Our Daughter Is 16 And Pregnant

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S T R E S S E D - September 30

Our Daughter is 16 and is now 7 weeks pregnant with the thought of how great it is going to be. If we sign for her to marry her 18yr. old boyfriend, are we still responsible for her financially as if she wasn't married. Also, who is responsible for the newborns medical care...us or the parents? We are in the New York City area.

 

i wouldnt... - October 1

dont sign for her to get married, that is letting her off too easy. make her finish what she started, help her by being there.

 

Shorty - October 1

ASking yourself these questions, already gives you the answer for your decision. Dont sign for her to get married.. please. Just because she is pregnant to this guy does not mean that they should get married, they do not seem mature enough or financially stable. Plus I dont think you would want your daughter to be questioning why she got married, if it was the fact that she was pregnant or that she was really loved. As a parent, you are always a parent until the day you die, you have your childs best interest at heart. I would just support her thru this time and just be there. It is a hard enough time for a young girl already, then having to complicate it with marriage and stuff

 

Kari - October 1

Not sure cos I'm not American. Just wanted to say you seem really supportive already and I hope your daughter and her boyfriend realise how lucky thy are to have you looking out for them and getting all the advice you and they will need. Good luck through all this, I hope you find the answers you need. xxx

 

31 yrs old - Pregnant & INTELLIGENT - October 3

Whatever you decide, wait until at least after she has pa__sed 12 weeks, if she is against abortion. There is always a good chance of miscarriage in the first trimester. Cross your fingers.

 

Cory - October 3

I think it is great that you are supportive of your daughter. However, I would not sign for her to marry this 18 yr. bf. For one thing, getting married at 16 I think usually ends up as a mistaake, pregnant or not. How many people live the rest of their life with the person they were with at 16?? I suggest not signing. I would let her raise the baby in your home & then if the guy is still around once she turns 18, if she still wants to marry him then it was love and not a Mistake (pregnancy & marriage). Plus if you still have to financially be responsible for her then why bother with letting her get married. I guess I don't see the point. In the meantime, I would keep the pregnancy under wraps. A high percentage of pregnancies do not even make it to 12 wks due to miscarriage.

 

Hailie - October 3

They don't sound supportive at all. All they are worried about is maybe they will have to pay for the child and if she gets married they might not be. If you told them they wouldnt be financially responsible I bet they'd sign like a shot.

 

Jen - October 3

Hi. I am in NJ. I'm not sure about that, ask an attorney. I would think that her husband would be responsible but I don't know. I would hate to see her marry someone that she does not love just so you don't pay anything. I mean this will be your grandchild. Is she under your health ins?

 

the R man - October 3

1. yes 2. you guys

 

E - October 4

It is wrong to let a CHILD of 16 get married simply b/c she is pregnant. Not only is she likely not ready to be a mother but adding the stress of marriage to someone who is clearly not ready is not going to help the baby. Remember: The focus is the welfare of the baby, not making sure mommy and daddy are legit. They will end up divorced sooner than later and that will cost its own pretty penny. KEEP YOUR DAUGHTER IN HER HOME AND HELP HER & THE BABY THROUGH THIS!

 

jessica - October 4

im not sure how to answer this question because it sounds like she is the one that wants to get married (you said "with the thought of how great its going to be") am i correct?

 

linda - October 6

keep your daughter in your home and help her get through this!!!!!

 

Michelle - October 6

I think letting them get married would be a mistake. I was 16 & bf 19 when we got married b/c I got pregnant. We were divorced well before I was 18. Simply put I was not ready to raise and baby & have a husband. Sure it seemed like a great idea when I was 16 but honestly I just wanted to play house. If you don't sign, your daughter will thank you later.

 

FELICIA - October 13

I KNOW THAT THIS IS YOUR WORSE NIGHTMARE COME TRUE. THIS HAPPEN WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS 17 YEARS OLD. SHE MADE THE DISCESSION NOT THE MARRY AND TO HAVE THE CHILD. MY GRANDSON (MY PRIDE AN JOY) WAS BORN WITH PROBLEMS AND SPENT 95 DAYS IN NICU. THANK GOD!!! OUR INSURANCE COVERED THE CHILD WHEN IT COULD NOT HAVE. BUT I DO NOT REGRET ANYTHING THAT WE DID OR ANY OF HER DISESSIONS. SHE WENT ON THE GRADUTE HIGH SCHOOL (IT WAS HER LAST YEAR) I COULD THINK OF 100'S OF THINGS THAT COULD BE WORSE THAT WHAT IS GOING ON NOW WITH YOUR LIFE. FOR SOME REASON GOD HAS GIVEN HER THIS CHILD. WE NEVER QUESTION HIS DICESSION JUST GO FORTH AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.

 

E - October 13

I think I went trick or treating when I was 13, no s_x. Heck I went TT when I was 21, too. Dressed as a ghost and shrunk down really short. Nobody knew the difference.

 

E - October 13

Wrong thread. I meant to post this about the girl who is 13 and has her life planned with her baby already. Sorry.

 

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