Soooooooo Stressed Out

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oxpinkyxo - February 7

This pregnancy is driving me mad!!!!!!!!!! One minute i want to keep it and really happy, the next minute i'm considering abortion. I originally planned to go to university in september but now my plans are ruined. I also keep wanting to end it with my boyfriend, sometimes i want to be with him and sometimes i dont and sometimes i really hate him. I'm going through happiness and sadness in the space of about 5minutes all day long. i didnt expect it to be this hard. is anyone else feeling the same? or is it just me

 

xoxticiaxox - February 7

Oh wow, this is way normal, seriously thoght, dont give your man up, because you will regret it. Its all the hormones, and stresses of life put in one...you will get through it and everything will work out. YOu can still do UNI, maybe just a few years down the road....sometimes lifes plans change...not for the worst..just in a different way..good luck and really...my sister got an abortion...and now that she sees me pregnant, she regrets it sooo badly! She said she would give up her whole life just to have that baby back.

 

Nerdy_Girl_10242006 - February 7

everyone goes through this. I know how you feel. I sometimes want to get up and leave my husband because something he does annoys me so bad. But I don't really ever plan on leaving him. Our hormones are going crazy right now, and being young we tend to do and say things and over react more then we want too. Your plans aren't ruined...I am in college, taking online cla__ses. And some places allow you to take your baby (depending on where you are from) but online cla__ses are just as good, they allow you to do just as much. There is always a way around things, you just have to dig deep and figure out what that university will allow you to do. Your pregnant, it is a very joyful thing. Sometimes second guessing the baby isn't a good thing if you do end up going thru with the pregnancy. The baby can feel your every feeling and if the baby feels that the mom doesn't want him/her there is a slight discomfort from the baby with you after birth. They feel neglected and unwanted so they become frustrated and will cry. This is a beautiful thing happening with you, one of the biggest responsibilities of having s_x is learning to cope with the fact that there is a chance of becoming pregnant. Your baby knows what you feel, and if you feel hatred so much toward your boyfriend the baby won't like their father either. Its hard, but you will get through it and what you are experiencing is mood swings, so you can either get used to it or let it over power you. I say you do what I do, just get a journal, write how you feel and don't let anyone else read or see what you write, me I do it on the computer. I save it in a file and make sure no one can get into it. It makes me feel better in the end. I let everything out and I will cry, then I will laugh...but last I look at the best things that will come out of this. I don't write about my hubby or anything but mainly work. I used to feel that way towards my husband but then I think about all he does for me. Its not the baby that is the problem, the problem is the hormones making you feel things you have never felt. It will come to an end in a while...how far are you? and how old?

 

Noodle - February 7

hey, i know how you feel. i had just been accepted to become a paramedic in the young training scheme in england, and i found out i was pregnant., i thought if i keep this baby i cant do that and i really wanted that. but i kept my baby and you know what, i dont regret it at all. you can always do school later, you cant take back an abortion later.

 

oxpinkyxo - February 7

Thanks for the excellent advice. i'm only 6 weeks and 19 years old. just reading these makes me feel so much better knowing ppl are going through the same. how far is everyone and how old? xx

 

xsarahx_18x - February 7

as your only 6weeks your still trying to get your head around being pregnant aswell.. that took me such a long time, lol n you will be confussed about what your feeling!! im 18 n just over 27weeks x x

 

Noodle - February 7

i was 17 when i fell pregnant, i have had my baby now, she is coming up for 1 years old, and my husband and i are trying for another baby. im 19 years old now. im going to have 2 children then go to uni part time when they start school. once i have qualified i may consider having more children but not to sure yet, considering how expensive life is at the mo

 

Noodle - February 7

yeh shes right. i didnt find out i was pregnant until i was 8 weeks, and i tell you at your first scan when you can see the baby kicking and wriggling about, you will soon make your mind up as to what you want. its not a burdan on your life, trust me, its actually just a change in your lifestyle.

 

xoxticiaxox - February 7

Im 18 and 30 weeks and 1 day pregnant! wow, only 6 weeks? I didnt know I was pregnant untill about 11 weeks lol!

 

Nerdy_Girl_10242006 - February 7

I'm 18 and almost 10 weeks pregnant...and being in your first trimester is a really hard part to go through...thats when everything seems to go wrong so you aren't in the wrong at all feeling the way you do cause that was the time I would just yell at my husband and wish I never met him...although now I'm grateful I never acted on any of those feelings. Of course him holding me while I was crying helped because I knew he didn't want to lose me or the baby. But now your feelings will go crazy, but they do get better

 

EricaLynn - February 7

I hate to say this, but dont expect the feeling to go away. I am 19, in college and I have a 5 week old daughter. I knew I wanted her when I was pregnant, but I had feelings like yours my whole pregnancy. One minute I could not wait until the baby got here, the next I was like oh my god find an adoptive family! Right after she was born I had some ppd too, wich made things worse. I hated being a mom at first. Breastfeeding is demanding and no one can ever describe how hard being a mom really is. Bringing home your new baby is like falling asleep in your own bed and waking up in zimbabwe, if you ever get any sleep that is. Its not just you, good luck.

 

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