Is It Even Possible That I Could Be I M Trying To Conceive

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strix-aliana - May 8

so on the 26th of april, i had unprotected s_x. he did not climax inside of me, but it's possible the pre c_m could have gotten me pregnant. also, i'm on birth control but my mom got pregnant with me while she was on birth control so perhaps high fertility runs in the family? ANYWAY, the day before yesterday i noticed bright red/pinkish blood in my panties. i've NEVER spotted before so i immedientally thought it was implantation bleeding! i've also been experiencing nausea, faint-ness and light cramps. every time i get around certain foods, i just wanna puke! i've not actually gotten sick yet, but i'm pretty much always nauseus. it comes, goes away, comes back, goes away, etc. all day long. thing is, my cycle is weird! i've been counting the length of my cycle and one month it's 28 days, the next it's 31 days, the next it's 27 days. very inconsistent! but usually always between 28-30 days. so i'm not even sure if i was fertile on the 26th! i could possible have been but i'm so confused! i FEEL pregnant but i don't know. i'm not expecting my period for another week and a half, two weeks but i took a test anyway. it came out negative, of course, i was expecting that. but i still feel i should definitely consider the fact i might be pregnant! i have another test, which i'll do in two weeks. should i have hope of pregnancy or should i prepare myself for a let down?!! let me know your experiences!!

 

llukenjess - May 8

i tried for months to get pregnant, and every month i thought i was, and then finally the month it actually happened i just KNEW! i guess all u can do it wait until the due dateof your next period? how old are you and how long have you been with the person you're trying to get pregnant with?

 

PreciousBaby19 - May 8

your on birth control...its not going to be likely

 

angelmonkey - May 9

yeh if your on birth control then its unlikley if your ttc why not come off birthcontrol? and get your partner to fully ejaculate inside of you, you have more chance conceiving that way lol

 

strix-aliana - May 9

lol, yes you are def right angelmonkey but despite the fact i WANT to conceive there are questions as to if i SHOULD. so yeah, i'm still on birthcontrol even though i really want to be a mommy. xoxoxo

 

angelmonkey - May 9

if you have doubts about ttc the wait untill you have no doubts

 

strix-aliana - May 9

that is very true. i always say, 'if you're not sure if you want something, chances are you don't.' i mean... i definitely do know i want it! but is it the right timing? probably not... i just need to be patient and let it happen when the time is right! my sis is dating a single dad of TWO kids. not only two kids, but from two diff mommies! and his life was turned UPSIDE down, and not in a great way. i know that if i am prego, it would be a good AND bad thing. i want a baby, but perhaps i should wait for when its ONLY a GOOD thing. xoxoxo

 

momtobe924 - May 9

strix that is a very mature thing to say. Perhaps you should wait for the time to be right especially if you're questioning whether or not the timing is infact "right". If you're smart enough to pick that up now when the time IS right you will be a wonderful mom!

 

strix-aliana - May 9

aw thank you so much!! xoxo <3

 

momtobe924 - May 9

you welcome.

 

