Pregnant And Young

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Dianna - November 15

I think i am pregnant i am only fourteen though. I have no idea what i am going to tell my parents and my friends. Please help!!!

 

Elena - November 15

hunny, im 14 too and i have a feelin my dad will kick me out the house and my mom doesnt want me with her.. so i have no place to go, my boyfriends willin to stay with me but im scared cuz i would have no place to go. ur situation cant get any worse then mine.

 

Christine - November 16

I'm sorry to hear about both of your situations....It is illegal for your parents to throw you out of the house at 14 yrs old...they are responsible for you until you are 18...at least...21 I believe financially...You have to make sure that you are taking very good care of yourself at this point..that baby needs you...talk to someone at your school..a guidance counselor or the nurse..they can help you talk it out with your parents and give you information on what your choices are..or we to go for help...good luck..

 

T - November 16

Hun you need to have the pregnancy confirmed before you decide to do anything. This is only going to stress you out loads and is going to be any good for yourself or your baby. So have a blood test dont at your doctors. If its positive talk to your doctor about your options and see if he can give you any helpful numbers where you can find out lots of information that will be very helpful to you. Your parents cant kick you out love. Your too young. They have to provide and look after you until you are of an age to take care of yourself. Which is usually 18 if in UK or 21 in USA. Let us know how you get on okay. :o)

 

W - November 16

Parents shouldn't have to look after their kids kids. They should be able to kick you out then you would have to take full responsibility for the situation you got yourself into. Why should parents have to deal with their kids mistakes.

 

T - November 16

W- We never said parents should have to deal with their kids mistakes. What we said was that parents should look after their children. Especially a 14 year old! When you have children you make a promise to yourself to always be there and to support and look after your child through thick and thin. How is chucking your child out on the street doing this? And a pregnant child at that who will be carrying their grandchild. Only a heartless person would think chucking a pregnant child out on the street is the correct way to go about it. By no means do the parents need to look after the baby. Thats the mother/fathers problem. But the pregnant daughter is her parents problem and they should look after her or at least help her in some way.

 

W - November 16

Im sorry. Its just what my parents brainwashed into me when I told them I was pregnant. Its been 4 years and I havent seen them, they havent tried to contact me or their grandson. Im sorry, I shouldnt have said it

 

Elena - November 16

hey W.. where did you go since u havent seen your parents...?

 

T - November 16

W - Its okay hun. We understand. Part of what you said is true from a parents side of things but not from the pregnant childs point of view. I hope your okay hun. :o)

 

E - November 16

I think it might be illegal for a parent to kick a teen out. They are required by law to provide them with a home. If you go to the police, the primary & legal parent can be arrested for not letting you live in your home. If they threaten you, let them know this. I would contact some place like Planned Parenthood for some advice as it is possible they will help you tell your parents. Best wishes.

 

W - November 16

Thanks. Luckily my elder brother and his wife took me in. My parents told him not to but he was an adult and told them they could turn their back on him too if they liked, it wouldnt stop him taking us in. I paid a deposit on an apartment with some money I inherited 2 years ago so wasnt there too long. I did feel in the way. Now I work part time because my son has started pre-school. We've done ok. I didnt realise parents couldnt chuck you out until recently. But never mind Im better off now and its their loss. Elena, why do you feel your dad will kick you out? Again Im sorry what I said, i didnt mean to upset anyone xx

 

Katie - November 16

Dianna, go to a free clinic and they will give you a pregnancy test..free! I am 17 years old and I'm 6 months pregnant and I was just as scared as you when i had to tell my parents, just pick a good time to let them know and hopefully they will understand and be supportive.Mine weren't right away but as im getting closer to my due date my mom is buying me things and everyhting will work out..i promise you it will be hard but it will work out.

 

Elena - November 16

My dad is violent he has beaten me up before and im scared he could now.. and also my parents are divorced and i live with my dad, my mom wouldnt take me in becuz she cant afford it(trust me).. anyway i want to keep my child but, the chances of my dad lettin me stay here are very low.. and i would have no place to go becuz i have no family wut so ever near here.(i live in NJ)... my boyfriend knoes tho.. and he's ok with it.. but its not like i would be able to move in with him or anything (he's 15.. this would be his 2nd child.. he has one with another ex girlfriend.. but that was a while ago..) he's not the problem tho.. my dad is.. anyway im scared.. i havent heard of any so called planned parent hood, or churches that are willin to take preg. teens in near here.

 

elena - November 16

Do you have a screen name? anyway mine is Spanishkisses574, it makes it easier for me to talk.. but um yeah if i call the cops on my dad he will be arrested becuz he already hit my mom once and she called the cops and he had to get a record and everything anyway back to my point if they arrest him, which they will then he'll go to jail and ill end up living with my mom, and she'll deffinitly abandon me unlike my dad like yeah i think that i have a better chance with my dad.. but im still scared.. wut if they both kick me out. lemme refrase my self i kno they cant kick me out cuz im under age.. but um they can call the cops becuz they do want you anymore.. and so they take you to a teen home..(this happend to my mom's friend) anyway my point would be that i dont wanna go to a teen home..

 

E - November 16

Elena, that is simply not true. Parents cannot say " I don't want you anymore" and call the police to take you away. There must have been another reason your mom's friend had that happen, perhaps she was dangerous or acting violently? I think you should call Planned Parenthood and talk to soemone about this. Do not do this alone. Make sure someone is with you when you tell your dad. Whatever you do, do not run away from home. There are places that will help you if you do some research on google. Keywords: teen pregnancy help, support, resources, and your city/state.

 

elena - November 16

thanks...do you rele think that if i call someone at planned parenthood they'll just talk to me...?

 

E - November 16

Absolutely. That is what they do. They will counsel you for free and help you to figure out what to do. Do not tell anyone until you have had a chance to talk to someone at PP. You may decide you do not want to keep the baby and in that case, you will have no reason to tell your dad. XOXO

 

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