What Happens Next

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stephanie - June 21

im thirteen. i just just found out im pregnant. how do i tell my dad im pregnant? my mother died when she was having me. she was 15. im really scared.

 

Shelly - June 21

Are you and your dad close? I can see why you're scared. Just because your mother had problems in childbirth, doesn't mean you will too. You need to see a doctor right away. About telling your father,let them know that you need his help. Say something like, “ I really need your help figuring some stuff out.” Second, make sure that you do it at a good time. Ask, “Is there some time that you could talk to me about it?” Third, prepare him for a big shock. Say something like, “It’s really hard for me to talk about this. I’m feeling nervous. I don’t know how to start. I’m worried about what you will think.” Now he will be listening. Tell him your story. A few things to keep in mind: If you think he might hava a violent reaction, have another adult that you trust present when you tell him. This might just be a good idea anyway you think he'll react. Your reaction to his first reaction is very important. Remember, he's your father and cares deeply for you. The information you are giving them is going to hurt him. No matter how he reacts, be understanding. Say something like, “You’re right.” or “I agree.” Keep it short, and don’t make excuses. Be sure to listen, and not interrupt or argue. It is important to not make him more upset. Ask for advice when he has gotten used to the idea. Let them feel special that you chose them out of all the people you know to share this with. Remember a well placed “I love you.” can be invaluable. Use this phrase whenever it feels right. Hope this helps. Let me know how you're doing. Love, Shelly

 

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