Not Really A Question Just Scared Really

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kayleigh - January 12

hi im 33 weeks pregnant and im really scared bout the birth becoz im such a drama queen wen it c_ms to pain i dnt reacon i would be able to handle this pain i no u can get pain relief as well but that still doesnt help the way i feel . i want a c secsion im that scared :( .

 

julie - January 12

you should be so scared hunny personally i think a c section would be worse than just pushing it out. just get all the drugs to help with the pain and it will all be ok

 

r - January 12

the thing about c section is the pain afterwards that you have to deal with...about 4-6 weeks of it. but with pushing it's there and then it's gone! And once you have your baby you will forget the pain you went through. But if you still feel that stongly about it talk to your doctor.

 

Sarah - January 13

A c section is not any easier or harder on the body.Both birthing techniques have their pros and cons.. INVESTIGATE before making a decision. It is a physically straining experience, some women expierence intense pain, some don't. It just depends on your body. Every first time mum is scared. What you are best to do is sit down with your mum or a mum, and get them to tell you what they went thru with their birthings, that way you may gain an idea of what you might go thru, and that way you can prepare yourself better.

 

Dancing Homer - January 14

A c section is worse.. Believe me I have been there done that.. U can't walk, cough or even poo with out pain for ages afterwards.. 1 word for you.. EPIDURAL!! Good Luck!

 

Ela - January 14

A C-section has a much longer recovery time. An epidural is really good and you should consider that more than a c-section. Please try not to worry. It does hurt but it doesn't last forever and you get the best reward at the end. Its true that you forget the pain.

 

Charlie - January 14

Chances are if you are pregnant at 14, you will be loose enough to fit a football up there, a baby should be no problems.

 

To Charlie - January 14

Hi i was just wondering what you ment by your comment "Chances are if you are pregnant at 14, you will be loose enough to fit a football up there, a baby should be no problems" is it easier for a teen to have a baby that lets say a 20 year old? less pain?

 

salie - January 14

hey kayleigh how are you? is this your first? do you need someone to talk to? if you do please feel free to email me. good luck

 

salie - January 14

oh yea my email address is [email protected] hope i can help

 

Charlie - January 15

No, what i am saying is, that girls who are pregnant at 14 certainly aren't going to be the tightest females going around. That is what i am saying.

 

Cathy - January 16

Charlie you need to grow up, you must have a pretty sad life to spend your time posting insults on these boards, loser! Dont be scared about the pain hun. It will hurt like hell, more than anything you can imagine but it doesnt last forever and there are plenty of pain relief options available. It's pain that has a purpose, it's not like a broken leg which hurts like crazy and theres no benefit. It really is worth it in the end. A C section is more harmful to baby in the long run, C section babies have more breathing problems because the fluid isnt squeezed from thier lungs like babies that are born v____ally. Also it's major surgery for mum and could affect you for the rest of your life, not to mention the scar you get left with. It's true what they say, when you hold your baby you will forget all the pain, really. It will just seem like a dream, like it happened to someone else. Im expecting no.2 any day now and of course I'm worried about the pain but I know it will only be for a few hours and I will get my reward in the end, my beautiful, tiny daughter who will make it all worth it. While you are in labour the time seems to fly by, I was in labour for 14 hours after my waters broke with my son but it only seemed like a few hours. When it starts to happen try to relax, it eases the pain. Have a nice long bath and try to have a snack and a nap. The calmer you are the less pain you feel. The first stage pains are like bad period pain, you can breathe though it or use gas & air or pethadine. You only get a few hours of hard labour and it's when you get to the point that you dont think you cant take anymore, thats when your baby is born and it's all over. Or you can have an epidural. You can do it, believe me. Good luck!

 

Ruby - January 16

I have had both ( a c-section and a v____al birth) and I would take the v____al birth over a c-section any day. It does hurt like hell but as Cathy said it is pain that has a purpose and once your child is in your arms then it all seems to fade away. And if you have a c-section this time you are more likely to have one for subsequent births and may even be resticted in the number children you can have. A c-section is NOT painfree... the initial operation is (not taking into acount you may have already been in labour before the op), but the following weeks/months are quite painfull. Not supposed to drive, pick up anything heavier than a couple kg, dont bend and stretch to hang washing, after my op I couldnt even laugh (or sit up/roll out of bed) without clutching my stomach with pain and making my st_tches bleed, for months and months after my stomach was numb/pins and needley, you are encouraged not to fall pregnant again too soon (higher risk of your scar rupturing) and so on... not trying to scare you and all but if you dont HAVE to have a caesar then why choose to?

 

becca:i no its long but read - January 16

yea im 33 weeks 2 bricking it completly so im goin 2 talk 2 my midwife tomorow about how scared i am and is there anything to help me apperntly birthing cla__ses really calm your nerves i kind of want a c secsion but then i think this is serious abdominal sergary quite scary there are up to 10 differnt trypes of pain relief on offer in england im not saying the pain will completly go but they get rid of the contraction pains the only thing that will hurt is when the baby actully comes out hope this helped

 

kayleigh - January 16

thnx for all ur comments, i surpose i just want it over and dun with now its getting closer to the date.

 

jen - February 9

well... i had my son a year ago through an emergency c-section.believe me it really hurts after pain medication wears out.please try and have it naturally if possible.c-section takes forever to heal my dear.good luck to you.

 

tammy - February 9

Don't take drugs, get a midwife. I gave birth at home about one year ago. I too am the "drama queen" but I handled the pain just fine. YOu can have a midwife in the hospital..... having that support is awsome!!!!! I also found that being at home was comforting.... if you don't want that, try to stay at home as long as possible (with the midwife there), that way you won't feel like a "medical case" during your whole labor. Remember, labor is natural (not a medical problem that needs drugs). I had a water birth........ great idea, and it really helped with the pain in a BIG way. Try to not take any drugs, you will remember the birth much better (it's awsome). Finally, talk to some women that you respect about their labor (one's who didn't take drugs). During labor, I kept thinking to myself "other people have done this..... I can too" My midwife had had 12 kids (so I felt really bad about wining (hehe). Take care.

 

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