Cant Belive This Friend

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Chrissythefairy - June 13

One of my closest friends all of a sudden went off on me. Throughout my pregnancy i have been going through a lot. I have been in the hospital twice and one time i had to stay for a week. Until very recently I have been very fatigued and very sick. Cant keep anything down and really pretty much miserable. I also have excess saliva wich makes me spit ALL DAY which is really embarassing in public which really keeps me from going out much. So i havent been hanging out with my friends much at all and due to the fatigue i been sleeping alot. So i havent been really able to keep in touch with my friends much either. All of a sudden i get an email from my good friend saying this... "dont contact me. u triflin az h__l cuz im not gonna sit here and chase u for ur friendship. peace out to you and good luck wit ya baby. no hard feelings but stay outta my life. That goes for u and others that try to play me" I couldnt belive it. Have any of you ladies have a friend turn on you because you were pregnant and couldnt do the things you did before?

 

ashley - June 13

How old is your friend... because what you just quoted sounded like something a silly high school girl would say.

 

Chrissythefairy - June 13

hey ashley she is my age 22! Yeah it is really immature of her i dont know were it came from. She is known to have an att_tude but never with me.

 

GraphxGirl - June 13

I had a friend treat me badly during my pregnancy. I used to go out to her house and help her out when I first got pregnant. She was just freshly going through a separation with her husband and has 2 disabled kids to look after so I would go and help her do some major cleaning throughout her entire house. When I got to be about 6 months pregnant I really wasn't able to do as much as I could before and I am a single mom myself. I got the flu and she had asked me to go help her clean and I said I really can't do that kind of stuff right now and I am also not feeling well. Well didn't she go right off on me and said stuff like, you just don't want to help me and are making up excuses and just cause your pregnant doesn't mean you are crippled. I was like oh my god !!! I have helped you out many times and I am sure that you can get someone else to help you now. She had no consideration at all for me being pregnant and uncomfortable, plus on top of that having the flu. We have been friends since we were like 11 years old, I am 27 now. You wouldn't think your best friend would treat you that way. She called me selfish and many other names. She really hurt me and I still to this day ever since that happened, do not feel the same about our friendship. We still talk on the phone sometimes but never hang out or anything anymore. It just goes to show who your real friends are. I have gone through my entire pregnancy alone without help from babys father and all that. It really is disapointing that a best friend could be so self centered. I hope all goes well for you... take care :)

 

ashley - June 13

how long have you been friends with her? dont contact me. u triflin az hell cuz im not gonna sit here and chase u for ur friendship. peace out to you and good luck wit ya baby. no hard feelings but stay outta my life. That goes for u and others that try to play me" SHE sounds like a gansta wanna be.. If that is her true colors do you really want to be freinds with her any way?

 

torbman - June 13

You have enough to worry about, I would concentrate on you and the baby. You have no time for high school games anymore. A true friend would be there for you and understand, and help in any way she could. Take care of you! (Tamara)

 

miraclebaby - June 13

I had to read it twice to understand it what the heck kinda of talk is that??? Sounds like she on drugs or "PMS" or p__sed off at the world. She is taking shots at others too, not just you. Very strange. I would re-evaluate the friendship and think, do I really want my child around someone like that ????

 

Chrissythefairy - June 13

Thanks ladies you are all right. Im not gona sweat it. I wrote back to her..... "what the is wrong with you kerah! dont u know im pregnant and ive been sick, in and out the hospital dealing with fatige and morning sickness all day. i go home and go to sleep im sorry that i cant be there for you the way you want me to and im sorry that you cant understand how hard this has been for me. I think its sad that you would actually catch feelings and get mad at me. Most of my friends and family understand that this has been really a ruff time for me. Im finnaly getting some energy to do a few other things rather then sleep. Belive me its nothing personal against you. One day maybe you will understand. I didnt realize that being sick was triflin but thanks for the heads up."...... GraphixGirl, seems like she was the selfish one and ungrateful one shame on her she should be the first to know and understand. How far along are you?

 

Chrissythefairy - June 13

miriclebaby i think she was drunk cause she does like to drink alot and one time she went off on me cause she got real drunk and was acting like a nut case. Shes really weird when she drinks.

 

Rebekah B - June 13

Chrissy, this is not about you being pregnant (as far as this girl is concerned). This is about your "friend’s" jealousy, selfishness, and insecurities. If I had to guess, I would say that your "friend" has probably had a difficult life and made many bad decisions. Seeing you make good decisions and living a happy life is just too much for a selfish young girl to grasp. Don’t react to her, and if you do, kindness is the best. Tell her that you understand and that you appreciate the good times you have shared and that you wish her the best (even though that may not all be true). Can you imagine her reaction to that e-mail? Funny!

 

GraphxGirl - June 13

I am gonna be 36 weeks on Thursday Chrissy, what about you?

 

Rebekah B - June 13

That girl is CRAZY! Holy c___p! Call me old fashioned, but I think your man should come before your friends (if you love him and he loves you). This girl seems way below you and not someone you want your baby to grow up with.

 

carol23 - June 13

I know this girl is your friend, but for real, this girl sounds like a real B*TCH!! I also think that your man should come before your friends (if you really love eachother). Especially when you're expecting HIS BABY!!! This girl is WAY too emotional and I will bet you a million dollars that she talks sh*t behind your back. f*ck that!!! You don't want your baby around these kinds of people. And yeah, she's your girl and what not, and you all may be really close, but it sounds like all she has to offer is drama and if things don't go her way, she get's p__sed. I actually have a friend that's similar to that. It's flat out jealousy. If she was a TRUE friend, she would be happy for you and she would understand. Instead, she's grumpy and HOW DARE SHE say she's "quite upset about you getting pregnant"? What kind of BullSH*t is that? IT's none of her business. That's a choice YOU made. Sorry ladies, it's just a hot day today and I'm tired and cranky. =) .

 

GraphxGirl - June 13

Wow!! Yeah it really seems like this girl has some issues and she is taking it out on you. You really don't need that at all hun !!! Take care of yourself and enjoy this happy time with your man :)

 

miraclebaby - June 13

chrissy run fast, no friend would do this to a pregnant (with complications) women. I know it hurts, but it will hurt worse her being in your life.

 

starr - June 13

I would be embara__sed to call this girl my "friend".Just from reading the nasty messages that she sent to u, why would u want to be around someone like that?A real friend does not get jealous of u.They should be happy for u and support u when u need them to.Good Luck

 

Lil Lady - June 14

I had a friend do something similar, but different situation. When I first got with my husband, who at the time was my BF, I was spending a lot of time with him & she was busy working. She calls me out of the blue one night & asks me to drop everything & go out with her that night. I was already hanging out with another friend & my hubby at the time & didn't want to ditch them so I asked if we could hang out another night. She says "No, forget it!" & hangs up. From there on out until Graduation, she refused to speak with me as if I deliberately turned her down. We had a falling out the whole year but then out of the kindness of my heart I went to her house one day & we talked & started slowly becoming friends again. I say all this because I don't think I haven't NOT had a fight or disagreement with ANY or ALL of my friends! I guess the TRUE friends would stick with you not matter what & be a little more understanding. I guess as far as me, I needed that fall-out to realize if our friendship was worth it or not. To this day I've only had one fall-out that didn't work out, which turned out better actually because she was IMMATURE as HELL!! Sorry, I hope this helps or at least gives you a different input.....and btw, I'm only 23 =)

 

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