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If he wants to be involved then you should let him. He may not treat you well but that doesn't mean he can't be a good father. Also your daughter should not be made to suffer cos her mother/father made a bad judgement. The father of my child is not a "model citizen" but i wouldn't dream of keeping him from our son and i believe that if he truely is a bad person my son will see that in his own time and make his own decisions. I do not want to be the person to hold him back. Having said that (and because i know people like to rip you to shreds on this forum) of course that excludes circumstances where the father is aggressive or abusive and having him apart of his childs life will be dangerous or harmful. But I would expect that if that was the case you would know that already and wouldn't be asking your question. And i think that you will be an absolutely fabulous mother, the fact that you state that you don't want to hurt his wife shows to me that you are kind and considerate and more than capable of putting others first-a quality i think is essential in raising a child. But your not really the one hurting her, he chose this situation. Goodluck hawaiianangel! I hope you have a gorgeous healthy little girl that brings you all the joy and love you deserve.

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