Any East Indian Background Moms Out There

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Tanya2 - June 12

I'm 26, born in Ghana West African, now Canadian, living here for over 8 years now. My husband is African Canadian as well, originally from Uganda. My parents are East Indian, and was just wondering if there are any others out there. To be honest, I'm not too cultured although proud of my background. I have an 8 and a half month old daughter and having a son in Sept. The two will be 11 months apart. It wasn't planned, I was exclusively br___tfeeding but we are both happy about this. Anyways just thought I would introduce myself and see if there are any others out there. Sometimes we have our own cultural issues and its nice to know that there are people out there who might understand where we are comming from.

 

Mingill - June 12

Hey Tanya2, I'm also of East Indian ancestry (on my dad's side) and Ojibway on my mother's. I was raised on my mother's native reserve (parents divorced) so I'm not too cultured on the East Indian side either, but I am still very proud of that part of my heritage. I'm 30, expecting out first little one in Sept. My Dh is Canadian (French Canadian and Polish ancestry).

 

Tanya2 - June 12

Good to know. East Indian and Native, that's a nice mix. I went to uni at Lakehead way up in Thunder Bay, and everyone thought I was native. I remember even the natives comming up to me and speaking Ojibwe. So do you look more like your mom or dad? It will be interesting to see what your baby looks like. My daughter is half black and Indian mix, she came out looking like a little eskimo, and now she has changed, looks more East Indian though. She has her dad's eyes and curly hair but her hair is soft like mine.

 

Mingill - June 12

How do I look, well it depends on the day, what I wear and what I weigh. When I was 16 and a size 9, I looked way more East Indian, now I'm older with some extra weight so I look a tad more like my mother. I have my dad's colouring, his smile and the East Indian body hair (lovely thick eyebrows LOL). But I have my mom's cheekbones and body type (oh yeah, nice and round). But to my DH, I'm the best he could ask for, he's always found East Indian women attractive, and he's always loved native culture, so I'm perfect :o) We've been trying to guess what baby will look like. We're a__suming dark brown/black hair, brown eyes and maybe a nice shade of beige. I find I'm always checking out the kids of inter-racial couples (when one parent is East Indian) to get and idea. LOL, to the natives speaking Ojibwe to you, I get the opposite, I get East Indian people speaking Hindi to me. I can't go to an East Indian restaurant without someone trying it, and then I get the usual question "What, you don't speak it?" My dad is from the Punjab and that's what his side of the family speaks, so I'd love to learn to talk to them.

 

Tanya2 - June 12

Right now i'm way overweight but before my first baby, I was still a little bigger compared to most of the slim East Indian women. How lucky are they, i always say why didn't I get that gene in me. The good thing is that my husband is African and says he prefers women with meat on. My parents are both from Delhi, I don't speak Hindi since I wasn't brought up in India but i do understand a little bit of it. Yes its funny how if you go to and Indian restaurant or do my eyebrows (I get my eyebrows threaded at an Indian place), they a__sume you speak hindi and i feel bad because I answer in English. HOpe they don't think I'm a spoilt brat. I've seen lots of Indian and white mix, the babies always vary, infact my friends sister is married to an American, and the baby had loads of hair but was very fair skinned. They are all different though, you will be amazed when you see your little one and no matter what, they will be perfect.

 

Mingill - June 12

My mom taught us a few words in Punjabi, and she used to sit us down to watch Eye on Asia (Sunday, City TV bollywood films). She used to say, we needed to learn about our culture one way or another. To this day I have a weakness for bollywood films (with subt_tles of course). I've wanted to get my brows threaded, but I haven't found a place here in Ottawa. I did the waxing thing (it stings, but it's over quickly) for my wedding. I think my dad's side of the family was proudest when I changed into a red sari at the reception (I wore a regular wedding gown for the ceremony). You should have heard the cheering. Everyone is excited about baby, and I'm sure baby will be perfect no matter what. This is the first grandchild for my mom and dad (dad remarried, I have a younger half brother and sister).

 

Tanya2 - June 12

Bollywood films, I used to enjoy the old movies with Amithab Bachan, now a days I don't watch any, mainly because I hate the songs and the dance, it goes on and on and makes the movie so long and is very cheesy too, dancing in the rain etc. Although i hear there are some really good movies now rather than the same old, boy falls for girl, girl is rich and father disapproves and he has to fight to get their approval. That was really cool that you wore a sari for your reception. I do like the new salvaar kameez they have now but i haven't had the chance to wear mine. I would think that there would be more Indians on this forum. I guess we are the only ones. We should keep it going someone might join us later. I have my docs appointment tom, I'm sure all is well. How about you, when is your GD test?

 

Mingill - June 13

I know, I totally would have expected a few more Indians. My next GD test is this thursday, 9:00 am, I'm really not looking forward to it. But after coming to terms with the fact that I might have to deal with GD, I doing much better. I did spend one day in bed feeling miserable. On my mom's side, 9 out of 9 have diabetes, and in 2001 we lost 3 within the span of 6 months (2 aunts and an uncle) to complications from diabetes. So I don't see diabetes in a very positive light. All I could think of was doom and gloom. But I got it together, and thought about people I know who are living with diabetes and doing well. So, if my results come back with GD, then I'm ready to do what it takes to keep baby and myself healthy.

