Why Is It So Wrong Or Strange

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Jen - October 13

Why some people think it is wrong for people to post that they want to adopt a baby? Some people feel they are not ready to parent, thankgod there are people out there that want to adopt a child. My sister adopted a 10 year old. The little girl would have been in foster care an her parents wanted my sister to adopt her. Let the people in the situation decide what's best for them. Also, some people want to start a family and can't, others are having babies and don't want them or can't care for them. SOunds like t match to me. People meet other people on the internet all the time, sometimes they even find a soulmate and marry. Why can't adoptive couples find a match online? Why can't it work? Pregnant women could know all options, if they are not ready or can't parent a child. Why can't they find a couple online? Of course there are sick people online but there are sick people everywhere. Any thoughts?

 

GuitarJade - October 13

I agree. Unfortunately, there are many close-minded people in the world. It's just one of those things that isn't "normal" and therefore, isn't accepted. It's sad really. It would be nice if people would open their eyes and widen their horizons.

 

Kally - October 13

I think I understand why you posted as I have read some comments to you on this site. I think some of the comments are made because of posting on a teenage forum and some people may come to the conclusion (and these aren't my words) that teenagers, especially the youngest, can be very impressionale and trusting when they read this sort of post, and some of the posts to you are probably from people concerned that you could be manipulative (again not my words). I know it takes a lot of hard work to gain any trust on the internet. So try not to take it personally. There are a lot of strong minds and opinions on this site (I chose my words carefully!)

 

Jen - October 13

I know, I just thought that is would be interesting to find out why. Girls are impressionale and trusting, I feel that is even more of a reason to give them every option. If anyone is forcing them to do something, it would be friends or parents. You can't keep a girl locked in her room without interaction. People gather information and make a decision. These girls are also doing very adult things and need to make a clear decision. Some of the girls on this message board are 18 and up. The younger ones obviously have been through more then they should have at their age and there are many wrose sites then this one. Personally, I would never take a baby away from anyone!! I think peopel shold worry about murderers, rapists, child molesters..........not adoptive parents. Anyway, I just felt like arguing with these people, lol. You two are nice/open minded people. There is a right way and a wrong way to say things.

 

Jen - October 13

In order to adopt you have to have a homestudy, background check, fingerprinting. After that, you can do an identified adoption, if you do meet someone online, you can go through an agency. It just makes the wait not so long if you find someone on your own. There is also a danger for adoptive couples, so it is good to go through an agency. Also, there are bad people everywhere.....something we have to live with. Of course there are good experiences and bad experiences in everything you do. The world can be dangerous. Sad but true. Sometimed good things do happen and on the flip side, you can meet good/nice peple. I do understand where you are coming from and I understand what you mean. I just hate how somepeople are so rude about it. None of you here are but I read something in the single and preg that I thought was mean and judgemental to adoptive couples. Anyway, adoption or no adoption..I am addicted to reading posts and this site, lol. I have no hard feelings and I do understand both sides.......I just don't agree with alot of it. I am coming from a diff point of view and I like to stay open minded.

 

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