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FELICIA - August 5

ok i have to get this out here and now..there are way too many young girls getting on this site, and saying that they are pregnant, or that the guy doesnt want to be with them if theyre pregnant, or i cant tell my mom if im pregnant cuz sh__l kill me...im sorry, and no offense to the mother who had kids at young ages, but this is an outrage. you all need to stop having s_x at such a young age. and another thing, for all those girls who are younger than me, and want babies?? what is wrong with you? im 18 and love kids and work with them and im great with them, and i would never ever want one of my own at this age. you guys need to stop fooling around with guys at this age, and go to school and get a good job then decided whether or not you want a baby. take it from a girl whos mom had her at a real young age. i had a terrible childhood and my mom had no money and i didnt eat a lot and have good clothes till i worked myself and now am able to take care of myself. young girls arent ready for kids..thats all there is to it. thankyou.

 

marie - May 30

It's not always the woman's fault getting pregnant. There is pressure from the male. And sometimes birth control and condoms are used, also. It's not great of you to rant on a message board where teens come to ask questions and put them down. Yes, sure it's a mistake but it won't be for long. A child is a miracle. And making them feel bad about what they did and what has become of that pressures them into alternatives other than birth. :( I feel bad you felt you had to post this and act high and mighty about it. I'm a month and a couple weeks along and I was on Depo Prevera. Are you going to give me a speech I just shouldn't have given in to s_x? I know what I did. I don't know how it could've happened but I'm not going to go to a message board for young mothers and look for ways to make me feel bad. Support is what teenagers in this situation need.
I feel so bad for you.

 

felicia???? - June 4

i dont see why you would write something like that! these girls are here because theyre scared and need a little support right now. they dont need some one to put them down and make them feel like theyve dont something wrong! they might have made a mistake, but you know what, life isnt perfect and neither are you.

 

kim - June 4

Why would you say something like that to these girls who need support during this time when they have no one else to turn to. Its not their fault that their going to have a baby. Theres a lot of pressure in a relationship and its hard to say no to s_x when you love this person and having s_x seems like the right thing to do. Be careful about what you say because you could be on here soon asking questions of your oun.

 

hello - June 5

yeah i agree with marie. People make mistakes nobody is perfect and we all know d__n well you aint either. so instead of putting the girls down give good advice or just keep your mouth shut!!!-you feel me?

 

hello - June 5

and another thing why are you under this site maybe ur pregnant huh??

 

Katie - June 5

That is an entirely inappropriate thing to post here. Making people feel bad about themselves is NOT the answer. Also, lots of women are poor when they have children, not just teen moms. Restricting childbearing to women with money would be wrong on so many levels.

 

kay - June 7

AMEN! IF YOU CANT TAKE THE HEAT, STAY OUT OF THE KITCHEN! IN OTHER WORDS, IF YOU CANT DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES, DONT HAVE s_x!

 

KAY - June 7

SH'E JUSS SAYIN WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS AFRAID TO! IT IS ALWAYS THE GIRLS FAULT UNLESS SHE WAS RAPED. WELL, ITS THE BOYS FAULT TOO. I MEAN, YOU CAN ALWAYS SAY NO. IF YOUR MAN KNOWS HOW YOU ARE, THAT YOU SAY NO AND MEAN IT, HELL STOP. IF HE WONT TAKE NO FOR AND ANSWER, DUMP HIM.

 

Amille - June 7

Well, its like this ladies...once u experience the finer things in life so u want to give them up? no you dont...s_x is the same way...its fun and enjoyable so dont count on us stopping anytime soon

 

celeste - June 11

Felia, I understand your concern, but really come on, do you need to react that way, teen pregnancy has been going on for years, and the percentage has tooken a decrease in the US thanks to the 24 hour pill and other contraceptives. It sounds like you still hold your mother responsible for what you went through as a child. You have issue unresolved with your mother that need to be put to rest. But please don't take it out on others, Im a chil;d couselor and Ive seen many women come my way as teen mothers, and I can proudly say that they are getting their lives together. Their are many more resources to help young moms then their were back then. So calm down and please talk to someone about your situatin.

 

kay - June 12

s_x is a spirit. i mean, once you have s_x once, you realize that you cant or dont want to stop.

 

Beth - June 16

HOld on here ladies. Where is Felicia put anybody down? All she is doind is simply giving some advice. I don't see where she called these young girls any names. She is simply stating that you really have to think about having s_x at such a young age. Also, I know there is a lot or pressure from the male. Believe me, I have been through a lot of jerks that wouldn't respect me, but that doesn't mean that I had to put up with it. We women have EVERY right to say no. And yes, a child is a miracle, but it's so much better when you know that you are able to take care of it. The only reason you guys are so upset with Felicia and what she said is b/c you probably got yourself in the same situation, and you know that what she said is true. And there is nothing wrong with her voicing her opinion and trying to help these young girls by giving them some advice that someone should have given you!

 

ria - June 18

ALL RIGHT, BETH! GET EM!

 

To Beth - June 19

Yea she did not call anyone names or anything, but come on, are you blind or what? this is a forum for teenagers who are already pregnant or think they are. They come here for support. Im sure they don't need a bitter person telling them this long sad story. Who cares, instead enlighten them on how to get contraceptives or condoms. Better yet give them encouragement, that they can go on to achieve goals through hard work. Nobody who is pregnant needs to hear about someone who had a bad childhood and had to take of themselves. Their are too many babies being born in restrooms, and dumped in trash cans because they feel ashamed of being pregnant so young. It is NOT OKAY to make someone feel bad about being pregnant. If she really wants to help, she should go to teen parties where this s_x is going on. She should go to high schools and talk to teens there. If anyone is on this site, its because they think they are pregnant or they are. They come here because of people like her. If they can't talk to their friends or family, this is the place they come to , to talk to teens who are pregnant and know how they feel, the only people who should be on here are those who want to help, those who try to convince them to not be afraid and go to their parents, or convince them to go to a clinic. We are trying to protect these teens and their dignity. places like this help keep the percentage of babys born in alleys and then tossed away down. People are not upset with Felecia because they are in the same position. They are upset because this is a place to help those in the same situation. All of us here are coming forward and being honest with friends and family, we don't need someone who has personal demons, to try and darken our spirits.

 

Jane - June 21

I completely agree with you Felicia. I am b__wn away by how many children are having children. They are absolutely CLUELESS about the mess they are getting themselves into. PLEASE get an abortion if you are not financially and emotionally stable. Otherwise your child will grow up feeling neglected and unloved because you have to work 2 jobs to support them and have no time to nurture them. And when people say that "if you're responsible enough to have s_x, then you're responsible enough to have a baby" c___p, that's bullsh*t. S_x is not a responsible act. It is probably one of the least responsible actions you can take. Your mind is way off track, your hormones are raging- you're not thinking logically. Responsibility is taking into consideration your future and the future of your child. How to give your child a quality life full of love and devotion. Plus, most likely you will not be with the father in the future if you have a child in your teens, and single mothers aren't exactly a decent guys top pick for a relationship- maybe a one night stand. I am 25 and engaged to be married to the most wonderful man I've ever met. I had an abortion 3 months ago. It was a hard decision for the both of us but we have no regrets. We are in the prime of our lives, but definately not ready for the financial and mental burden of a child right now. We are waiting until we have experienced everything and every place in the world to experience until we have children, so we can devote every precious minute to watching them grow.

 

carrie - June 22

Jane, your mom should have gotten an abortion when she found out she was having you.

 

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