Plagued by Pregnancy Worries? Our Readers Write!

Name: mc • Due Date: 09/17/2008

I am a 5 weeks 2 days pregnant and worried to death! I go for my first ultrasound next week and am praying that everything looks good and maybe we can hear a heart beat. I had a miscarriage about 4 years ago. My husband and I have been trying for the last 2 years and are really excited about this pregnancy. Starting yesterday were these minor cramps in my lower abdomen - not really like a period cramp but just a little hint of a cramp. I have had no bleeding at all...thank God. I couldn't stop crying yesterday. I know it's probably horomonal and I should let myself worry. I'm just scared something is going to happen. I relaly want this pregnancy to work out. And I have been blessed with NO morning sickness...yet. I've had 4 positive results on a HPT, breasts were very tender but are now just a little tender - nothing like before. I'm feeling tired somewhat in the afternoons and my emotions are running wild! Any words of encouragement would be helpful and appreciated. And of course any prayers too.

Name: leanneteach • Due Date: 08/04/2008

My worst fear is having a miscarriage or dealing with a child with special needs. I don't know if I'm capable.

Name: Jade • Due Date: 05/15/2007

I had a miscarriage in January of this year at 11 weeks. I was having problems from day one, constantly bleeding and cramping, so sick that I could barely stand up for more than 20 minutes at a time, and twice weekly trips to the hospital for heavy bleeding/clotting... We weren't surprised when we learned that we had miscarried because we feared we would all along. Still though, we were devistated. I found out a few weeks ago that I'm pregnant again. My mother keeps telling me that we should have waited since we had so many problems before, and since I had to have 2 surgeries (in add. to the D&E) to "empty" my uterus the last time because it kept filling up with blood clots. The pregnancy was a total nightmare and I'm scared to death that it's going to happen again. We're trying not to get too attached this time since we already had names picked out, clothes, toys, and a savings account set up for baby. I'm trying not to let what happened last time ruin my happiness but I can't deal with another heart break so soon. It's only been 9 months since we lost our baby- and if the doctor is right we actually conceived this baby on the due date of our first. I want to tell my family and friends but I want to be sure that this one's going to make it, and we're also worried about what they might say- especially since my grandfather said to me the last time "I'm sorry you lost the baby. I was excited when I found out I was going to have my first great grandchild... but I hope you learned your lesson." My boy friend and I have been together for 4 years and we both just recently graduated from college. We want to break the news but we didn't tell most of our family the last time because of all the problems, and we're sure that some of them will not share our happiness because we are young and not married yet. I don't want to have to deal with any negativity because the last thing we need is one more thing to ruin our happiness. I was hoping to tell them all around Christmas time when we know for sure if everything will be okay.I wonder if it's selfish of us to keep the pregnancy a secret from our family to avoid more unneeded stress and negativity because we fear we might miscarry again...

Name: fox • Due Date: 04/07/2007

Our sweet 3 month old baby in the uterus has too much fluid around its neck and body. Has anyone else experienced this? We have been praying and believing for a miracle and it does not have any other abnormalities??

Name: Jessica • Due Date: 11/22/2007

This is my first pregnancy that continued past 12 weeks. I have had 3 miscarriages. When my partner and I told my in-laws that I was pregnant his mother and grandmother insisted on moving in. Things were fine until my doctor recommended that I leave my stressful job. Now I am 30 weeks and things are really going downhill. I am forced to stay home everyday leaving only to go to doctors appointments. My spouse went back to school and is exhausted everyday from the pressures of work and studies. So far my in-laws have taken all the fun out of being pregnant. I am criticized for even having a cookie or going out to walk my dog. Grama picked out my daughter's name and wouldn't consider any others. My closet was picked clean of anything confortable and decent looking only to be replaced by large homely outfits and gowns. I know they are trying to help but I am having trouble dealing with their inconsiderate behavior when it comes to making decisions about my child. It's no to breastfeeding and yes to bottles because that's the way all the women do it in their family.

Name: kathleen j robinson • Due Date: 11/08/2007

I get pains in the heart durning preganacny - I'm not sure if others do or not