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Cassie06 - July 27th, 2006 5:38 PM

Ok, so I went to the dr today and am even more upset. Today he told me that I hadnt made any progress since my appt last week. Last week he told me I was 50% effaced and 1 cm dilated. Sunday I went to the hospital and they told me I was 80% effaced and 2 cm dilated. He said I hadnt. They told me it would probably just be a few days before I had the baby. My dr told me it would probably be 10 days at least. WTF? Why are all these professionals so far off? Does anyone really know what they are talking about? I am so much more depressed now. This is the first time I have gotten out of bed today, and I think I am going back. I just dont see the point! The dr said that walking, sex, spicy food, etc. nothing really works. So I dont see the point in wearing myself out if it isnt doing anything. Also, my dr was really rough with my internal. Ever since I left his office my clitoris has been numb and just feels really weird. I am not sure what is up with that, and I have never felt anything like that before!! What is it? Has anyone else ever experienced it?

LollyM - July 27th, 2006 5:54 PM

That is so frustrating! I think it can be really hard for anyone to really know when a baby will come, but I can't believe that that nurse told you were making progress if you weren't! I would call the hospital and talk to her supervisor if I were you! It sounds like you are going through the same thing that happened to me. I got contractions for 3 days straight and they wouldn't go away no matter what I did and after going to the hospital for the THIRD time in three days, my Dr. finally told me that I wasn't in labor. I just started crying right there in the room. I was so tired and frustrated! Are you still having contractions all the time? Your dr. can probably give you Ambian to sleep through them and it will help to get some REAL rest... not just the between contractions type. Anyway, just try to remember that it IS possible that you could be in real labor at any time now regardless of what any health professional thinks so just try to stay positive and maybe go out to do something tonight. That's what I've been doing and it really helps to pass the days along. About the numb clitoris... I don't really know what that is about. Sounds kind of strange... maybe he moved the baby's head a bit and he is now resting on a nerve. try moving your belly around with your hands and see if you can get the baby to change position and see if that helps. Take care and don't let yourself get to down ok. If you are tired then sleep but otherwise try getting up and going out with some friends or dh or even your fam. If you talk to them about your frustration and then go have a good time somewhere it will be sure to lift your spirits =)

crimson4154 - July 27th, 2006 9:56 PM

The last few exams have been pretty rough for me too. I think we tend to compare them to our regular OB appts and this is so different. Keep in mind he really has to reach the cervix, and generally they literally try to seek out an opening. My OB keeps saying how tough my cervix is and I think he probes on it to really get a feel for how far along it can be. Not pleasant but I think the exams tend to be pretty uncomfortable at this point. (I'm 40 weeks and 2 days now and really wants something to move in there!) As for the clitoris, maybe LollyM is right... maybe your OB poked on a nerve somehow or the baby has shifted a bit.
As for feeling depressed, maybe that is quite normal. I just passed the date too, and it feels kinda unfair!!! We are looking forward to see our babies so much and the constant questions around us "is the baby not here yet?" is a bit draining. Hang in there and keep your mind on the soft little baby you'll be holding very soon!

Cassie06 - July 28th, 2006 2:17 PM

Thanks for your responses. Lolly, yes I am still having contractions very frequently, and they are painful and make it hard to get comfortable to eat or sleep or anything else. (I know these contractions are nothing compared to what I will feel in actual labor, but they still hurt!) I took some tylenol pm last night and actually got some rest. It was great! I dont really feel like talking to any of my friends or family, because all I ever hear is "Is the baby here yet?" "Why havent you had the baby?" "When are you having the baby?" It makes me want to scream!! I fell asleep yesterday for 2 hours and woke up to 11 missed calls on my phone!! Its exhausting!!


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