Endless Worry

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Mrs.Steve - September 23

So this has been said a dozen times by alot of people, but I'm so worried about my baby being ok! It is beginning to consume me. I'm a worry wart by nature, but this is getting to be too much and I don't know how to stop it. I should be enjoying the rest of my pregnancy, but I can't because of the fears of all that can go wrong. I was deeply deeply affected by that tragic umbilical cord story and it's never really left my mind. I've been crying alot lately because of the constant being afraid. The first half of my pregnancy, I promised myself that once I got to 7 months, I wouldn't worry anymore. But then I read that story, and the cord issue was something I'd never given much thought. Then I found out that I'm likely GBS positive and it brought on a whole new set of fears. I see all these carefree pregnant women and wonder how they do it. Or maybe they worry and just don't show it? I love this little girl so much and just want her to be born healthy. My pregnancy has gone relatively well, but then I think, so did that other lady's. She posted that she was worried just a few days before she lost her baby. This isn't good for me or my baby and something's gotta give. My shower is Sunday, and I should be excited, but all I can really focus on is counting kicks. I do it all freakin' day. I want to ask if this is what anyone else is going through, but honestly I don't think this degree of worry is normal. But I don't know how to stop. My nurse pract_tioner and a couple of L&D nurses told me that alot of women worry about the cord issue and that though it does happen, more times than not, the baby comes out ok. I don't know why I'm so heavily affected by it, but I am. I have trouble talking to dh and family about it because they don't fully get it. Maybe it's because I'm home alone most of the day. Any advice on how to maintain my sanity (what's left of it, anyway)? I want to enjoy my pregnancy.

 

musicbaby - September 23

Oh Mrs. Steve! You poor thing. Its normal to worry about how everything is going to turn out, it means that you will be a great Mum. :-) I worry too. I think the best that we can all hope for is to come to grips with the fact that we really have no control over any of this. We can eat healthily and look after our own bodies as best as we can but the rest is out of our hands. Its a scary thought I know but you need to keep in mind that the chances of anything going wrong are so slim that it really doesnt warrent even thinking about. The poor lady who lost her baby we all feel for her and worry that the same thing could happen to us... but the chances are practically nil. You and your baby will be fine. And before you know it you will have a whole bunch of new worries once your LO is out in the big world. Worrying is a natural part of being a parent. If you are really being consumed by this fear perhaps its time to talk to a professional about how you are feeling. Sometimes just talking to someone who knows what they are talking about can be a big help. Being so worked up and stressed all the time is not good for either of you. I am thinking of you and your baby. Everything will be just fine. Just wait and see. :-)

 

docbytch - September 23

Trust me Mrs Steve...you are NOT alone. No thanks to the poster on the other forum who has actually wished my baby boy to die in a cord accident. Absolute horrifying thing to wish on anyone....I was already creeped out from CK's ordeal... So...your degree of worry probably parallels my own. It sucks!!! Oh....Do not worry about GBS+ status...that just means you will get antibiotics....the baby will probably get some too (don't remember). I am alone most of the time too. DH is an airline pilot and is gone a lot. I understand TOTALLY where you are coming from...which is why I spend lots of time online. We are all each other's only support system...unless we know other pregnant women personally. Guys are dumb....you are right...they just don't GET it

 

Mrs.Steve - September 23

docbytch-I read what that woman said to you, and I just cannot believe that someone would come to a pregnancy forum to hurt pregnant women like that. Especially since so many of us are fearful to begin with. I envy you, Docbytch, you don't have much longer before you meet your lo. I still have awhile. At my last appt, they told me that at 36 weeks, if I were to go into labor that they wouldn't stop it, so I could be meeting my baby in a few weeks. I'm 34 weeks, now, but honestly I think that her coming so soon just isn't feasible. I'm not due until Nov 5, but my mom and dh swear they have a feeling that she'll be here in October. Too easy. I think she'll keep me uncomfortable for the whole month of October, LOL. You're so close, and that person is just a mental case. Try not to let her get to you.