amanda17 - May 9

Here is something that might help you decide if you're ready. Although I agree if you aren't 100% sure you shouldn't do it. This is just something someone wrote on another forum about teens trying to conceive (I don't know if you are a teen or not, I can only a__sume because this is a teen forum, but it's relevant to anyone ttc): "I've been reading some of this stuff on here. And WOW. I decided to write this to those of you who wanna know what the right age is...and especially for Teens TTC. It's not meant to be targeted to those of you who got pregnant by accident. To all the 12-16 year olds, please read this. I know it's long but I know where you're coming from. I'm 19 and I had my daughter when I was 16. And yes it was planned. I love her but it was still the worst decision of my life. I could have made my little girl's life so much better if I had waited. I was selfish and dumb, and she will end up paying for that. I'm ashamed of that fact. I plan on being a writer someday, that's why this is kinda long. Writing is a pa__sion. But I promise it's from the heart. What's the right age to have a baby? 1. When you are physically ready. You should know your body and be able to take care of it. You should be making efforts to eat healthy and exercise, and treat your body like the temple it is. You should be pa__sed the stage of getting piercings and tattoos in dangerous situations. Meaning, if you to decide to get them you go to an approved place of business and make sure it uses all necessary precautions. You should be past your drug curiousity stage and your "lets get wasted every week whoooo!" stage. Some people never go through this, but some do. If you have any sort of chemical love affairs, you need to be healed of that before you think of bringing a child into this world. My mother smoked cigarettes the whole time she was pregnant with me and I had crippling asthma the first 12 years of my life. I know a girl who couldn't quit her 4 a Day Blunt (Weed) Habit and her baby was stillborn. If you don't think you can quit substances when you're pregnant, you don't need to be TTC. 2. When you are emotionally ready. It's a well known fact that adding another person to a drama situation, doesn't make for less drama. It simply adds to it. If you are depressed, sad, suicidal (yes I know people who are suicidal and TTC) you must try to get the issues worked out before you have a baby. A baby isn't going to make you feel better...if you have a chemical imbalance you need help. A professional's help, not a baby. Then once you get the help you deserve you should reconsider having a child. Basically I don't know what to say about this other than having a baby won't take away any of your worries. It won't cure a sucky situation. It won't make someone who doesn't wanna love you, love you. 3. When you're...mature! Before you have a baby you should be educated. I don't necessarily mean school, I just mean that if worse comes to worse, you could live alone. This means you know how to read and write. You know how to find a job. You know how to shop for yourself, prepare your own meals, do your own laundry. You should know how to drive and if you can't, you should know how to ride a bus. If you can't take care of yourself in these basic ways, how hard is it gonna be for you to take care of a baby? 4. When you're in a committed relationship, or preferably married. To those of you in high school...a committed relationship is not 1 month. You cannot possibly know all you need to know about someone in weeks. If you think you do, you're infatuated. A lot of teen girls confused being infatuated and h__y with being in love. The b___terflies in stomach, rapid heartbeat...horniess lol. I'm not lying. Love takes time. You need to know how your partner will handle stress over time. You need to know if they have any addictions. You need to make sure they would never be violent to you. You couldn't possibly know all that in a month. I'd say...if you haven't been with a man for AT LEAST a year, you don't know half of what he truly is. So if you TTC with someone like that, you're taking a chance. 5. When you're financially stable. Okay this one makes me quite irritated. There's nothing wrong with welfare. There's no shame in needing help. I've actually been on welfare and still am. But do...not...depend on the state...to take care of your child. I know girls who think that once they have their baby... they're gonna get free housing, WIC, food stamps, and basically everything they could possibly want. A lot of people never even think about getting jobs because they know how well welfare will take care of them. So they have baby after baby and never attempt to try and gain financial indepedence. First, let me tell you something about the government. It's unstable. You may think you're gonna get all those benefits because your cousin did...but guess what babe. THERE'S NO GUARANTEE. So if you're depending on that stuff and it doesn't come through...and your baby needs Pampers...what are you gonna do? And yes, I personally know people whose WIC checks got "lost in the mail" and they have no other way to feed their child. You always gotta have a back up plan! Second...you do not want that kind of life for yourself. Trust me. It all seems easy, laying back and cashing checks. But eventually you will want a career. You will want to make something of yourself. You will want out of those low income apartments. But by that time, it might be too late. Welfare shouldn't be an end all be all. It should be a__sistance for those trying to do well for themselves. Do not depend on your parents or relatives to take care of your child. I know a teenager feels like their loved ones will last forever. But they don't. You can never be sure how much longer a person is going to be able to help you. Let's say you depend on parents to take care of your child...something happens to your parents. Could you cope? Would you know what to do? This is a cold reality of life. I'm 19 years old and my father has less than 5 years to live because of cancer. My mother died when I was 13. 6. Not for the wrong reasons. I know a lot people conceive children for various reasons important to them, and that's fine. But there are some wrong reasons too. 1. To keep a guy. Cla__sic mistake! Ask anyone who's tried this. It's not worth it. 2. Because babies are cute. Yeah they are. I think monkeys are cute but I have no business trying to raise them. 3. You wanna be cool. Teenagers having babies is really "in" right now. You see it all over TV. Has that every been a good reason to do anything? Be real now. A lot of people wanna be able to say "I'm a strong single mother" so they can feel unique. Let me tell you something girls, you're already strong. You don't need the struggle of having a baby for people to believe that. 4. You want attention. That's a natural urge of teens. Fine! Dye your hair blue. Dress like a pirate. Make good grades and wow everyone. Wear a shirt with emo sayings. If your parents and friends don't pay you any attention, so what? Having a baby and having everyone dote on you will feel good. But after you have the baby and everyone's had their chance to hold it...guess how much attention you get? What about when the baby is a terrible 2? People don't ooh and ahh over that. 5. Because you want something to love. Okay I hear this argument all the time. "I may not have a lot but I can give my baby love and that's the most important thing!" Your right. Love is important. But that's glamourizing love. So let's say, I adopted you as you are right now. I dressed you up in a potato sack. Literally thats all I can afford. The only thing I ever gave you to eat was grits. My house had no TV, no internet. You wouldn't have a cell phone. I don't have a car so you gotta walk 2 miles to school. I'm not there for you because I go to school full time and work. But I LOVE YOU. You're my precious little thing and and you're happy! Right? I know that's a little extreme. But if you think love is all it takes to make a child's life complete...can you say the same for yourself? I love my daughter all day BUT SHE DESERVES THINGS I CANNOT GIVE HER. And that's breaks my heart!"

 

strix-aliana - May 9

i agree w you 100%, amanda! which is why as MUCH as i want to b a mommy, right now is NOT the right time. yeah, i have my life together in most ways and i could provide my child with a lot of things but i'm young and there's no need to rush it. and if i am pregnant... then i'll be SO happy! but if not, i'll b happy too. whatever happens... happens! and i'll deal w whatever that turns out to be.

 

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