you to go against your beleives............and he doesnt love you if he wants you to hurt your body ....and kill is own flesh

 

Sam+Bump - August 23

Hey-dont have an abortion..think of it this way..if you dont have an abortion you and your bf may have a few disagreements about it but if he loves you in anyway then he will stay with you and the baby..but if you have an abortion there will be no going back. All you need to think about now is yourself and your baby-4get him now hes obviously not grown up anough to take responsibilities of his actions..if hes quick enough to run away from his problems then let him,you can do better than that.

 

nicole - September 18

do what u feel is best if you want 2 get an abortion get it. But when your prgrant its a totally different feeling

 

Daile - September 18

If you wouldn't be able to forgive yourself for having an abortion, then don't. It's your choice, not his. If you're worried about not being able to take care of the baby, then remember that you can always give it up for adoption. Adoption is not really as horrible as everyone makes it sound. Sometimes it IS the right choice. Just think about how you feel, and talk to your parents about it. They may not be happy that you're pregnant, but you're not going to be able to hide it from them for long.

 

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