Pregnancy Info HOME

Well, man, I'm not going to sugarcoat it. Just leave her alone. I mean how much worse could it get? I feel for you but I mean if you constantly contacting her only pushes her away, you're probably better off just giving her the space she is asking for. Now I know that that is easier said than done, believe me, I know. But, now in the meantime, you need to focus on bettering yourself for the baby's benefit. Do you want to be able to be there for your baby when he/she is born or do you only want to be a part of the baby's life if she is willing to take you back? You will probably need to work on getting off the alcohol and weed because you definitely don't want the baby exposed to any of that. You have to be prepared if you do want to have the privelidge of being a part of the baby's life. If she doesn't want you to be able to see the baby, you can't give her reason to prove you are an unfit father because you drink or smoke pot. I hope it doesn't come to that but you would need to kick those habits anyway even if you 2 were going through this together. This is just some of the ramifications of having sex before marriage or unprotected sex and an unplanned pregnancy. Your life is forever changed, I'm a perfect example of that. I'm not judging you because I have been there. I ,too, was into the drugs and drinking when my ex got pregnant with our 1st child but we did get married but it was only because she was pregnant that we got married when we did. All I can say is don't give her reason to be able to accuse you of anything that would make a court(if it comes to that) rule that you could not have some sort of custody of your child. I pray she does come around long before she is to deliver the baby so you can be there for that. It is an awesome experience that you will not forget to watch your baby being born and know that the baby is part you and part her and God just blessed the 2 of you and gave you a life and expects you to do the best you can in raising him/her. I encourage you to not give up on your baby but for now, just leave your gf alone. I think the only things I would ask her are when her doctor appointments are and how those went. I mean you have to be able to know how the baby is doing. To sum it all up, live your life now as if you 2 are never getting back together and now you are living to one day be the best father you can be. You have to do kind of what I am doing and that is to forget about what you want and focus on what is best for the baby. Believe it or not, your gf ,although she is hurting you terribly ,is really making a real man out of you because if you do the right thing, you are putting the baby's needs first regardless of what happens to you. You will need to put the baby's needs ahead of your desires. That is being a man in every sense of the word. If I can do it ,you can do it. It is not easy, but I am praying for you so do not give up. God bless you, man.

reply