Wife Mother School Full Time Job AAAhhh

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Anastacia - January 12

Hi! I'm just using this to let out some stress. I found out I was pregnant last Friday. I'm 18 (19 in May) and I feel like I've made a mistake. I know it's bad to say it because a baby is a blessing but it just feels like my life is over. I'm not the "party-type". That's not why I'm complaining. I just wanted to be somebody. I want to go to college and get a business degree but I don't know if I can now. I'm 6 weeks pregnant. I went to the doctor today and I have to go back in 2 weeks for a sonogram. I don't believe in abortions so that's not an option. I just want to know that it can be done. I graduated from high school in May and I started working for a great company, I get paid pretty good too. Me and my boyfriend are moving in together in about 2 weeks and we'll be getting married in the near future. My life is alright. I guess I just expected more out of life and out of myself. Has anybody done it? Can I be a mother, wife, go to school, and have a full-time job? I guess I'll have to put school to the side for a while. Has anyone done it?

 

maren - January 12

im going to try for it. im going to college right now, I might have to switch to going to school part time to make sure i have time for me the baby and the boyfriend but i dont see why it cant be done. There is no doubt in my mind that it will be hard and that school will take longer than if i didnt get pregnant but give it a try if thats what you want to do its worth a try isnt it.

 

Anastacia - January 12

You're right. It is worth a try. I wish you the best, I hope we can get through it all. Are you pregnant too or have you already had your baby?

 

maren - January 13

i am a little over 15 weeks pregnant and im due July 3rd. I wish you the best of luck to its going to be hard and school will take us alot more time but the way i look at it is even if i dont go back next fall for some reason i have a year of college under my belt. Some experience is better than none if you ask me. The only way to find out is to try email me some time if you have any questions [email protected]

 

izzy1052 - January 13

hey anastacia.. i was in the same boat as you.. i am 19, i WAS in school for criminal justice, i had a full time job, and me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years.. we agreed no marriage but who knows maybe someday... but anyways... i was working full time and trying school and it got too hard not because of the pregnancy... it was because i wasnt seeing my boyfriend AT ALL... if you try school part time and maybe work part time... that would be great and still give you time to relax.. but i think you can do it if your determined... but you will need time for yourself and you would be really really busy... i wish you luck...

 

Re - January 13

What about the poor child? While you are at work its going to be brought up by someone else all day whoever is taking care of him/her and wont hardly know its own mother. Parents should look after their kids themselves. They can be spoilt with all these fancy toys as a subst_tute for their parents love and attention of course... :@

 

Kristina - January 13

Hey I got pregnant around this time of the year last year, and turned 19 last May, haha what a coinsidence! =) Yes it will be hard on you to have all these things on the go, but if you are committed to doing do then it is certainly possible. Good luck and congrats!

 

Bonnie - January 13

Realistically, things are possible. But your child has to come first which means a lot of your plans will now have to be pushed off to the side for later. You cannot take on being a full time mom, full time job, and school all at once. Either someone else looks after the child all day (I am not a fan of this either, at least not for a couple years), or you work or go to school part time. Realistaically there just isn't enough time in the day. Unless you can work at home and do online courses (nolt sure what work you do). I don't want to bring you down, but you do want to bea realistic about what one person can physically do. That's not to say that you can't do all of this, just maybe not all at one time. You just may need to put some things on hold until your child is a little older or try som home based businesses. Good luck!

 

bloodlust - January 13

Ahh..I'm in the same boat. I found I was pregnant yesterday, I'm worried how I'm going to balance being a mother, schooling, job and so on. I'm going to try the best I can. That's all we can do I guess. If your determined, I don't see why you can't. Then again, I've never had to do this before.

 

Erica - January 13

I was in the same boat completely, I have a 3 month old and I am goin to college full time. i was 18 when i got preg and am 19 now. I graduated hs at 6 months along. Oh you have a full time job though, I dont work. Something i think between school and work would probabily have to give. Financial aide completely paid for my college with my situation. I like with my fiance right now in housing which the state also pays for since Quintins dad is also a full time student. There is help out there you just gotta look. I was never the party type either, but i didnt want kids til like 29, 30ish.. whoopsy. I know ur prob. freaking but things will calm down and things will fall into place. If you want you can add me, [email protected], or i have aim ericacolleen2005. hope this helps!

 

Erica - January 13

oops my msn messenger one is [email protected], not msn.com..

 

frankschick2001 - January 13

There is no valid reason why you can't make something of yourself while being a wife and mother. Challenging, yes no doubt about that. But if you are keeping the baby, then embrace the challenge!

 

frankschick2001 - January 13

Hey RE, I think your posting was insulting to all working mothers. Some moms work because they have no choice. Yes, I think it would be ideal to stay home with the baby but for some people, that is not an option. And if you say "then why have children?" that is like saying that unless you have a man who makes enough money to support everyone, you have to deny yourself motherhood! So only the rich or well-off, or those willing to be poor and struggling are allowed to have children? RE, your posting is outdated and doesn't relate at all to Anastacia's original issue. I am 32 and when I have a baby, I will be a working mom. Not only to provide but also because I LIKE MY CAREER! And a happy mom is a good mom. My mother was (and is) a working mother and she is the most loving mother God could have given me. I never felt neglected or like I cam ein second. She loved us, and always did the best she could and we could not have had better! Anastacia can achieve anything she wants to if she tries hard enough.

 

maren - January 13

did any of you ladys who said she cant do this alone read that she has a boyfreid. she wont be doing this alone while shes at work her boyfriend could be watching the baby. What she wants to do and what i plan to do is perfectly aceptable. What do you want her to do for gods sake stop work and everything so she can be a stay at home mom. moms going to school, working and taking care of there familys are very common. Stop telling this girl what she should do its her decision and its worth a try if thats her dream so just calm down and stop stomping all over it. everyone that has been suportive thank you isnt that what we all need right now.

 

becca - January 13

im afriad i dont agree to be honest i mean yea you can do all of that corse but the baby has to com first!!

 

maren - January 13

becca if you think this girl would not put her child first i think your crazy because there is no reason she cant try to this if she finds out it doesnt work for her at least she knows she tryed. Which is alot better than sitting there and saying oh well i wanted to what if i could. By trying she leaves no doubt of wether she could or couldnt have done it.

 

Anastacia - January 13

I AM going to go to school. My baby will come first, of course, but that doesn't mean that I can't still do something with my life. Thank you all so much. To frankschick2001=you're right...I didn't even think about my mom doing the same with me and my bros and sis. she's been working full time since always and she's a grrreat mom. We can do this. Yeah, it'll take longer but it's worth it if you want it bad enough. I've always been very involved in my community and school and have been working since I was 16. I consider myself as very independant, I don't want to stay home all day every day feeling useless and having my boyfriend give me what I need. That just wouldn't feel right to me. I asked around in my job and I was told that I would get 6 weeks paid maternity leave and if I wanted to stay longer, my short term disability would kick in. I'll have access to the internet at home and at work so I will probably take a couple on-line cla__ses. I work full time, I put in 85-90 hours every 2 weeks. I work Wed. 12am-6am, Thurs. 6pm-6am, Fri. 6pm-6am, and Sat. 6pm-6am. I'm off all day Sun. Mon. Tues. and Wed. (i go in till midnight) So I'll get to be there for the baby either way right. I work 3 1-2 days a week. I'll be off the other 3 1-2 days. Reading everyone's comments have really helped a lot. It's made me think.

 

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