The First Few Weeks

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EricaLynn - April 24

So I know that I am pregnant, I have taken the tests, all positive. My boyfriends parents know, but how do I tell mine? I am going to tell my mom tomarrow for sure, I just wondered how you ladies deal/delt with the first few weeks. I am stressed about money of course and the doctors and telling the parents. Just wondering how you ladies told your parents? I could realy use some suggestions, I figure Id rather do it sooner than later, waiting will just make it harder I think. Thanks girls!

 

maren - April 25

Honestly, i just told my mom "well there is not good way to say this so mom im pregnant" thats pretty much how it went. Sorry im not to much help. It helps to know exactly what you want to do so when they ask you the 20 billion questions you will have answers.

 

Ca__sie06 - April 25

Well, it was a little different for me, because I was married. (at a young age, I was 18 when I got married) We had only been married about 8 months and it wasnt planned and my parents really wanted me to finish college before starting a family. When I found out we went and bought cute little bottles and wrapped them up and took them to his parents as an anniversary present and they freaked! They were so excited. My parents were quite as easy. I called my mom and talked to her and said "I know this isnt exactly what I had planned or what you expected, but we are pregnant" As for my dad, I didnt get to tell him!! I worked for him and had contacted my family physician about some meds I was taking and she called work to tell me but didnt realize I wasnt at work and she let it slip to dad. When I called him he just said "ok". It took them a few weeks to get excited but they couldnt be more thrilled now. (I am 25 weeks now and still stressed about money and dr appts! lol. That never goes away!!)

 

EricaLynn - April 25

Thank you ladies for the input. I know what I want, my boyfriend and I have talked about it in depth, I know it will be really hard to tell my mother but Id rather do it sooner than later. I just wanted some rea__surence that I am doing the right thing and that some one else has gone through what I will. What were your parents reactions maren?

 

quinnies_mommy - April 25

I made a really nice dinner, sat my grandparents down ( I was raised by them) and told them everything good that was going on in my life, and I asked them if they would support any decision I made in life. They said yes, and I said, well I really need your support and love right now. Ked and I are having a baby. She just said that she understood and asked me if I had a life plan. then i called my mom, and said hey mom, your a grandma, and she said "its about time one of you girls popped one out" then ked just flat out said mom, ash is pregnant. and she ha__sled me for an abortion. I think that you should let them know that you have a plan, it will show them responsibility, and a__sure them that you are doing what you can to be an adult. And also, make them feel like you want them to be a part of it, and make them feel like you want their support (not financially, of course.) Things will work out. oh and keds mom is like the best grandma now.

 

MMMAMMMA - April 25

hey congratulations xx I think most of us have been there now. I found it easier to tell my parents on my own (but each to their own) I told my mum first. She was upset and we both had a good cry and I was amazed at how supportive she was, but she said she knew I must be scared soI didnt need a load of ha__sle. My dads still a bit p__sed off and quiet around my boyfriend but I think he's ok with it. We've moved into our own place and I'm studying hard for my exams, and I think he thought that me being pregnant would stop me doing that but it hasnt changed a whole lot. Good luck xxxx

 

maren - April 25

It was actually kinda funny when i first told my mom because the first thing she said was "I told you Birth Control doesnt work anymore" I got a good laugh out of that one. Granted tshe was upset but i had already started to set stuff up, like i already went to the doctor, i was starting to figure out health insurance and stuff, i Knew what i wanted to do. Yea they were mad when i first told them, of course thats not what was "planned" for my life but guess what they are my parents and they love me so in the end they are excited to become grandparents. my dad was actually relieved to hear that i was pregnant.....he thought i was going to say i was ingaged, lol he doesnt know my bf too good so that would have freaked the c___p out of him.

 

frankschick2001 - April 25

Say "Mom, I'm pregnant". There is no other way to say it unless it is something she is going to be happy about then you can play guessing games or something or get her a gift. But since it sounds like this is something she is not going to be happy about, just come out and tell her. But make sure she isn't on her way to work or doing something important. That would be really selfish. Just sit her down and say it.

 

EricaLynn - April 25

Thank you ladies so so much. I am going to tell my mother today, I have already made doctors apts and stuff. My biggest problem is that my mother has never been very supportive, but I hope she wont freak out to bad. Im not going to tell my dad yet, I think I need her help for that. My boyfriend told his mom, and I think Ill tell mine. I am so nervous and afraid, I know Im going to get yelled at alot, but I hope everything works out. Thank you so much for the support!

 

quinnies_mommy - April 25

Best of luck. Let us know how things work out.

 

ash2 - April 25

so erica did you tell her yet ?? how did she take it ??

 

EricaLynn - April 25

I told my mom. We were on our way to shopping and I just sat down and talked for a minute and then I was like I have to tell you something, Im pregnant. She took it alot better than I thought she would, I know my dad will be worse thought. I thought she was going to freak out and kill me but instaid she gave me a hug and told me she wanted to pull together and be a famialy right now because I needed support. I was so releaved and Im so glad I didnt wait to tell her, now I have my first apt next week on thursday, so now both the mothers know and the fathers will know tonight I think. it went alot better than I thought I am so glad I have you ladies to back me up. Thank you again a thousand times over for the support. PS my mom is really pushing me to put up the baby for adoption, but that is NOT what my boyfriend and I want, I know is my decision and she does too, but is there anyway to get her to stop ha__seling me?

 

quinnies_mommy - April 25

get a plan. Sit down with your boyfriend and write down all the aspects of having the baby and how much it is going to cost (ie: rent, bills, diapers, etc.) then set a plan on how you are going to get that money for those things. Figure out your living arrangements, etc....when you do this, show it to your mom.... It will help her see that you are responsible enough to take matters into your own hands. If you can show her that you can do it, then she is going to let you. I hope this helped a bit. if you would like to talk my msn messenger is: [email protected] and my yahoo messenger is the same. : )

 

EricaLynn - April 25

Thank you again. I am getting a job at our hospital as a housekeeper, jobs at the hospital get excellent benifits. My boyfriend is going to be a construction aprentice, both pay a respectable salary. Our parents both think we should stay between the two homes, so it will save us on rent bills and things like that until we are stable. I am still planning on going to collage to be a nurse, and we will probalby move out once I finish my degree. We want to move out as soon as possible but our parents really want us to stay and I agree that it is probably the best decision for the time being. Every one but my dad knows so far and so far they have all been good about it. I think my mom is slowly starting to realize that I am not givign the baby up for adoption and that we are going to keep and raise it no matter how hard it is. Im sure she will nag me some more but it is my decision and I want this baby, I really do, my boyfriend does too and we are excited about it. Telling the parents was just really hard. Thank you ladies again!

 

quinnies_mommy - April 25

Thats so good to here! I'm glad that your family took it well. Good luck telling your dad. Best wishes! Keep us posted!

 

EricaLynn - April 25

Thanks I definitely will, we are going to tell him as soon as he gets here. Hopefully its not to much longer, its such a relief now to have everyone knowing.

 

EricaLynn - April 25

My msn email is [email protected] if anyone needs or wants to chat, im only like 6 weeks but im still there with you.

 

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