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I also had a 3rd degree tear with my first child. She is now 9 weeks old and I still have constant pain in my rectum. I went back to my Ob/Gyn and he acted like it wasn't a big deal. He did finally refer me to a colorectal specialist. I have an appointment on Jan. 12 and we will see what he says. I am very angry about this because I begged for a c-section because I knew she was going to be large. I am a small person and I was afraid that she was going to get stuck or that I was going to tear badly which I did. The doctors did finally agree to my c-section but when they were going over all the things that can go wrong they scared my husband half to death. (which I think that they were trying to do) So then he didn't want me to do it. So I didn't which now I regret!!! But I felt like it was his baby too, so I did what he wanted me to do. But noone knows my body better than me and I knew she was too big for me. I also am very angry at him, I know that he didn't want me to get hurt, but I still blame him for what happened. It's not just the pain as it is the mental and emotional damage it has caused. I feel deformed, mangled and ruined. All of this could have been avoided if everyone had just listened to me. I feel like I was just an incubator and no one cared about how I felt or what I wanted. I knew all the risks with a c-section I did my homework. Women actually have more problems with vaginal deliveries than they do with c-sections. If you want info on c-sections, you should readThe Essential C-Section Guide: Pain Control, Healing at Home, Getting Your Body Back, and Everything Else You Need to Know About a Cesarean Birth by Maureen Connolly , Dana Sullivan. I told my husband we will not have anymore children unless I have a c-section, which my doctors have now said that I should have. I know it sounds like I am just a whiner but I'm really not. I had morning sickness thru my whole pregnancy I threw up everyday, all day for 33 weeks. I was throwing up while I was pushing. I had back labor so bad that I was hitting my knees as we were getting ready to go to the hospital. But I would do all that again, but I will not have a vaginal birth again and risk tearing as bad or worse. I feel like my birth experience was ruined because I instantly was depressed when they told me I had a third degree tear. I think that I would have rather had a c-section with no anesthesia than to go through all of this. At this that would have been over with quickly and I would be healed by now. Now I have to go see a specialist and there is no end in sight. Some of you guys are still having pain after years since your deliveries!!! Hopefully I hear good news when I see the specialist. If and when I have another baby I am definately having a c-section!!!

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