Just Want Some Opinions

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AmericanReject - January 26

Well i think everyone on here who has read all my posts knows my story..and things are changing for the better....anyway...after reading this post by why about a 15 year old having a baby..its made me think...i'm 18 and i know i should maybe wait a little longer...but after losing my first son..i just have to say that i think its time to start a family...i'm getting married in may of 2007 and the father has income and is goign to college...it will take a really long time for me to go to college...because i'm not a british citizen so i have to pay twice as much....so with saving money on the side....and me gettinga job....and with his awesome parents who treat me like their own daughter....i just have to ask how everyone feels...i would like to talk this through...i mean i'm not saying that my mind isn't dead set on having a baby with my future hubby....because we've talked about it...adn we think we can make it work...and i'm not hard headed like why.....so i'm just wondering how you all feel..i'm making plans and notes..and working things out in my head...kinda stepping back and making sure i can raise a baby and give everything the baby will need...and so i'm just looking for someone to work through this for me...i want to talk about it with some girls who are going through what i'm going to try for ....so....lol...would anyone like to help me make a plan....lol...i'm really thinking hard about this..and not taking this lightly

 

AyameLovesXion - January 26

You already know how I feel, and I feel that you can do it!

 

abriamiacadia - January 26

At least your of a legal age, and your making sure you can raise it and give it what it needs. Its better than only being in what 9th or 10th grade???...Your making plans...and you've got a man by your side. I personally thought (if you couldn't tell in my post) that the 15 yr old was just wanting a baby. Hell I used to want a baby at 15 but knew i wouldnt be able to take care of it. I still cant at 17. I mean you just cannot plan for a child at 15. lol its ridiculous. I think you should go for it. Looks like you have a "future hubby" your of legal age lol...Im not clear on it but do you have a job, or are you just getting one?

 

AmericanReject - January 26

well i can't get a job in scotland because the visa i'm applying for..,,,like stay with me here....rightnow i'm in chicago....lol....getting a spouse visa..its so we can get married beccause hes a british citizen and i'm an american...anyway...i can't get a job right away...but he has a job...pllus if we really do need it we have his parents full support...they love us to death...they have said that if we can't find a place of our own right away then we always have a place to stsay there....lol...and of course we would pay for some kinda of rent...they have two rooms...my room and his...so we would turn his room into a nursery...lol...and well..i can get a job when we get married....but not before...i have to do everything by the law...and well...hes going to start college in june 2007 so i think it will be the best time for me to have a baby ...because i have to wait at least 3 years to go to college...because i can get it for free when i become a british citizen....i plan to get duel citizenship....and by that time ..he'll be almost out of college...we've been talking about it for a while...and welll i fly back in about 2 weeks...and thats when were going to try...so i'm just making sure i'm thinking it all the way through...so if your guys have some good questions then i can talk it over with you...oh and ayamelovesxion...lol..thats my best buddy..i'm going to see her in chicago in about 2 days...gonna see her little girl..lol..but yeah....i've been talking about it with her....lol...

 

AmericanReject - January 26

yeah and from my previous posts..i dont have my high school diploma yet..but when i got back i'll be finishing it up with homeschooling...so that is already taken care of...anyway..lol...what yall think...

 

abriamiacadia - January 26

Go for it cheeka, no time like the present. As long as ur sure you want it...lol. As long as u have a for sure place to live, money, and stuff like that, your better off then me lol.

 

AmericanReject - January 26

oh yeah...if you wanna see my piczo then its americanreject18 at piczo dot com...lol...i dont have any belly pics or anything cause i'm not pregnant yet...but i'm going to be trynig...so just look around...and umm check out my day to day journal entries....i put them in every week...but i have a seperate book that i transfer them from....and ummm...it will be updated every sunday..so check it out....

 

freebird - January 26

OK, I'll play the devil's advocate and ask: Why not wait a few years? College is a ton of work (PS - it's harder in the UK than in the US, trust me, I know form experience. I did a semester abroad). Why make it all harder on yourself by adding a baby to the mix? You could finish school and have a baby when you're done. Then you'll be able to get a better job and make a better life for the wee one. You've got the choice to either make the best of a situation once you're pregnant, or make a better situation before you get pregnant. I know which one I would choose. Not trying to talk you out of anything, but you asked for opinions and I thought I'd give you one that may be different from the others you've gotten so far. Just some food for thought.

