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hurt by socity - March 30

Sometimes I think about the baby I lost in july of 2004 when I was 15 years old and wonder wht it would have been like. My whole life I was forced to grow up and I have raised my two year old sister for the day she was born and I must say while it was hard even though she wasnt mine I know how it feels on the raising and caring for the baby part. I lost my baby and I suffer from that more than you can imagine (unless youve been there) sometimes younger girls are mature enough and truly are ready to be mothers. Sometimes its not because they just want a cute little joy in there lives, but it may be because thats how they are. I was 7 years old when I took almost full responsibility for my brother who is four years younger then me, my mom had my sister when I was 13 and I took on that to because she didnt want her but wouldnt give her up. I am so glad she didnt and I love that little girl so much its unbelivable but I want my own. I have been in the hospitel for depression due to this, and I dream of it all the time. I have put off trying to get pregnant again because poeple say it will ruin my life if I have a baby now, but in reality it has only mad it harder and worse. So before you caome on here trying to say that its a terrible things maybe you should look at the way some of these kids are raised or have lived their lives. And it is not all that bad sometimes because its perfectly natural to become a mother at the ages 15-25, just look at your history and youll see its been going on forever and will go on forever. It's not a bad thing really it's our socity that has made it so bad so instead of bashing it shouldnt we be helping the people who are going through these life changing times. Not really incourging it ,and yes there are girls out there that arent ready and think they are or who are doing it because of numerus other reasons that are not made in the right timing but it will help mature them and give them responsibility. all I have left to say is that you should really think about why you want it and if your truly ready because you might not be even if you think that you are!!!you may still have time to be a kid before you try to rush yourself to grow up, I am happy I have waited to get pregnant again because ,yes at 16, I am done growing up, I feel like I am trapped in a world where there holding me down . I dont go out I dont really do anything and all I do is go to school which I am doing great in and I know that I might not be completly ready but I know that there are somethings that are more inportant to me and I have already shown I can give up everything to raise a baby that isnt even mine so why would anybody critize me for wanting to take care of my own. Who are you to say that I am uncappable when I am. I feel very repulsed that somebody would say just because I am young I cant take care of and love my baby. I love raising my sister and I feel as though she is mine and I love it. To all the mommies and mommies to be>>>> Good luck and youll be in my prayers!

 

Michelle - March 31

Weither you're ready to have a baby or not, only you can tell, nobody can tell you otherwise. I'm 20 (my fiance is 26) and I'm 3 months pregnant. I'm older than the majority of teens that come on here and say that they are pregnant, but I'm just as scared and fearful of what my mother would say (because she's religious). I've decided to have an abortion, eventhough my fiance says that it's my choice and he'll be happy either way weither I keep it or not. I'm scared of the aftermath, but we can't raise a child because we don't have the finances that we would want to give to our child. I would put it up for adoption but my fiance doesn't think it is a good idea, because there are children out there with horrible guardians and he doesn't want to add another one to society.

 

Michelle - March 31

I'm not comfortable of the idea of having people rip away my baby, but we can't juggle a baby, jobs, and school at the same time. I was raised in religious environment (because of my mother) and I've learned that there's some strange things that happen to those people that have had abortions.

 

Michelle - March 31

My question to the writer/creator of this topic: Did you work while taking care of your siblings? Because if your mother provided you with the money for clothes, food, housing, etc. and sure you can handle the stresses of taking care of babies/children, but you have to think of where all those surrounding objects come from. You haven't explained what happened with your mother while you were busy taking care of her children. And also, babies have to come from a male, is there no father figure around? Also, if you have a serious boyfriend that you know will stick by your side after the baby is born, even through thick and thin, than good for you. At least you have somebody that will take shifts with you while you go to school and go to work, and vice versa with him too.

 

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