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Hey Chantal and Jonelle: Chantal - so glad to hear you've gotten a new diagnosis and are attacking the situation! Fingers crossed that this is just the "fix" your body needed. And if painting a mural for the baby's room keeps you focused and happy, then do it! Positive thoughts bring positive thoughts. And Jonelle -- it's incredible how insensitive people can be around infertility issues. You must want to just kick the crud out of your husband's cousin -- and mother in law! I'm sorry you have to hear all that and suffer through the "why her and not me" mental torture. We had a similar situation with my first miscarriage -- my husband's sister who is 39 and going through a mid-life crisis (just up and divorced her AWESOME husband because she wanted to sleep around and re-live her 20s) accidentally got pregnant around the same time I had my first pregnancy. At first, she wasn't even sure which of her many boyfriends might be the father. And then she sat around for about 5 weeks and actually debated whether or not to carry the baby to term -- even though she already has 2 young kids that she could care less about (my husband and I had to buy her kids clothes for Xmas because they didn't have any that fit; she spends all her money on herself). Finally, she decided to abort the baby and then had the nerve -- a week after I miscarried -- to tell me she wished she could have given her baby to me! There are so many things wrong with that situation, the least of which being that she'd had a miscarriage before having her first child -- so she knows how awful it feels. And how can you be 39 and already have had 3 pregnancies and not want anymore kids and be sleeping around and STILL "accidentally" get pregnant? She's college educated and has a high-paying job and successful career -- but a complete moron! Anyway, sorry to vent -- but totally feel your pain on the incredible sensitivity of families around this stuff, and the absolute unfairness that people who have no business getting pregnant seem to do so easily and quickly. But I do believe we are all here to learn our own individual lessons, and no doubt about it, you two are learning patience and strength, amongst other things. Keep us posted!

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