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After reading your fears, it completely echo's my own, and I'm glad I found this site. I'm 27, and definately thinking about it. The thought of having a baby, and being pregnant doesn't scare me - its the whole process on getting the baby out. It's not the pain factor, its the thought of being ripped in half. In addition I'm scared about how a vaginal birth would effect my love life thereafter. Sure they SAY that it tightens back up, but after a watermelon comes out of there, I think there is no going back. Secondly, my gyno scared the shit out of me after I had had a biopsy (which turned out to be completely normal) and some surgery on my periannum (where I had a fissure and what they thought was dystrophy - but thats a longer story). I'm apparently "small" and he said that once i have a baby I would be completely changed! What the heck does that mean? I don't want to no longer be able to enjoy intimacy with my hubby. And... Ceasarean sections have their own risks, and not to mention the nasty scar thereafter... I've never been close with my mom, and none of my close gf's have ever had kids, and the doc only scares me, so... I'm totally at a loss for getting any good advice. Are any of you recent mom's open to providing some more insight into this? I've read the books but it hasn't helped me.

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