I Think Im Pregnant Again Dad S Gonna Kill Me

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justine - May 15

I'm 16, and i have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. I was young when I had her, so I pretty much wanted to wait until I'm older to have my next child. Raising one was hard enough. Well,about a month ago, since I hadn't been out for a while, I asked my dad to watch my daughter, and he said yes. my and my friend went to a party. well, i met this guy, and he was really nice( unlike my ex) and he got me a drink and stuff. well, i think he put something in my drink because a little while later, my head started pounding, and i got really tired, and i felt like i was about to barf.since my friend was no where to be found, i asked him to take me home, and all i remember is him coming in the back seat and getting on top of me before i just flat out blacked out. now, i think im pregnant because i started getting some of the same symptoms i got when i was pregnant with my daughter. i can't really afford to have another child right now, but i could't ever get an abortion. having one child is hard enough. if im pregnant( which i most likely am), my dad is going to be so p___sed. what am i supposed to do???

 

Grandpa Viv - May 15

Justine, I'm sorry this has happened. There is no reason to doubt it, and reading it is a good lesson for some others - always pour and watch your own drink. You have answered your own question: if you could never get an abortion then you are going to have to tell your dad. You prob. should have told him the night it happened and he could have fixed you up with EC. Maybe he won't be as p__sed as you think. Good luck!

 

n/a - May 16

Well i don't really know wat i'de do in ur situation, however, i think it would be good just to tell the truth. like the other person said, maybe he won't get quite that p__sed, not at u anyways. I dunno man, but i hope it works out ok. And also, be carefull wen u go out, obviously u kno that some ppl aren't wat they seem.

 

Dasiy Jean - May 16

Yikes! Awful. Maybe adoption is something to consider. Tell your dad what you told us. I don't think you have much choice. Do you have any idea who the guy was? I'd consider charges. Best of luck to you

 

Jessica - May 16

Hi Justine, I am so sorry this happened to you. You need to tell your father though because if you are pregnant again you need to get the proper care for yourself and your baby. Also if you feel prepared to, since you know your attacker you can press rape charges against him. From what you are saying yes you were raped and this is not your fault, your father can't blame you for something you couldn't control. Also please please please consider adoption if you are pregnant and feel you are not prepared to care for another child. Adoption is the greatest gift you can give to your child , to another family and for yourself. There are open adoptions available where someone else will raise your child but you can still be involved if you feel you want to stay involved with your child life. My husband and I are currently pursuing adoption and I can't begin to tell you how grateful we are to the family who is considering allowing us to adopt their baby. If you need someone to talk to feel free to e-mail me at [email protected] There are several resources available to birthmothers.

 

Justine - May 24

I just feel so stupid. I mean, how hard would it have been for me to get up, and pour my own drink. I should have listened to my dad. He always told me to watch and pour my own drink, and yet like a dummy, I didn't listen. I know that everyone says that it's not the victim's fault, but I mean, you can't help but think it is. I think that my daughter senses that there's something wrong with me, but I don't want to scare her. Plus, since I found out for sure that I'm pregnant, I don't want my next child to hate me because I kept my daughter and not him/her. I am so confused.

 

Jessica - May 24

Justine, don't think your child will resent it. I'm adopted and my birth mom has four other children, all older than me. Its true I think of my parents as the people who raised me but I still love my birth mom. Most of all you need to tell your dad asap. If you have one child you should know you need good prenatal care, part of growing up is learning how to take responsibility of your situation regardless of how you got there.. You really need to do what's best for your baby first and then your other baby and yourself. Good Luck . Please tell your dad, tell him the whole story.

 

Looking to Adopt - May 25

We would very interested in helping you if you are looking to find adoptive parents for your baby. You can e-mail us at [email protected]

 

Audrey - May 25

Justine- If you know who the guy was that raped you, you should report him to the police. Best of luck!

 

Justine - May 25

TO: looking to adopt I haven't fully made up my mind yet of whether or not I'm gonna give my baby up, or keep it. If I do decide to give it up, I"ll definantly look into you, even though I don't really know you. Thanks. A lot.

 

Mindy - May 25

Justine- what feels right for you and your small family?? Obvisously you are a great mom to your first child alreay cuz you care what she will think and what this new baby will think. Do you think you can support another baby and give them the love you give your first? Even if you can do you want to raise another baby at 16? I feel so bad for you. You are dealing with so much . But if you deside to keep your baby good luck !!!

 

Cheryl - May 26

Justine, I know you have not decided what you are going to do. But if you would like to talk about adoption and what is involved in the process you can contact me. We are looking to adopt but I would be happy to answer any questions you have no matter what you decide. Do what you feel is best for you and your baby. Best wishes always. [email protected]

 

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