I Need Your Opinions

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babyonboard16 - February 9

Okay basically I'm really frustrated. I'm an overweight person, and when they weighed me, one of the nurses looked at my boyfriend and said girlfriend gained some weight huh? Not only last time she said Christmas must have been good to you, which I will admit, the appointment after Christmas I had gained a little more than I should have, but I did pretty well this time. Anyways I had my GD test that day as well, and my boyfriend PRETENDED to take a drink of the drink, he didn't take one, the nurse practioner came in demanding to know how much he drank of it and threatende to kick him. I have had many other troubles with my doctor's office but I really don't want to switch this late in my pregnancy. On the other hand I want to do a home birth but I've had some complications earlier in my pregnancy, that would make that dangerous. I DO NOT know what to do. As any of you know, being picked on while pregnant is never a nice thing to happen, and I didn't need to hear it. Just tell me what you would do please, and help would be wonderful


cindernar - February 9

How far along are you? If you're not comfortable, it may be worth it to switch. That nurse sounds absolutely freaking rude! I would have been p__sed too. Just about every pregnant woman I know is very conscious of her weight gain, and we don't need snooty nurses pointing out the obvious. Good luck with your decision.


babyonboard16 - February 9

I'm 28 weeks and 4 days, unfortunately I may have to go back in a matter of an hour or so and get another rho-gam shot, joyous, and with my luck she;'ll be the one to give it to me. Ugh this sucks.


MichelleB - February 9

Complain to the doctor. I am sure the doctor would appreciate hearing that you are unconfortable how the nurse is treating you.


Gretta - February 9

Aw don't let some wicked nurse make you feel bad. I have had some rude nurses on the phone a few times. I have complained to my doctor before not my OB but my GI doc about his nurse and he was really concerned. They have no idea sometimes how thier staff is behaving. Just tell him she made some insensative comments about your weight and it made you feel bad. Hang in there!


cindernar - February 9

That's true; the doctor may have no clue about how this nurse is treating peole. Chances are you're not the only one. Any decent doctor would want to know this


babyonboard16 - February 9

I had to go in today and get the rho-gam shot and she was the one who gave it to me, and said something along the lines of I can't believe you're actually showing, I don't know whether she realizes how cruel she can be, or if she's fully aware and thinks it's the right thing to do.


Faye84 - February 9

was it the nurse that said something or the doctor? If it was the nurse you need to let the doc know, they could get into alot of trouble for saying that. Or if youd rather play it differently say something rude to her. I cant stand people that are like that, im really sorry that they are treating you this way. I wish that everyone could have my doc. shes great and she tries to make every situation positive.


MommyMeg07 - February 9

She threatened to KICK him? OMG that is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I am so sorry that this is happening to you!! Gosh, women are already emotional during pregnancy and we are stressed out about a lot of things! I can't believe they would treat you this way... and there's no excuse for a MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL to make any crude remark about your weight... if you gained too much in that month (well, first of all you're preggo so I think they don't care as much) but you doctor would talk to you about it - not a freaking technician. I don't really know how to advise you on this.. I mean, I'm sure people have told you to say something to them about making you uncomfortable - but I am totally unconfrontational and wouldn't be able to do that. It might be worth the switch if you're able to. I hope it gets better!!!


MommyMeg07 - February 9

I just read everyone else's answers - it IS a good idea to talk to the doctor about it... that's a good point. Especially if you like your DOCTOR, just not the nurse. I think you'd be able to change at 28 weeks without too much of a problem.


babyonboard16 - February 9

I am going to look into the insurance, luckily we haven't paid anything torwards the hospital yet. Anywho My doctor has been rude off an on too, so maybe this is the final straw and I'll get in with a good caring doctor.


goosifer101 - February 11

Girl, you have alot more patience than I do. With my Preg hormones, I would have kicked her! She should know better than to mess with a pregnant woman. Maybe you could gather some other prego's that go there and you could get together and confront her in the alley. Like a gang of the prego's. You could all take turns sitting on her to show just how much weight us pregnant women do gain :) Sorry, its the hormones. But, I would so love to do that for you!


babyonboard16 - February 11

goosifer lol sounds like a great plan, I actually have a pregnant friend locally, It's gotten to the poiint I'm dreading having my daughter because I don't want to have to deal with that hospital in general



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