My Girlfriend And I Are Scared PLEASE HELP

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Andres2 - March 15

We have only had s_x about 5 times, every time we used a condom. None of the condoms broke, but there was a liquid at the base of my p__s, I do not know if it was lubricant from the condom or pre-ejaculate. She said she got sick this morning, had a loss of appet_te today, has had a bit of increased white discharge (she was a virgin before we started having s_x, she is still new to it ...could that cause the increased discharge?) How it was only about 2 weeks ago that this happened (the liquid at the base). How likely is it that she is pregnant? I need help so bad. We are both scared. I don't want this stress being put onto her....I want it to all be a horrible coincidence. Someone please help me.

 

Nikki0888 - March 15

The only way you can know for sure is to take a test. There's really nothing I can say to make you two feel any better about it. She's lucky to have a good guy like you around. When was her last period and when is she suppose to start? Before I first found out I was pregnant there was (and still is) extra white discharge. Tell her not to stress herself out about it because it doesn't automatically mean she's pregnant but there's only one sure way to find out. If you guys need anyone to talk to I'm here. Just let me know.

 

Andres2 - March 15

I forgot to mention that when the liquid was at the base it was the last day of her period. That makes it more unlikely right?

 

Andres2 - March 15

Oh yeah, and the last time we had s_x was a couple days after her period ... 4 at most. Do condoms usually allow things to go to the base? If so is this little bit very likely to get the girl pregnant on the last day of her period?

 

Nikki0888 - March 15

She can still get pregnant while she's on her period. The most common time to get pregnant tho is during ovulation which usually occurs 14 days after the first day of her last period. Sperm can live up to 5 days so if her period was around a 7 day one there is a likely chance that she could be pregnant. How old are you guys?

 

Andres2 - March 15

Im 18 and she is 17 ..she'll be 18 in April

 

Nikki0888 - March 15

I see. I will be 18 a month after my baby is born. What would you guys do if she was pregnant? Would you decide to keep the baby? Just wondering... I kinda need someone to talk to lol.

 

Andres2 - March 15

To tell you the truth, I really don't know. This is all such a shock to both of us. I don't feel like either of us are ready to take on the responsibility of raising another human being, but I don't want to know that my son or daughter is out there somewhere completely bliss of the reasons why their parents left them. I really pray that this isn't for real, I hope I wake up tomorrow and it will all be a bad dream.

 

Nikki0888 - March 15

I don't think that it's all going to be a bad dream. Just go tomorrow and get a test. That way you can stop worrying if she isn't pregnant and if it does come back positive then you can think about what you're going to do. Tell her not to stress about it because that's not good for the baby in case she is. And there's always open adoption where you can see your kid but someone else is raising him/her. It will know who it's parents are and why you aren't raising it. I don't know... let me know what happens and I'm here if you need to talk.

 

oz - March 15

could the liquid at the base have been her own lubricant? I really dont think you guys should stress as (although it is possible) it unlikley she is pregnant. If her period ends up being late i then suggest taking a test. Stressing can also delay her period so try not to stress too much.

 

Esmie - March 16

I agree with oz - it sounds like maybe the liquid was just her own lubricant (a__suming it was on the outside of the condom... you weren't very clear on that, and if not, then I'd say you definitely have nothing to worry about at all). Two weeks would be far too soon to experience any obvious symptoms of pregnancy. It sounds to me that she's only caught some sort of bug. All she can do, though, just to be positive, is wait until a missed period to take a home pregnancy test - just make sure she keeps it in mind *not* to stress out, because it can cause her period to delay or to skip entirely; and also, sometimes when a woman feels convinced that they're pregnant, they'll start experiencing symptoms even if they aren't. The mind's a powerful thing. As far as protection goes, has she considered hormonal birth control? With perfect use it's more effective than condoms. And if the two of you do decide to stick with condoms, what you could do is fill the condom with water after you're done to check whether or not it leaks, just in case there happens to be any tiny holes in it. And if that ever happens, or if one breaks, keep in mind that the MAP (morning after pill, aka emergency contraception) is available for up to 5 days after s_x, and greatly reduces the chances of the female becoming pregnant.

 

frankschick2001 - March 16

Any increased discharge can be because she might be ovulating. When a woman becomes fertile, she produces more cervical mucus, so that may explain the discharge. I think it is unlikely that she is pregnant. But in the future, she should consider birth control pills IN ADDITION to using condoms. You can also use spermacide with the condoms and birth control pills. There are a hundred easy, inexpensive ways to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. Also, all of these symptoms could be because you are both paranoid about her being pregnant, so her mind may be producing the physical symptoms of pregnancy.

 

Kaisa - March 16

some women actually get discharge right before they get their period. Plus there are also some pregnancy test that she can use up to 4 days before her missed period

 

18wbabynov - March 16

ya know... i just found out i was prego a few days ago, and i know i didnt get the symptoms at least til i was 5 weeks into it... i think u guys are just freaking out... cool off and take a test if she misses her period! but i wish u luck!

 

Grandpa Viv - March 16

When you put on a condom, leave enough slack at the end to accomodate the c_m. If you are uncirc_msized, make sure that there is enough slack that there is still room for the c_m when you ejaculate. Otherwise the c_m can back up the shaft of the p___s and either leak out or cause the condom to come off completely and get lost inside the v____a!! The slack should not have air in it or it might pop the balloon. If you did not learn this in health cla__s in school, go to a school board meeting and kick up a fuss. She is experiencing unusual changes in her normal cycle right now, which is not encouraging. Maybe her mind is playing tricks with her hormones. Maybe she is getting pregnant but it will not stick (happens often). Maybe you are going to have some tough decisions to make. If her period does not come normal and on time next week, have her take a home test first morning urine Sat 25th. Visit http://www.ppowb.org/gv for more. Good luck!

 

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