 

AmericanReject - January 26

no,,,,i'm glad your giving me your opinions...and i would wait until after college...however...i can get free college when i get duel citizenship..becaus ei can't afford it now...now chance in hell...lol...abroad cost more for college....so the father of the soon to be baby is the one starting college....thats why i thought it would be better because i could take care of the baby when hes at college and when i go to college then he the baby would be older....but i can't go to college for a long time...and with regards to homeschooling...i'm already enrolled...but my books are back home in scotland waiting for me....lol...i'm in chicago right now getting my visa renuied so that i can get married to him....and i'm also visiting my parents and friends....but theres only so much i can do at a certain time..i have o play by immagration laws and such becase i intend to move over there permanetly .....lol...anyway...i just thought since the gap where i wouldn't be able to do much...but get a job...that it would be the best time to raise a baby...because i mean...we have support form his parents and he has a job and he'll be going to school...and i'll be doing homeschooling which i'm almost done.....and i have waited..but with me ahving to give up my first son i think i'm ready now to have a baby...but i do understnad what your saying......i appreciate your comments...i'm still thinking it though...were not going to do anything until were really sure this is what we want...

 

freebird - January 26

Ok, well good luck with whatever you decide. Where in Scotland are you moving? I've spent alot of time in Glasgow. It's a great country.

 

AmericanReject - January 26

i lived in scotland for six months in dundee....iits beautiful there...i'm here for about two more weeks and then i'll be moving back to dundee....anyway..i do appreciate your comments....just hoping someone can think of something we haven't thought of....i would like to be prepared and fully satisfied with our deciscion

 

freebird - January 26

I've never been there, I've only spent time in the West. If you have the chance when you get there take a drive up the West Coast. You won't regret it. Good luck.

 

CAROL - January 26

It might be worthwhile to spend some time with your hubby to be before jumping into the parenthood pool. Also, if you get your living arrangements lined up first, get used to being on your own, etc... it'll probably be much easier when you guys do get pregnant to enjoy it.

 

AmericanReject - January 26

I'[ve thought about that as well.....but we can't get a place right away...were applying for a commerical housing from the government....because we want a house first instead of a flat...anyway.but they say it could take some time before we're approved...so i dunno...when i get back were thinking about getting a flat but with him going to college there isn't much point...so his parents which i love to bits said we could pay a little rent there...while we waited to be approved for the houseing....but were really thinkng about moving out when i get back....were really concidering gettinga flat but there is a shortage of housing in dundee....so it might take some time...so we'll see how it goes when i get back...but yeah...you have given me some good things to thik about....so keep ummm coming...its reallyu putting things into perspective...

 

lovestruckjsw - January 26

First I would like to say you are being mature by thinking it through and being open to other people's opinions. I won't even come close to comparing you to why... you're nothing like her. You're in a much better situation in your life than her. You have a man that you plan to stick with and vice versa. You have a plan. And you have support. I would try to get your own place, but it sounds like you're already on your way to doing that. I don't know what it is like over where you will be, but how is your insurance? It sounds like ya'll do, but do you and your soon to be hubby have a good relationship? I think you are smart to be thinking about it all and listening to people. Ultimately it is your decision. I'm not a teen anymore ( 20 years old) but if you can go to my piczo site, it will tell you a lil more about me. I'm a senior in college, married, and 10 weeks pregnant (I have my first belly pic up!). Anyways, I'm rambling now. But I would love to hear how things keep going for you and what you decide.

 

lovestruckjsw - January 26

Oh woops! lol pregnant brain already... my piczo site is piczo.com/txamanda07

 

RYC09 - February 1

well, i am only 17 going on 18 in october, around one month after my baby is due, and i am new to this whole thing, so that means i haven't read your entries, but from this one, it seems like you are wanting a baby really bad. I wanted one too when i was 16 going on 17, i thought i was ready, but now, after finding out i am around 5-6 weeks pregnant, i figured out i am not at all ready. i don't have a job, i'm not married, but i made it a vow to go to college and make the best living i can for me and my baby. the only thing is, is there are early problems right now, so i don't know if i get the chance to prove myself or not...basically what i am trying to say is if you want this and you think you are ready, then go for it! and my prayers and best of luck and wishes are with you and everyone else! Good Luck!

 

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