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Ali6996, I to debated whether or not to have a vaginal or a csection delivery with my first baby. I really wanted to have a csection towards the end because I was afraid that she was to big for me,(i'm on the small size too) but my husband was afraid of the surgery so he wanted me to have a vaginal birth. So I did what my husband and doctors suggested and tried to go vaginally. I suffered a third degree tear and a broken tail bone. I had a lot of stitches so I actually was tighter afterwards so sex was terribly painful and still is six months later. I also had to see a colorectal specialist because the tear ran through the my bottom and I had some incontinence issues. After the delivery I couldnt get out of bed on my own for nearly 2 weeks because it would pull on my stitches. My tail bone still hurts. I also get vaginal pains quite often. The colorectal specialist says I should have a csection next time. I also spent the first 8 weeks very angry and upset with my husband because I blamed him because I did what he wanted and not what I wanted. I am still not fully recoverd. Also I have a scar down there inside and out and that bothers me a lot even though no one sees it. My husband feels it, its very rigid inside now. I have friends who have had multiple csections and they were fully recovered a lot quicker than me with a lot less complications. My advice to you is for you to do what you want and not what anyone else wants. Then if something does happen it will have been your decision. I still have issues with my husband because he didnt support me in what i wanted. If I had had a csection I feel that Iwouldnt have these problems.Every person is differnt you have to decide whats best for you.

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