Husband Wants To Stop Trying For #2

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Mamaofone12 - July 20

my husband and I got pregnant at a young age. We were 20. Now, we have a healthy 2 year old. Well, for the past two months we have been trying to conceive baby number two. Yesterday he has sprung on me that he isn't ready. He said he's scared that we won't be able to do it. 

My problem with this is I am so heart broken now since we have been actively trying. I have goals for my life, too. As bad as it sounds, I don't want to be a stay at home mom forever. I would like to have 2 kids close in age so that I can go back to school and start a job. He said he wants to wait until our son is 4 but to me it's now or never. I really would prefer not to start over with a newborn. That would only prolong my dream to go back to school. So my question is, am I being selfish? I'm so completely heart broken. I don't even want to have sex with my husband because it is tearing me apart. 

 

FloraRustin88 - May 19

Wel, it's just a difference of opinion...Don't feel bad about it. Well, you guys just have to decide what's better age difference should be for your both children. Stay strong! Solve it rationally. I think 4 years is fine. Rest is up to you. Stay calm! 

 

Catherine1214 - May 19

The fear of becoming mom for the second time usually happens in the women. They are scared of the failed conceptrions, pregnancy complications and also the fears of handling a new child once he is in the world. There is no reason of your hubby getting scared. You are deaperate to have a second one and your husband is scared. I think instead of getting confused and frustrated, it is better to talk to your partner. Sometimes conversations can make the things better. I wish you all the best in this journey of parenthood.

 

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