Why Do People Not Buy Things On Your Registry

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Katie - February 13

Im upset about this but not sure if I should be, I dont want to be a snot but two of my good friends pitched in together to get me a present(which is fine) but I might be taken it back cause it's a $30 present that I may not need and could go get something else. Well I looked on the web and saw where they got it, it was on sale for $17.99 and that kind of upsets me that they both had to pitch in on that when they are two of my really good friends. I had two girls there that didn't know me as well and they went well over $30 on each of there gifts. I know this probably sounds so snotty but It makes me so angry plus one of the girls who pitched in didn't show up cause she had no hot water to take a shower and the other showed up like she just rolled out of bed. She had one black sock on then the other was hot pink. What kind of people am I friends with? Do you think Im being rediculous?

 

katie - February 13

Sorry I didn't mean to put the t_tle question like it is I originally was going to write about something else.

 

katie - February 13

Also would it be wrong to say something to them. One about how one was dressed and to the other about not showing up. Do I say something about the gift.

 

mel - February 13

My absolute honest opinion is....it's the thought that counts. it's usually not a good idea to start checking out prices of gifts you've received becuase of the exact feelings you are having right now. (I realize you couldn't help it in your case because you are considering taking the gift back). but you never know what your friends money situation might be like at this time. Regardless of how close you are or how much they love you, when you don't have any money......you don't have any money. as for your friends showing up to (or not showing up to) the shower. it seems that you are upset for one of them not showing up because they thought they would look bad due to no hot water and you're upset at the other one for showing up looking bad. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to say your feelins or invalid or anything. I'm pregnant too, BELIEVE ME, I know how easy it is to get upset over things right now. but maybe instead of focusing on the few things that upset you about the shower, try to think about all the good things you got and the fun you had at the shower. I hope this helps a little.

 

bean - February 13

No. You be a gracious Mom-to-be, say thank you for the gift, send a thank you note to each of them, and just smile. You also file it away in the back of your mind and know that when it comes to their wedding or baby showers, you are not obligated to break the bank or hey, even show up. Saying something will not change what happened, but it may ruin whatever friendship you do have with these women. You could say to the one that didn't make it "sorry we missed you" - but say it nicely, not sarcastically.

 

Katie - February 13

I know you guys are right. The money situation though isn't tight for them because they let me know every weekend about what they blew at the bar and what kind of drugs they are buying.good friends I know. but yeah I'll just sit back and keep my thoughts to myself.

 

mel - February 13

I like Bean's idea. just file it away for future use! :-P what goes around DOES come around!

 

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