I Need Your Help

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DepressedWoman - December 4

I feel awful. I am a terrible person. I need your help. I made a very dumb decision. I am so very sorry. Please, I do not want to be ridiculed, because I already feel terrible for what I have done. Genuinely I need help, I need some answers. I am 25, and I felt like I could relate more, because some of you seem extremely intelligent on this subject. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for about 5 months. I was out with my friends at a local bar, and my ex husband was there. [ We have been divorced for about 2 years.] I was drinking, and we all went to a mutual friends house, meaning my ex husband was there. I had gotten completely wasted, my husband was off on a business trip. I had drank too much, and accidentally had s_x with my ex husband, I didn't realise this till the next morning, when he and I were naked in his friends room. My friend confirmed what happened, I asked her why she did nothing, and I got no answer. I do not even remember doing it, but apparently it happened. I felt terrible, my ex husband felt terrible because he has a fiance. We went straight away a day later and got the morning after pill, I took it properly. Now, my husband and I have been ttc religiously this month, had unprotected s_x 5 times, everyday for the last week. I had been pregnant before, and had a miscarriage, that occured in the middle of September. I believe I did ovulate about 3 days ago, this would have been when my husband and I had s_x. IF I end up pregnant, do you believe it would be from my ex husband, or husband? And considering I took the morning after pill, is there even a chance I could be pregnant at all? I appreciate all the help I can get, I am honestly very sorry that I did this and I really just want your help. I feel terrible, and I don't know how to tell my current husband, I have been going through it in my head for awhile. I need help. I do plan on telling him within the week because it was a terrible thing for me to do, betray his trust. THank you girls.

 

DepressedWoman - December 4

I apoloise ahead of time if this does not make much sense. If you wish I clarify it, please don't hesitate to ask. I am terribly upset about this entire thing, so I am crying as I write this.

 

tish212 - December 4

I am confused a bit....but if u had gotten pregnant before the pill I think the pill would have ended it...and since u took the pill I highly doubt that u could be pregnant from ur ex. I won't ridicule u or anything b/c that's not my place... but u might want to consider telling ur husband...I don't know how he will react...but I can't imagine trying to keep that inside w/o it eventually tearing u apart.... gl

 

AddysMummy - December 4

I am going to tell him, but no I could not have been pregnant before I took the pill, but I am telling my Husband within the week, because it is tearing me apart =[ I took the pill after I had s_x with my ex husband =[.

 

tish212 - December 4

u didn't switch ur name sweetie.... do u have any idea how he is gonna react? and are u prepared for whatever may come?

 

AddysMummy - December 4

LOL Sorry, no this wasn't me, honestly, it's my good friend she came over told me about what was going on and she asked me to sign her up and that, they don't have a computer so I just did it for her lol. Never cheated on Jake we aren't even married, and my ex husband isn't 100% my ex husband. She was stressed out and we signed her up :S

 

AddysMummy - December 4

I went to sign back into my name, lol, guess she didn't see that I was signed in.

 

AddysMummy - December 4

It was really supposed to be anonymous for her.

 

AddysMummy - December 4

INFACT I was at our friend Anthonys house when her and her ex were getting too close, when Jake picked me up I told her to knock it off, I couldn't do much anything else.

 

AddysMummy - December 4

I have known this girl for the LONGEST time, she was a family friend, and I went to school with her younger sister, and it's just p__sing me off (her sister is my good friend, and pretty much she is, and her other sister) They are like 25 is the oldest, 20, then 17, and 6. I am friends with them all really, cept the 6 yr old I mean I am nice to her though cause she's a cutie :)

 

ShoppingForTwo - December 4

She doesn't want to divorce him because her parents don't believe in divorce but she's already been divorced once, WHAT? Where did your friend go? And you know she's going to read all the bad stuff you wrote about her and her situation right?

 

Teddyfinch - December 4

is she going to be ok with you bashing her like this? and unless you've been in a marriage that bad, it's hard to understand why someone would stay in that type of relationship. i was in a marriage where i was hit daily and people would ask me why i don't leave and i thought i loved him. it took seeing someone treat me decently to realise that i could have better. just tell the husband. he sounds like c___p so maybe this is the nudge he needs to p__s off and let her find someone that knows how to treat someone.

 

Teddyfinch - December 4

oh and my father didn't believe in divorce either, but i imagine he didn't believe in murder and had i stayed with my ex he would have kept hitting me and either he would have killed me or we would have gotten into a big fight that would have hurt one or both of us. so yeah dad got to get over it lol.

 

AddysMummy - December 4

She will read it, and MAYBE she will have some d__n sense kicked into her! I hate the stupid decisions she is making, and I have told her already. And she will see it when she comes over next, hopefully.

 

tish212 - December 4

I'm lost....where did she go?

 

Teddyfinch - December 4

addy, i'm not implying this is you, but this almost sounds like a cla__sic "my friend is going through this and this" and it ends up being that person but a slip up outs their secret so they overindulge the info to cover up. i think i've seen enough "friend" bashing for now.

 

poo flinger - December 4

I kind of got the same feeling too... just cause of the info overload.... but its not my place to start throwing stones. I just fling poo, and I'm fresh out of that right now too.

 

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