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it's hard maintaining friendships when the things you had in common change. most of the friends i had pre-baby i speak with only occasionally or only via email/online networking. it's slightly different in my case, though, because my husband and i moved 45 minutes away shortly before getting pregnant, so we'd already started drifting. we're the only one in our group of friends with children and i'm pretty sure no one else is interested at this point in trying. they're mostly the type that party 3-5 nights a week.

if the friendships are important to you, you'll have to work hard to maintain them. and, i know it's hard, because your lo is the center of your world, but try talking about something other than poop, feeding, and other baby things. really try to ask about how your childless friends lives are doing and really listen. if your friends are good ones, they'll try to ask about what's important to you, too. :\

in the end, you also have to realize when there's no going back. sometimes friendships end and it's just a natural thing. people drift apart over time and sometimes it's best to just let it happen and find friends with similar interests.

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