Pregnant So Soon

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Amanda - March 11

I am 17 almost 18 years old and I have a four and a half month old son who was unplanned. Now I believe I am pregnant again despite being on birth control. I took a pregnancy test and it came back positive but my bc had my hormones so screwed up I don't know how accurate it is. The father is the same one as the first and we are living with his parents. They are very old and conservitive so we are terrified to tell them.I know I need to go to the doctor to get officially tested, but part of me just wants to stay in denial because I don't know how we can handle another baby at this point. Emotionally ,financially, or physically. If anyone out there has ever been in this situation I would really like to hear your story and the outcome or just get some advice. Thanks.


Jen - March 14

look into open adoption


Megan - June 3

Yes, I would say, if you think it is too much work, or you will be overwhelmed, look into adoption. I was adopted, as an infant, and for all I know my bilogical mother, could of had more children, but my life has been so wonderful. My parents that adopted me where so supportive and wonderful and now I am married and have a wonderful husband and we are trying to have a baby too. So don't rule it out. My parents always told me that although my biological mother loved me, she loved so much, that she wanted me to have a better life, than she could give me. Just remember that!! Good luck, and you are in my prayers.


anon - June 3

i was in the same situation after my 3rd child was born, i fell pregnant again when she was 3 months old. i decided to terminate the pregnancy as i didn't feel that i could cope with childbirth and a newborn so soon. its a tough decision


Amanda - June 4

Thanks for the input. Since originally typing this I found out that i am pregnant for sure. I am now four and half months pregnant and we think it may be a girl (although you never know this early) from the ultrasound pictures.We succesfully told his parents and they did not throw us out althouth they weren't thrilled with the idea. We now hope to be in our own place by end of summer. I will be graduating in one week and hope to continue on to college to become nurse. While I agree that adoption is a good thing for some it is not for me. I love being a mommy and while it is overwhelming I could not imagine giving one of my children away because I have so much love to give and know that I can give them a good life despite my hardships. Also while part of me was not sure wether or not I could handle it (and still is) I have taken a deep look inside myself and decided that the joy is worth the work.Even so I would still love to hear from anyone who has been in this situation before and know how it turned out. Also it would be nice if someone who has kids really close together would tell me how they get along and how being so close together in age affected them and the way you raised them. As always all advice is appreciated.Thanks guys.


Kelly Johnson - June 6

This is such a tough situation. It makes me so sad to read all of these posts because I was in the same position when I was your age and made a really dumb decision and had an abortion. Please keep thinking about the baby that is growing in you. You are recognizing that this is not just a problem, but a real, live child. If you aren't ready to raise a baby, that's very understandable, but at least let somebody else raise the baby who would love it. Don't kill this child because your boyfriend says to or you are will regret it for the rest of your life. My husband and I have been praying for a baby for a while, and it's so hard to hear about moms to be who just throw babies away. What sounds like a nightmare to you (maybe) could be such a gift to someone else. Please contact me if you have questions or need help... [email protected]


Squid - June 6

Just have an abortion. Babies are expendable.


Doris - July 3

My friend thinks she is pregnant her and her boyfriend have been dating for two months n she is two months pregnant is that possibly or is the guy she dating not the dad of her on coming baby?? i need help thanks


hidden - July 3

well if they've only been dating 2 months and she is 2 months pregnant then unless they had s_x at the very beginning of their relationship it is probably a different father


I wonder ... - July 3

if Kelly Johnson read the same post. Amanda never said anything about aborting and right before Kelly's post Amanda said that adoption was not an option. I feel for people that desperately want a baby but I get a little sick seeing the same stuff from the same people over and over. First comes the guilt trip about how you should carry the baby to term and then they tell you about how many people want a baby and then, Wow, what a coincidence, she would be interested in adopting your baby. It just seems a little vulture like. Why do people lecture women about getting abortions when they never mentioned having one?



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