 

docbytch - September 23

You are right Mrs Steve...but I can't help being a little superst_tious (science background and all). Here my little boy is kicking around inside me and someone has wished a horrible thing to happen to him. He is a precious baby who doesn't deserve such evil thoughts. It makes me want to cry my eyes out. If anything happens to him....I cannot fathom what that would do to me or my DH....especially in light of recent things stated . Like she'd put a hex on me or something....I dunno. This sounds illogical I know but geesh. The things she said are not things to joke about....at all. Anyway...like I stated before....you are most certainly..NOT alone. I am more creeped out than ever now. I am seeing the doc once a week and sometimes twice a week. She's keeping a very good eye on me. This boy is big....let's just hope he is healthy and happy. The same goes for you and your baby girl. We love them so much already!!!

 

Mrs.Steve - September 23

I am soooooo superst_tious, too! I'm afraid of enjoying my pregnancy or being excited only to have her taken from me. That person didn't even say that to me, and it scared me as well, so I know how you feel! Your baby boy is and will be just fine! Ive seen alot of mean people on this forum, but that is the cruelest thing I've ever seen posted! You have to be a truly disturbed person to wish such a thing on an innocent child. Right now, I can say that if she ever addressed me, I would do my best not to respond. Though, it's hard not to get worked up and argue with people on here. I've gotten so worked up on here, to the point where my bp rises and my whole body tenses. She sounds INSANE, and honestly I wouldn't even want to be anywhere near a conversation with her. You have alot of support here. I think you're one of the nicest people here and alot of people here have an tremendous amount of respect for you. Don't let one person overshadow that even alittle bit.

 

docbytch - September 24

Mrs Steve Thank you for your kindness. I read your baby shower thread...there were some odd comments too so I know this forum can get a little intense at times. Most people have tact at least... In the meantime...the first thing I do when I wake up every day is sit around and wait for my baby to kick me. He usually does within 15 mins or so. DH and I saw his face closeup on US last week....he smacked his lips for us...it was very cute. He looks like a cross between my own dd and my dh's dd...or my dsd. I wish you luck on your shower! All we can do is come here and hear other people's stories. Most of us tend to be pretty kind-hearted. Anyway...odd how this part of the pregnancy has been by far the suckiest!!

 

Mrs.Steve - September 24

Yeah, it really has sucked. I just want it to be over. It's funny how we can be so deeply affected by the things we read here. I feel better knowing that someone understands.. I'm like you, the first thing I do when I get up is wait for my baby to kick. I also do it in the middle of the night when I go to the bathroom a million times. My baby is most active after I have juice or food. That really wakes her up. Is that abnormal? When she's quiet, cold cranberry juice is the first thing I turn to.

 

docbytch - September 24

No it's normal. When I go in for my weekly NSTs they give me cold water to drink to get my baby moving... altho my kiddo is very active a lot of the time anyway! I seem to hear that Boys are often more squirmy than girls

 

Mrs.Steve - September 24

My baby isn't and has never really been what I would consider to be active. She moves just enough and that's it. My mom said that I was the same way. I don't remember my dd being that active, either. When this baby decides to get active, it sure does get painful and she doesn't stop moving the next few hours after that. And it's usually after I've woken her up with cold juice at 4am. It's almost like she's saying "well, Mom, it serves you right waking me up. I need rest just like you!" This poor baby is going to be cranky, stressed out and sleep-deprived by the time she's born, LOL.

 

docbytch - September 24

Oh I get you on the hurt part. It feels all bruised in there when my boy gets going...sometimes I am doubled over in pain from it. He is almost 9 pounds already from the US measurements so I guess there's a good reason for it to hurt!!! My dd was 9lbs at birth...but that was 41 weeks....not 36 weeks!! My recollection of her pregnancy was that she did not move anything as much as this guy has. But my DH is sort of a hyperhead himself...my dd's father was much mellower. That could be part of it too.

 

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