 

Tanya2 - June 13

Sorry to hear about your aunts and uncle. That must have been tough. Atleast you will have a lot of support if you do end up having it. I just got back from my OB, had dissapointing news. I also failed the first GD test, like i did with my first pregnancy. I have to do the second one sometime this week, probably go on Thurs. Last time however, I pa__sed with the second test and I'm hoping i do so again. But if i don't, I'm looking at it from the point that I will be disciplined to eat healthy and right. I kind of go crazy on my ice cream and Coke. This way i will be forced to eat healthy and when the baby is born I will hopefully be able to make better choices. In any case i just hate sitting around for 2 hours, I will miss my baby girl but I don't want to take her to the lab. I will probably leave her with my Dad and take a good book to read.

 

Mingill - June 13

Sorry about your g/d test, but good luck on your 2nd test. I'll be doing the same thing. I think what a dull way to spend my time, sitting around waiting to have my blood drawn, not my fav. thing to do first thing in the morning. I just found out that my appt. is at the high risk clinic (not the obvious choice of the diabetes clinic), that sort of freaked me out, but I'm hoping it doesn't mean too much. Having never gone through pregnancy before, I guess I'm just nervous and tend to worry more than I should :0)

 

Mingill - June 14

Hey Tanya, how's everything going? Dh and I went to our first prenatal cla__s last night, it was very informative. It was odd, 5 couples, and we're all due within a week or so of eachother and none of us want to know what baby's s_x is. Anyway, I called the hospital to find out if I need to fast for tomorrow or not when I'm told, no, we're not doing any blood work. Apparently if you're higher than 10.3 on the first test (I was 11.9) they just consider you gestational diabetec. So tomorrow is all about how to test my blood and a visit with the dietician. Oh, well, whatever's best for baby, who is kicking up a storm today :o)

 

Tanya2 - June 14

I was 9.2 so I get tested again, last pregnancy i was 8.7 so it has gone up significantly. I hope I pa__s this time but as I said if i don't i'll look at it like a good way to prepare myself to eat healthy. Good luck tomorrow and let me know how it goes and especially with the dietician, this way i'm a bit prepared. I have to fast, so i guess i'll be doing it tonight. Don't worry, we all are more nervous the first time around, I was like that too and with the second pregnancy it gets a lot easier. Glad you are enjoying your prenatal cla__s, I remember with ours they did 3 sessions on labour which i thought was useless, one session would have been good enough. Mainly because everyone ends up having to go through things differently and we just need the basics. What i find more important is how to care for a newborn and we only had 3 sessions on that, it should have been more. The good thing is that we were 8 in our group and 7 of us and the babies get together even now once every week, we go to each others homes, the park etc with the babies. It is so much fun to hang out with other moms and to see where the babies are at. Hopefully your group can do that. 4 of the babies were born on the same week, one of them was earlier, emergency C, and two of them born after 2 weeks of all the other babies so its fun. Good luck with your test tom and let me know how it goes. I think I'll be going for mine in the morning too. Take care.

 

Tanya2 - June 15

Mingill , how did it go today? How is your diet like? I'm curious incase I have to go through it. I did my 2 hour test today and hoping and praying it came negative. The results will be mailed to my doc tom, and tom being Friday I don't count on them recieveing it till WEds next week. I have an appointment on the 28th and will probably find out then. Hope you are ok and all is well with you. Post soon.

 

Mingill - June 15

Hi Tanya, I'm on an 1800 cal/day diet. Limiting my carbs and of course no extra sugar. I have to eat every 2 -3 hours making a grand total of 6 meals a day. I am not allowed to go longer than 10 hours without food (so a well timed bedtime snack) and I get to test my blood sugars twice a week, and will visit the doctor on a regular basis.

 

Mingill - June 15

Whoops, that's test my sugars twice a day. I wish I only had to poke myself twice a week :o)

 

Tanya2 - June 15

Men thats a strict diet. Good luck, I don't think I could do that. What are some of the foods you are allowed to eat? No sugars, low carbs, it must be tough especially with pregnancy and the cravings we all get. Good luck with that, how far along are you? Just try and focus on the fact that your body will be so healthy and after pregnancy you will loose more weight since you will be disciplined enough.

 

Mingill - June 15

Yeah, I'm determined to lose the baby weight and more after. The portions are as outlined in the Canada food guide. Sample of a daily meal plan: Breakfast (15 g of carbs in the bread)= 1 slice of whole wheat bread, 1 egg, 1 tsp of margarine and water or diet drink. (1 Grain, 1 protein, 1 Fat, Extras). Snack 1 (22 g of carbs in the cereal and milk) = 1/2 cup unsweetened cereal, 1/2 cup of milk, 30 g of cheese (the fats are in the cheese) and water or diet drinks. (1 Grain, 1 milk, 1 meat, 1 fat, Extras). Lunch (45 g of carbs in the noodles and fruit) = 1 cup of noodles, 1 small-medium orange, 60 g of lean meat, 2 tsp of oil, 1 cup of cooked green beans, water or diet drink. (2 grains, 1 fruit, 2 meats, 2 fat, 1 veggie, extras). Snack 2 (22 g of carbs in crackers and milk) = 7 soda crackers, 1 "Source" yougurt, 25 g of cheese (fats are in the cheese), water or diet drink. (1 grain, 1 milk, 1 meat, 1 fat, extras). Dinner (45 g of carbs in rice and fruit) = 2/3 cups of rice, 1/2 a banana, 100 g of lean meat, 2 tsp of margarine, 1 cup of spinach, water. (2 grains, 1 fruit, 3 meat, 2 fat, 1 veggie, extras). Snack 3 (45 g of carbs in toast and milk) = 2 slices of toast, 1 cup of milk, 1/3 cup of hummas (fat included in hummus). (2 Grains, 2 milk, 1 meat, 1 fat).

 

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